My dad told me girls like guys who annoy them. Is this true?

[User-Unknown]

I'm a nice caring guy and my dad told me that girls don't go for guys like me, they go for guys who are annoying. The girl I like is shy and seems more outgoing to other guys other than me. This girl dusted the pants of the guy I think she likes, always talks to him and gives him full eye contact when talking (she actually gives full eye contact to everyone except to me looking at me from the side of her eye and responding to me). This guy always annoys this girl. My dad knows about this guy and tells me that there is something going on between them and she doesn't like me because girls like guys who annoy them. But if she is shy why would she give full eye contact and brush her hand on his pants. I just don't understand. Please help.

[CharlieHorse]

complete and utter bullshit.
maybe even as bad as cowshit
or horseshit to some degree


every girl is different, and human. You're also human. Would you like people annoying you?
Be friends with her. That's all you can do. If she doesn't like you, then that's that. If she likes you, then great.

[User-Unknown]

complete and utter bullshit.
maybe even as bad as cowshit
or horseshit to some degree


every girl is different, and human. You're also human. Would you like people annoying you?
Be friends with her. That's all you can do. If she doesn't like you, then that's that. If she likes you, then great.

Well, all everyone does is tells me to tell her I like her. WELL I CAN'T. She has exams coming up and I don't want to disturb her exams. Her parents have a positive view on me (so it seems, her parents always smile whenever they see me and even talk sometimes). Her sister talks to me.

All of her friends who I have told I like this girl have all told me to wait until after her exams. Everyone on these forums have told me to tell her. I can't, I have to wait, at least all I need is some confidence as to if she likes me back so I can grow my confidence. I am friends with her, always there for her to talk to, but she hardly ever does. She talks to everyone else but hardly talks to me. But I am friends with her, I've spoken to her enough about her, she can't talk about much about her now and my life is not interesting at all for me to talk to her about myself.

[CharlieHorse]

Well, all everyone does is tells me to tell her I like her. WELL I CAN'T. She has exams coming up and I don't want to disturb her exams. Her parents have a positive view on me (so it seems, her parents always smile whenever they see me and even talk sometimes). Her sister talks to me.

All of her friends who I have told I like this girl have all told me to wait until after her exams. Everyone on these forums have told me to tell her. I can't, I have to wait, at least all I need is some confidence as to if she likes me back so I can grow my confidence.

then tell her after the exams. but do tell her. It may seem like a big thing, but in the big scheme of things, it's fine if she doesn't like you like that. She probably will though. :P

[User-Unknown]

then tell her after the exams. but do tell her. It may seem like a big thing, but in the big scheme of things, it's fine if she doesn't like you like that. She probably will though. :P

How would you know if she will probably like me. All the girls I've liked have all rejected me and lost them as friends. Don't want to do that with this girl cause I see her every weekend in my group event. Even then, all girls I like go for the dick head guys. I have always given up, I've given up again. I know again if I tell her I like her she will tell me she likes this other guy and not me and it will be likes all the other girls I've liked. Don't think girls want to even care about nice caring guys. They care about looks and stupid guys. But yet again something is pushing me to her, because some part of me is telling me she likes me and I have a chance.

But like usual… I will give up and avoid it all. :(

[CharlieHorse]

How would you know if she will probably like me. All the girls I've liked have all rejected me and lost them as friends. Don't want to do that with this girl cause I see her every weekend in my group event. Even then, all girls I like go for the dick head guys. I have always given up, I've given up again. I know again if I tell her I like her she will tell me she likes this other guy and not me and it will be likes all the other girls I've liked. Don't think girls want to even care about nice caring guys. They care about looks and stupid guys. But yet again something is pushing me to her, because some part of me is telling me she likes me and I have a chance.

But like usual… I will give up and avoid it all. :(

You have two options:

-Give up. She may be the girl of your dreams. She might be the perfect girl for you, and she might like you. But you're not going to try because you doubt it. This choice offers nothing but sadness for a period of time. I've done this too much, and it's always led to more depression. not good.

