My parents are taking everything for me / no freedom / no privacy?

[Drummer Ben]

My parents are taking everything for me

Feels like I have nothing left. My parents try to get involved in everything I do, they don't let me have a private life. Every time I find a hobby like photography, music, programming, they always have to bud and start enforcing their own world. I just feel I lose my identity, like to keep something secret, my parents don't let me keep any secrets, that is what is ruining me. I'm forced to keep changing my passions and find a new one where I can hide behind. A world of my own is what keeps me going. I feel like nothing without being hidden from the world. You could say I hide behind a mask, I say every man's entitled to his own privacy. I don't know everything about my parents so why do my parents have to know everything about me. Is anybody else going to this or has had this experience before. I understand my parents want to be part of my life, but sometimes it's just too much. My parents try to tear me down, try to break me apart, and they feel they have to be in control of everything I do. How do I keep the things I love to myself, how do I go on if you have nothing left to hide. As they say everyone's got something to hide except me and my monkey. Things for the help!

[Mynick]

Talk with them really. Just sit down and tell them you need to talk, explain the situation and how it's 'killing' you. May them understand that you have the right to your own private life and you're not a child anymore.
Now don't go guns blazing at them, it never works.

[Elliott_hn]

your parents are just like mine. i just have to deal with it or they get soooooo angry

[gothy]

Talk to them. When i turned 18 they backed off a bit.

[Dalcourt]

Well, as the others said the only thing you can do is talk to them. Tell them how you feel about the situation, hopefully it works.

[Drummer Ben]

I Try talking to them. It gets fixed for a week and then their back at it. They think I'm hiding drugs or secretly plotting to kill people. I'm a "terrorist". Makes me laugh not so much the thought but how freaked out they get. They want to know everything. From the sites i visit, to the music I listen too, they won't even let me get a job because they can't control what I do their and they don't want me to obtain my own money. This isn't coming from me either they tell me these things. Im used to it though, they've affected my life but I'm starting to grow away from them and they can't stand it. I'll be 18 in 2 months and their freaking out that I have the ability to move out. One of my friends is going to let me stay at his place with his parents. Don't even have a license because they don't want to give me the ability to go to places on my own. I'm forced to stay in the house most of the time unless it involves going out with my family.

You know I want to get a job, I want to start a life and it really sucks my parents can't accept I'm not 10 years old anymore. I thought they would give me more freedom as I got older but it never changes. I'm ready to live for myself and move out and thats what I feel needs to be done. I'll visit them but living here I'm just going no where. Online is the only place that I have freedom, Thank god for that. You know parents are more strict now-a-days but at least we have the internet and places like this and I'm grateful for it. I plan on going to community college then transferring to a 4 year school with some of the money my grandmother gave me before she died. I really have shown them nothing for them to treat me this way. No one I meet has a problem with me, and other people give me respect and give me responsibility. Its a refresher hanging at one of my friends places with my parents, totally different.

Another thing I can't stand is my parents think their always right, and its not with me that bugs me. Its with everyone, at family reunions, out in public, their always right. This leads them to get in fights with people all the time, then they take it out on me because I'm the oldest sibling. They won't listen to anyones advice that goes against their opinion. I call that hypocritical.

My parents want to take me to a Phycologist to discuss all this but I don't know what to tell him. Its my parents. I thank my parents though for teaching me what freedom means. You can't know a good day unless you have a bad one, you don't know freedom unless you've been restrained. I appreciate them for feeding me all these years but its time to start my own life. I have so many things I want to do too.

Thanks!

[CuteGuy889]

Mine are worse..Until I was 14
My mom used to take my pants off leaving me in my briefs when I fall alseep. Even on a sofa, even in raltiion/freind's (close) place, even in front of my girl cousins (all abt 20y).!!!

If I am at a frinds / relations place & I want to go to loo for the "big job", I had to tell my mom.
She come along into the loo, take my pants, top and undies off without caring to close the door and then stands outside the door holding my clothes & not letting me close the door fully till I finish my job.
Whn I'm done and wiped she hands me clothes one by one...Fw of my cousins (including gilrs) saw this fw times and made fun.
I had to cry and make a tantrum for her to stop these whn I reached 14.