okay so i have a situation

[ksdnfkfr]

being a teen is one situation after another having to do with sex stuff it seems. anyways, there's a certain place near where i live now that's for kids with developmental problems i've gone to a few times. Anyways there is this boy who is 15 (I'm real close to 14) who seems to be really attracted to me. normally i don't like to be touched but have let him go ahead and massage my shoulders. The last time this was after swimming and my trunks were still wet and i got a boner which was pretty obvious....and he said "I really wish I could massage that for you right now" and am pretty sure he meant it.

Am not sure what to do about this. He seems like a totally nice and sweet boy, but this is my first time dealing with anything like this. he's a lot taller then me, mainly because I'm small for my age, so it's like hes older, but really only a little bit more then a year. He has PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) which is kinda like autsim (i'm autistic for anyone who doesn't know reading this). But anyways part of me wants to let him do that if we get a chance and part of me wants break away from him.

[Blood]

If you're not positive you want to do something sexual with someone, I advise you not to do it. I think you should just try spending more time with this guy and see where things go. There's no need to rush into doing anything. If you feel like he's pressuring you to do something, straight up tell him to back off.

[ksdnfkfr]

That's a good point. I'm usually the one telling others to give stuff time. i think because of his condition he's just real blunt and says out loud what hes thinking, which is typical, but just have never dealt with it in a sexual way. Thanks for replying Blood, a lot better then the usual "go for it!" response some others give.

[Microcosm]

I think if you are completely positive that you can be consenting about it and you won't regret it, but other than that it's really your decision. Just think about it before you do anything.

[Passenger]

If you want to then do it but think carefully given he had PDD (what is that anyway of you don't mind me asking?) however if you're not sure then don't and just let to him down gently.

*and by "then do it" I don't mean let him feel your penis I mean maybe date him and kiss and stuff, I don't think it's wise to get to sexual stuff right away.

[ChrisTJ]

I would say, as long as you feel comfortable with what you are doing and after giving it some though are sure that you want to maybe do things with him then go ahead. If he's attracted to you and you like him then I guess it's likely that things will happen :).

[deregisterme]

That's a good point. I'm usually the one telling others to give stuff time. i think because of his condition he's just real blunt and says out loud what hes thinking, which is typical, but just have never dealt with it in a sexual way. Thanks for replying Blood, a lot better then the usual "go for it!" response some others give.

Normally i would be one saying go for it whilst knowing uour boundaries. In this case i am n not sure weather your conditions mean that you are ready . Its a nice complent from him. If

[Living For Love]

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[pjones]

don't rush into anything, tho i know you wouldn't. if his condition causes him to speak his thoughts out loud it could be part of a phase a lot of us go through, really curious about sex and boys. guessing a lot of boys have those thoughts but wouldn't say them to another boy.

[ImCoolBeans]

If he's making you uncomfortable, then perhaps explain to him how he is doing so, and why it makes you uncomfortable. However, if you're not sure what you want to do about it, you should take a little time to think about whatever action you decide to take. If you do decide to cut ties with him, be careful and thoughtful about how you do it, he has feelings too. But do keep in mind that you don't need to do anything that you don't truly want to do, and if you feel that he is pushing you, then don't feel compelled to go along with it.

[Ethe14]

Personally I'd say no, unless you know him really well I wouldn't go for it. Now say after a year and you actually have true feelings for him then that's another story.

[ksdnfkfr]

If you want to then do it but think carefully given he had PDD (what is that anyway of you don't mind me asking?)

I don't mind you asking, but I always suck at putting stuff like that in words :P The text book explanation is *cut and paste time* "The diagnostic category of pervasive developmental disorders (PDD) refers to a group of disorders characterized by delays in the development of socialization and communication skills." Basically it's a lot like autism....or is autism....and called PDD for whatever reason....see why I'm not sure how to explain it?:lol:

Anyways he's really super sweet. He looks looks like 2 or 3 years older, but acts like 2 or 3 years younger. He's really very innocent and naive it turns out. When you have my kind of autism there is always a battle going on in the head between wanting to get affection and wanting to isolate from someone/anyone. The poor control over saying stuff your thinking is real common with autism/aspergers/pdd. The way he was acting this time I think maybe he was real embarrassed he said that. We just hung out doing indoor stuff because it was drizzling. when it was time to say good bye he stroked my arm and then turned red as a tomato aha.