-Tell her you like her. She might like you back and booom: relationship. If not, then guess what? You two can still be friends and go on in life. Tell her you still want to be her friend regardless and that you understand her feelings. I've done it multiple times, and have found that admitting you like them can help strengthen the friendship. You'll then find another girl in the future who is a better fit. This choice offers possible love, friendship, and/or a possible better relationship in the future. Also this option spares the unnecessary sadness as long as you can accept her for not liking you if on the slim chance she doesn't.

[User-Unknown]

You have two options:

-Give up. She may be the girl of your dreams. She might be the perfect girl for you, and she might like you. But you're not going to try because you doubt it. This choice offers nothing but sadness for a period of time. I've done this too much, and it's always led to more depression. not good.

-Tell her you like her. She might like you back and booom: relationship. If not, then guess what? You two can still be friends and go on in life. Tell her you still want to be her friend regardless and that you understand her feelings. I've done it multiple times, and have found that admitting you like them can help strengthen the friendship. You'll then find another girl in the future who is a better fit. This choice offers possible love, friendship, and/or a possible better relationship in the future. Also this option spares the unnecessary sadness as long as you can accept her for not liking you if on the slim chance she doesn't.

Well you don't know that all the girls I've told I liked, got rejected and told them I want to stay friends with… GUESS WHAT… ALL THEIR FRIENDSHIPS ENDED… Poof, finished.

[CharlieHorse]

Well you don't know that all the girls I've told I liked, got rejected and told them I want to stay friends with… GUESS WHAT… ALL THEIR FRIENDSHIPS ENDED… Poof, finished.

like I said, every girl is different.
I guess you're going to have to make the choice.
Does the chances of losing the friendship with her (which has to be judged by you... I recommend trying to clear your mind before doing so) outweigh the chance of strengthening the friendship and/or being in a relationship if she likes you?

I recommend you give it a shot from the right angle, which would be after exams and stuff.

[User-Unknown]

like I said, every girl is different.
I guess you're going to have to make the choice.
Does the chances of losing the friendship with her (which has to be judged by you... I recommend trying to clear your mind before doing so) outweigh the chance of strengthening the friendship and/or being in a relationship if she likes you?

Also, the guy who told me signs mean nothing and to be careful at telling her I like her has really got me thinking. Also, the fact that I'm always positive and then being told that the girl doesn't like me back, is horrible. I'm never positive in anything anymore. Never happy in my life at all. I just don't understand why all girls are scared of me and end friendships with me if I like them. It gets me thinking that I'm a monster, no one cares for me (including my parents). It really hurts. :cry:

Its now why I always give up in a heap of things. No support and help. Its why i've used there forums from the beginning. A few of my first threads were on if she likes me, everyone told me to just tell her. No one knows how my life is, if I have any brothers or sisters, if I have any support at all and all everyone says is just tell her. If I had brothers and sisters, I know they would have helped me and cared for what I have to say.

I have no one. :cry: My friends away from this group event don't know this girl (Only one friend away from the group, that is all). He can't help and support me, and I understand why.

[CosmicNoodle]

complete and utter bullshit.
maybe even as bad as cowshit
or horseshit to some degree


every girl is different, and human. You're also human. Would you like people annoying you?
Be friends with her. That's all you can do. If she doesn't like you, then that's that. If she likes you, then great.

Word for word, your dads spewing bullshit.

[OrKing]

Don't take my words as fact but she probably already knows you like her. If as many people know as I'm assuming do from what you've written there is no way word wouldn't have gotten back to her. Students gossip like all hell. Anyway, that might explain the lack of eye contact as well, maybe her knowing you like her makes her a little nervous around you.

Oh, and I also think your dad is full of shit. In my experience girls don't like annoying guys.

It also sounds like you need a little more confidence mate, but I know it's not that easy, so fake it the best you can. Fake it till it's real. Humans like confidence.

[User-Unknown]

Don't take my words as fact but she probably already knows you like her. If as many people know as I'm assuming do from what you've written there is no way word wouldn't have gotten back to her. Students gossip like all hell. Anyway, that might explain the lack of eye contact as well, maybe her knowing you like her makes her a little nervous around you.

