Friendzone

[Giando]

Maybe you know what is Friendzone, maybe not.

It usually happens that a girl friendzones a boy, but it is possible that a boy friendzones a girl too.

1)What is Friendzone?
When you are in love with/you have a crush on somebody,there are three impotant areas: Friends Area, Friendzone Area, Love Area.
The Friendzone Area is like a small line which interject you between the happiness and the sadness.

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2)How can I understand if I am in the Friendzone Area?
If you don't understand, you are tarde.
A friendzoned boy is used to put on nail polish to a girl, to take the breakfast at the girl's home, to carry her on his shoulders (it's wicked), to take her bag at school and so on...
A friendzoned girl is used to pay whatever the boy wants, to wash the boy's clothes, and in the most serious cases (because the real bit*es are men), the girl is used to have occasional sex. (I don't know more, I never friendzoned a girl)

R.I.P. Brother.
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3)How can I come out of Friendzone?
Oh, it's very easy.
Kill you.
You can tell the person who you are in love with the truth, make him/her conscious of her/him brutality. It's highly possible that you break the friendship (if it's possible call it friendship) but you are free at least.

4)You seem an idiot. What do you know about friendzone, moron?
I was in Friendzone for about 1 year and half/2 years, we were tre friends infatuated with a girl older than us, we stabbed ourselves each other, but I was the only guy who stayed in Friendzone, and it hurt so much.
There is also another story, but stop now.

5)Why have you started this topic?
I only wanted to start a thread where everyone could write about his story, and where everyone could pour out.

Sorry if you find some grammatical mistakes, it would be very appreciated if you let me know, I spent much time to create this thread.

[Harley Quinn]

THE FRIENDZONE DOES NOT EXIST.

You are not friend zoned at all, it is 100% the fault of your own, and you can’t blame anyone else. You really got to make some moves from the get go, so you can see if there is any hope for a relationship (or casual sex), or at least become an option down the road if you stick around. But if those moves don’t work you have to take your rejection as an opportunity for personal growth, instead of getting all pissed at someone for rejecting you, if they are not into you romantically, how is it the other person's fault that they just want to be friends?


You can't force someone to feel something for you, if they don't want to be in a relationship with you, nothing you will do will matter. If you can't handle the fact that someone else wants to be just friends, you might need to think about moving on to something else. You never left the friendship in the first place so why does it need to have it's own zone? It doesn't because the whole idea was created so guys don't feel like they've been rejected and so they can blame someone else for it. There are actual, full reasons why someone doesn't want to progress further from a friendship and there is nothing wrong with that.

People who believe in the Friend Zone seem to think that if a guy is nice enough to a woman for long enough, he's going to be actually entitled to something. (Spoiler: He's not.) Again, this assumes an awful lot about a woman's right to choose who the fuck she has a relationship with and pretty much anything else. In fact, it actually removes that right to choose and transforms it into the man's right to be her boyfriend. Just because you've invested a lot of time into someone or something, doesn't mean you have the right to it. So what, she doesn't like you, or he doesn't like, or they don't like you, move the fuck on.

[BuryYourFlame]

Although I heartily agree with Shiobhan, I wasn't going to say anything because I figured you were just being a bit silly and that Shiobhan had covered pretty much everything anyway so there wasn't much left for me to say, but then I read what you wrote at the bottom of your post.

I know full well that you meant it as a 'joke' and I hope you wouldn't actually go out and kill someone for such a reason but the fact that you're even saying that feeds in to and gives evidence to a much more severe and larger problem than your own sexual frustration. While you may not act on that people such as Elliot Rodger very much believed exactly what you wrote, and that's exactly what he did. Even without the brutality of murder it perpetuates this idea that has become to ingrained in our society of male entitlement. It completely ignores the fact that women are human beings. There are literally no circumstances where a woman owes you sexual favours or anything like that. There are literally no circumstances where a woman should forgo her own desires because "well, I guess he was a nice guy" if the woman doesn't want to that should be the end of it. There shouldn't be the emotional manipulation of "but I did these things for you, why aren't you dating/fucking me".

