Wait, then I'm not gay?

[Wyatt 13]

Hey y'all I am gay. I knew it when I was like 12-13. I just hit 14. When I think about boys or messing around I just want to do stuff -you know what I mean- BUT I am not thinking like having a romantic relationship or that stuff with a guy, or having feelings about guys like falling in love or stuff like that. I just want guys to hang out, do sports, playing games or whatever and to do what gays boys do. I DONT LIKE CHICKS at all I mean I am not fooling myself I really get horny thinking of boys or doing stuff just with boys never chicks. I have done some stuff not that much LMAO but enough to know that I like boys. So, Is this another kind of being gay way? thank you guys 4 your advise.

[CosmicNoodle]

The title reminds me of the way I found out I was Bisexual, it was like "wait...I'm not gay then?"
Anyway,
It sounds perfectly normal, you don't need to worry yourself, give yourself time of your not sure about anything and time will tell, it sounds to me that your gay if you don't like women in a sexual or romantic way, and if you only like men.

I never really wanted a romantic relationships at your age ether, romance seems to come later in Puberty as far as I can tell, or perhaps you just haven't found d the right guy, I never wanted romance till I found d the right person then suddenly it flicked on like a gooey, fuzzy, sickeningly sweet switch in my head.

Just give yourself time and enjoy what you can :)

[Rayquaza]

I think at 14 you're probably still figuring yourself out, and the best thing is to not put a label on yourself this early because you will find out your preferences and may find other types of attraction. As teens we look more about sex rather than romantic relationships, and you probably won't have much interest at the moment. However, you'll become more mature and develop psychologically and start to develop a romatic interest. You probably are gay by what you said because you stated you are not interested in girls. Most guys don't really care about love to be honest, and to be gay means to have a SEXUAL attraction to the same sex. It doesn't matter about romatic attraction which is why some people may be gay and be romatically attracted to everyone, which is why they would identify as a 'biromantic/panromantic homosexual'. But yes, what you said sounds like you are gay and the lack of showing any romantic attraction is not uncommon for your age.

[ImCoolBeans]

I think at 14 you're probably still figuring yourself out, and the best thing is to not put a label on yourself this early because you will find out your preferences and may find other types of attraction. As teens we look more about sex rather than romantic relationships, and you probably won't have much interest at the moment. However, you'll become more mature and develop psychologically and start to develop a romatic interest. You probably are gay by what you said because you stated you are not interested in girls. Most guys don't really care about love to be honest, and to be gay means to have a SEXUAL attraction to the same sex. It doesn't matter about romatic attraction which is why some people may be gay and be romatically attracted to everyone, which is why they would identify as a 'biromantic/panromantic homosexual'. But yes, what you said sounds like you are gay and the lack of showing any romantic attraction is not uncommon for your age.

This is great advice.

I also would attribute your lack of romantic feelings to the fact that you are 14. Most teenagers don't truly fall in love until their later teen years, or even after that. Generally speaking, sexuality is very fluid, and there isn't a need to put a label on yourself at such a young age, because the truth is that you're still growing and developing; both mentally and physically. While you may feel one way now, it's possible that you may feel differently in 3 or 5 years. I'm not saying that you will do a full 180 and feel for girls the way you do for guys now, but it's possible that your feelings may change over time. Only you can decide if you are gay, straight, bisexual, or whichever sexuality you could possibly be, but you don't need to have a definitive label at 14, or ever if you don't want one. People often label themselves out of convenience. It's an easy way to explain your sexuality without going into grave detail, and it can give the comfort of "fitting in" or "having a place". Don't feel compelled to abide by that, and don't feel distressed if you aren't sure what you want to label yourself as, because as I said, things change over time, especially in your teen years.

[AceofSpades97]

I think there isn't another way of gay I mean if you don't love boys or don't like to get romantic I don't think you are a gay and I can tell I'm gay and I think you are gay when you are not only attracted to boys because of sex but also because our personality etc.

[Wyatt 13]

thank you guys. great advise.

[chiisaiaoiryu]

I actually feel the same as you, to be honest. I have a lot of gay tendencies, and sometimes act on them (hey, you only live once when going to college lol) But seriously, I feel the same in that I want to/can do sexual things with guys yet not really have an honest "I love you" relationship with them. And I'm just a dead fish when it comes to the world of women. Either it's just some psychological thing or the sexual identification isn't gay but something else entirely. Then again, you're only 14; you have plenty of time to figure things out. I'm 22, and being in a sexual orientation limbo is becoming very annoying for me.