Confession

[Passenger]

Hi,

I know this is kinda an awkward topic but...each time I go to bed at night I can't help but get turned on for some reason and I can't help masturbating - despite trying not to - to relive it. It embarrasses me to say that I do it every night and sometimes in the morning but I can't help it as I get really horny. It kinda feels nice as I do it but as I orgasm I feel really guilty and disgusting. I'm gender queer (transgender) and grey asexual so it just feels really awful and wrong to do it in my opinion. I feel so dirty when I orgasm as it's obviously not girly (imo) and nor is playing with yourself in the first place - or masturbating entirely! - but my stupid hormones take over and I can't help it. I really want to stop having to do it every night (and some mornings - basically stop all together) but it's so hard as I just get turned on and my area starts tingling. How can I stop and resist the urge to masturbate? I feel so bad for doing it and it just disgusting imo to play with your genitals and nipples 😳 Sorry if that was tmi 😪

Please don't try telling me that masturbating is okay and natural and I should just do it because I really want to stop and I find it somewhat distressing. So please can you provide legit advice on how to stop and ignore those horny urges?

Thanks,

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

The weird thing about puberty is that you get surges of hormones, that will often take over, it's just your body telling you that it's ready to reproduce. The best way to deal with them would be to have the sex organs, testes/ovaries removed. However, before going to such drastic measures I would recommend that you just try doing something to distract yourself from the horniness. I really don't see anything wrong with a little masturbation now and then but, I respect your decision.

[cdaacd]

The most logical thing here seems to be it's just your hormones that are out of wack.

However, a more creative answer is that you associate your bed with masturbation, sex and being turned on (in part because that's where you do it every night). (sort of like Ivan Pavlov's experiment where he would ring a bell every time he fed his dogs and eventually, when he rang his bell the dogs drueling because they associated the bell noise with being fed.) This is just a thought I had that probably isn't true cause I have never taken any psych classes or have any medicine degrees/background.

Maybe you could try sleeping with the door open? That way when you feel the urge, you won't be able to unless you close the door. But you'd have to get out of bed (maybe you'll be too tired and just roll over and fall asleep) or, at the very least, will serve as reminder of your goal. You'll want to masturbate, see the open door and remember your goal.

[Passenger]

Thanks :)

[Emerald Dream]

OP is banned. :locked: