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Furyferret68
July 20th, 2014, 10:34 AM
So i have read the forum post in this section, and it points to me being straight. I am still very confused though, for this reason
I will cut this into 2 sections
1. Real life
As i will say in section 2, if and when i do watch porn, i like beautiful women, and masculine guys. I have never found a woman "hot" to me in real life, and here's the confusion: i could see a guy just like what attracts me when i watch gay porn, but i dont feel an ounce of being turned on or even basic attraction. I have only been attracted to women, i see my future with girls, i daydream about it alot, and if i think about having sex with one, it turns me on. But this isnt the case when i watch porn.
By the way, im using porn only as my example for a comparison, i dot watch it much and im deciding to quit, because i feel it will help me get my sexuality straight with myself. Anyway,

Section 2: pronzxxx

I find that when i watch women in porn, i like what other guys wold think, and i imagine myself in the guy's position. However, if it is just women, it will take me ages longer to be turned on than if it were a masculine guy, even though i never feel any attraction to them when its not porn.

So i watch porn, big deal, but it started as an experiment 2 days before my 13th birthday, so i first watched lesbian porn, didnt like it, still doesnt turn me on. I moved onto gay, and i didnt like it, until there was one with masculine guys in it. It turns me on even to this day, and i forgot to try straight: until 3 daya ago. I liked it better than both. I like looking at the parts men usually like.
Enough about my disgusting porn habit.


3. Emotion
I think about girls i like, i've never found an attraction to a guy.
I imagine myself marrying, having kids with a girl, spending my days with that special someone. I know i am emotionally attracted to women.


But really though, someone help me? I think i am bicurious

Bull
July 20th, 2014, 10:43 AM
I didn't go through this kind of confusion until I was 16. Now at 17 I have experimented with both sexes. I find that I am much more attracted to girls, but I also enjoy a sexual relationship with a guy. At this point in my journey I am still bi-curious but with a long range male/female relationship. Read my penis vs mind thread in Teen Sexuality for an account of my journey of confusion. Good luck with your journey, and I hope it works out well for you. Message me with any questions. I will PM with any sensitive information that you do not want seen by everyone on VT.

ImCoolBeans
July 20th, 2014, 04:09 PM
Sexual curiosity is extremely common in teens. Many teens experiment with watching gay porn, or even try experimenting with others of the same sex to see what it's like for themselves. If you don't feel compelled to watch gay porn, and cannot picture yourself having sex with, dating, or marrying another man, then it sounds unlikely to me that you are gay. It's normal to be curious about sex, other guys, and what other guys have going on down there. Don't worry about it too much, look around at some other posts in this forum, many people here feel similarly to you.

Passenger
July 22nd, 2014, 02:31 AM
Sexual curiosity is extremely common in teens.
Exactly, maybe just experiment, flirt with boys and girls, see who you're more attracted too.

But at the end of the day it's okay if you're bi gay or queer so don't worry :)