The people who complain about the friend zone absolutely define themselves as being 'nice guys', however, if you only do 'nice' things for the hope of sexual reward or to use as emotional manipulation then you are definitely not a nice person. If the whole pretense of your friendship is just as a means to get in to her pants then you are not a friend. If you are nice to a woman and act as a friend, how can you blame them for seeing you as a friend. That's not to say that you can only get a relationship if you don't treat them nicely or by being a friend but the pretense of that friendship first has to be actual friendship instead of just trying to get them in bed.

I'm assuming here that you do agree that women are their own people with their own consciousness and desires etc. (which is pretty damn obvious to me but apparently not to people like Elliot Rodger) with that in mind, can you really sit there and say that no matter how repulsed they are by the idea women should have to do sexual favours for some stupid teenage kid because they were 'nice' to them?

Unrequited love can be a terrible thing and very painful but the whole idea of the 'friend zone' is entirely based on male entitlement and false pretenses and should be done away with as soon as possible. There's a very large distinction between unrequited love and 'friend zone' pain. If you love someone you're not going to feel they owe you sexual favours for the things you have done, it's that simple.

[Jean Poutine]

The friendzone "exists" because there are still people in this world who cannot differentiate approaching someone for friendship and approaching someone for a relationship.

The purpose needs to be clear from the get-go. I used to think people were friends then built a relationship together, but this is not true. People enter into relationships then become friends, or at least they develop their friendship in the plainly-apparent goal that it become something more later on.

Going about it the wrong way is the epitome of a mixed signal and nobody really wants to deal with your problems concerning ambiguity, so they classify you in the area where these signals will do the least harm possible, the default category - as a friend. From the first time you see someone it should be clear where you want the relationship to be headed. Don't blame the other person for your own failure to take charge of the relationship. Especially do not blame the other person for not sleeping with you because you've been such a good friend to them. I think this definition of a "friend zone" is flawed, as was made clear by the posts above mine.

But if the other person knows about your feelings, doesn't reciprocate them and uses them against you to manipulate you, leave. He/she is a piece of shit and not worth a second of your time. God knows a lot of people do it, and this is my personal definition of being "friend zoned" : when someone abuses the known feelings of somebody else to get stuff none of his/her actual friends will provide (be that sex or emotional support beyond the scope and/or tolerance of most people, or whatever else), maintaining the friend façade while providing just enough mixed signals to make the person think he/she has a chance in perpetuum, resulting in getting stuck there if the problem is not recognized and dealt with from the part of the victim. If this is the definition, it deffo exists, and anyone doing it should be shot.

[Giando]

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I don't agree. Maybe I can explain better.
A: I love you.
B: Sorry, I love you too but at the moment I don't want a relationship
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A: I love you.
B: We are great friends, why shall we are in a relationship?

And other excuses like that...
[I]This is kidding.

A: I love you.
B: Sorry, I don't wanna kid you, I am not interested to you, if you want we keep friends

This is honesty.

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1) Maybe my sense of humor is bad. Anyway the joke has been removed.
2) Who damn is Elliot Rodger? Sorry the ignorance

But if the other person knows about your feelings, doesn't reciprocate them and uses them against you to manipulate you, leave. He/she is a piece of shit and not worth a second of your time. God knows a lot of people do it, and this is my personal definition of being "friend zoned" : when someone abuses the known feelings of somebody else to get stuff none of his/her actual friends will provide (be that sex or emotional support beyond the scope and/or tolerance of most people, or whatever else), maintaining the friend façade while providing just enough mixed signals to make the person think he/she has a chance in perpetuum, resulting in getting stuck there if the problem is not recognized and dealt with from the part of the victim. If this is the definition, it deffo exists, and anyone doing it should be shot.
I am fuckin' alright man!

Anyway, I created this thread to make possible to users to writing about their facts, to ask advice if they want, but at the same time, I wanted to introduce some irony.