Oh, and I also think your dad is full of shit. In my experience girls don't like annoying guys.

It also sounds like you need a little more confidence mate, but I know it's not that easy, so fake it the best you can. Fake it till it's real. Humans like confidence.

If she did know. By now, I would know someone told her by her actions. She's stayed normal, stayed as shy as she usually is around me.

[OrKing]

Then maybe she likes you to, won't know until you ask mate, don't torture yourself with the uncertainty. Just get it done, and if she doesn't see you that way all you got to keep in mind or even say is "It's cool, I don't see all my female friends that way either, shit happens." and move on to the next chick you start liking. I know it can hurt emotionally mate and you've got to be quite strong to keep your confidence through rejection, but take comfort at least in the fact that it truly is a simple process.

[User-Unknown]

Then maybe she likes you to, won't know until you ask mate, don't torture yourself with the uncertainty. Just get it done, and if she doesn't see you that way all you got to keep in mind or even say is "It's cool, I don't see all my female friends that way either, shit happens." and move on to the next chick you start liking. I know it can hurt emotionally mate and you've got to be quite strong to keep your confidence through rejection, but take comfort at least in the fact that it truly is a simple process.

I'm fine with being rejected, it's losing her as a friend which I hate. It's always happened and that's the worst. Being rejected is nothing.

[User-Unknown]

like I said, every girl is different.
I guess you're going to have to make the choice.
Does the chances of losing the friendship with her (which has to be judged by you... I recommend trying to clear your mind before doing so) outweigh the chance of strengthening the friendship and/or being in a relationship if she likes you?

I recommend you give it a shot from the right angle, which would be after exams and stuff.

Word for word, your dads spewing bullshit.

Then maybe she likes you to, won't know until you ask mate, don't torture yourself with the uncertainty. Just get it done, and if she doesn't see you that way all you got to keep in mind or even say is "It's cool, I don't see all my female friends that way either, shit happens." and move on to the next chick you start liking. I know it can hurt emotionally mate and you've got to be quite strong to keep your confidence through rejection, but take comfort at least in the fact that it truly is a simple process.

Also, i've been telling myself she likes someone else. Whenever I do I get the feeling I'm wrong and feel part of me feels its not right she likes someone else. I don't understand why, but when I tell myself she likes me I feel that I'm right and feel its right that she likes me. Can someone explain why I'm having this feeling?

[CharlieHorse]

Also, i've been telling myself she likes someone else. Whenever I do I get the feeling I'm wrong and feel part of me feels its not right she likes someone else. I don't understand why, but when I tell myself she likes me I feel that I'm right and feel its right that she likes me. Can someone explain why I'm having this feeling?

I did something similar. I could convince myself that it was wrong of me to like her, and that she'd never like me. I think it's a self esteem thing. Not sure though, cuz i still do it sometimes. :/

The best thing you can do is just be aware when you start thinking that way and understand that it's unrealistic and BS and that your mind is just playing tricks on you.

[User-Unknown]

I did something similar. I could convince myself that it was wrong of me to like her, and that she'd never like me. I think it's a self esteem thing. Not sure though, cuz i still do it sometimes. :/

The best thing you can do is just be aware when you start thinking that way and understand that it's unrealistic and BS and that your mind is just playing tricks on you.

I tell myself she likes someone else, nothing about its wrong of me to like her. After telling myself she likes someone else, something just feels wrong with what I say.

[Pulp501]

No. That sounds like elementary school when you are mean to your crush because you don't want anyone to know. And it doesn't work.

[User-Unknown]

No. That sounds like elementary school when you are mean to your crush because you don't want anyone to know. And it doesn't work.

Mean to your crush. Impossible, not true. If you have a crush on someone you care for the person and are there for them all the time. This girls sister told this guy that she doesn't like him. Obvious if coming from her sister it's true that she doesn't like him. But it can still be possible. What do the rest of you think?

[GoGoDiego]

Listen to your heart when choosing a partner suitable for you.

[Emerald Dream]

OP banned. :locked: