is this normal?

[britxany]

i want to try to not make this sound bad in anyway.

during sex with my boyfriend

i CANT have an orgasm...

i can get turned on but thats it.

am i ALWAYS going to be like this?

is it normal?

i lie to him and tell him i do though

which i shouldnt i know

but i dont him to feel bad

anyone have some advice?
[sorry if this sounds perverted or something i dont mean for it to be]

[Techno Monster]

YES it is normal!!! Because during intercourse the clit is not stimulated you won`t orgasm this is VARY common so don`t be worried.

[Underground_Network]

^^ That was english, but for some reason the way you said that scared me. "Don't ask me why, 'cos I don't know" (A line from a Rise Against song) Anyway, it is quite normal not to orgasm during sex, in fact, a lot of girls can't orgasm period, so its not that big a deal. I'd say not orgasming during sex is more normal than having sex at 14 as well. Though it is your decision.. And in fact I'm not against sex at a young age, considering I'm 14 as well and don't exactly plan on waiting till marriage.. But yeah, whatever.. :)

[britxany]

haha
yeah i am very young
highly regret it in the first place.
but im smart about it.

yeah kinda worried me
i thought i was like the only person >.<

thank you guys for responding!

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well if you wanted to fix that; or at least make it better for the two of you the best thing to do is to KNOW your own body and know what makes you feel good. If you don't masturbate already, take the time to "check things out down there" and figure out how YOU make yourself orgasm (such as clitoral stimulation; most common and easy way for girls to "get off"). Once you know for YOURSELF what feels good, LET HIM KNOW. I can't stress it enough that COMMUNICATION is the key thing here if you want sex to be more enjoyable for you and your partner.

Remember; if you're too worried to TALK to eachother about something you're ALREADY doing, then you shouldn't be doing it in the first place! :yeah:

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Just to clarify, The Reaper sort of made it sound like clitoral stimulation is the only way for a woman to have an orgasm, which isn't true at all, it's just the easiest way for a lot of women. You might not always have this problem, but it's possible, and as has been said, you're definitely not alone. I think the best thing to do would be to come clean to your boyfriend. If he thinks you're reaching orgasm during sex, you may have a hard time explaining things to him later, if you decide that you want to do a lot more of things that do get you off, or if you decide that you don't want to have sex anymore before you're getting nothing out of it. He might get confused as to how you could have sex all the time and still want more of those other things on top of that/how you could suddenly not want sex when it seemed to be working well before. He won't be mad or disappointed if you tell him. He may even see it as a bit of a challenge, and take some extra time to help you figure out different things you guys can do so that sex is as enjoyable as possible for both for you. Ultimately, you have way more to gain than to lose, by telling him.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

^^^ Ultimate Kudos to you; best answer times a billion! :D

She has it exactly right; oh and I knew clitoral stimulation was NOT the ONLY way to orgasm for a girl. BUT seeing as its the best-known and easiest way for most women its probably their best bet to start out with.

From a guy's perspective, Kaleidoscope Eyes had it right yet again (she sure knows how we think! :D). In the LONG run a guy will be pretty disappointed and downright EMBARRASSED to find out after such a LONG time that they never actually gave you an orgasm (finding out you faked one is even worse!). Not only does it make us question our PERFORMANCE, it makes us feel selfish seeing as we haven't satisfied you equally.

However, if you nip this in the bud early and let him know GENTLY that there are OTHER things he can TRY, he'll certainly be open to them (and even welcome the challenge; with that kinda motivation he'll try to make it the best you've ever had!). Soon enough I think you'll see great improvements! :yeah:

[JoshDude]

Some women can't orgasm off sexual intercourse alone. 25% around-about. So stimulate your clit at the same time should help the problem. Ask your boyfriend to do it for you? He may not be reaching your G-Spot either, which generally triggers orgasm.

[Techno Monster]

OR try a ribbed condom?

[sabotaged111]

Simply, sometimes girls just dont have an orgasm during sex. Sorry, as i dont know why, all i know is sometimes they dont. Hope i helped:D

[Close102]

yes its normal. no its not perverted. and just tell him about it. im sure hed understand

[The Pretender]

Don't worry your totally normal there a tonnes of girls like you. Some girls can only have an orgasm if they use a vibrator , maybe you should invest in one of them if possible.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

lol normal. if you really want to during sex though get him to rub your clit (or do it yourself:P) thats what i do with my bf.