Did i rape my friend?

[cpkid09]

SORRY THIS IS LONG. Okay so a while back i posted a post about how i wanted to experiment with this friend. Well a few weeks ago it happened. We went on a camping trip with a few friends and we drank. He got pretty wasted and he had to pee a lot and i went with him every time. Finally one time i started joking around and i said "alright you know the drill i gotta check for substances." Then i shined the flashlight at his cock and looked at it. Then he explained about how it was normal and he has seen his guy friends dicks. Fast forward and we are in the tent and i spooned him because he asked me to. Then all of the sudden he pushed my hand down his pants and i ended up giving him a hand job. Then he brought me to the bathroom and was like are you gonna finish. Then i said no you're drunk isn't that rape and he kept saying that it was fine and insisted that i helped him out. So i ended up giving him a blow job. Then a few days later i asked him if we were going to talk about what happened and he said he doesn't remember anything after a certain point in the night. Did i rape my friend? I feel really bad.

[CrazyPerson101]

SORRY THIS IS LONG. Okay so a while back i posted a post about how i wanted to experiment with this friend. Well a few weeks ago it happened. We went on a camping trip with a few friends and we drank. He got pretty wasted and he had to pee a lot and i went with him every time. Finally one time i started joking around and i said "alright you know the drill i gotta check for substances." Then i shined the flashlight at his cock and looked at it. Then he explained about how it was normal and he has seen his guy friends dicks. Fast forward and we are in the tent and i spooned him because he asked me to. Then all of the sudden he pushed my hand down his pants and i ended up giving him a hand job. Then he brought me to the bathroom and was like are you gonna finish. Then i said no you're drunk isn't that rape and he kept saying that it was fine and insisted that i helped him out. So i ended up giving him a blow job. Then a few days later i asked him if we were going to talk about what happened and he said he doesn't remember anything after a certain point in the night. Did i rape my friend? I feel really bad.


No that is not rape. Rape is something much much worse than a handjob, you guys just carried away

[Second Chance]

I think rape might be a bit of a strong word here, but I think you did take advantage of your friend when he was in a position in which he was not able to make decisions. Even if your friend egged you on and told you to do what you did to him the fact of the matter is that he was not in a position to make an informed decision. The fact that he does not remember anything shows that he was not in control of his mind or body when you both engaged in sex acts with one another.

At this point I would not beat yourself up too much and just never do anything physical in the future with anyone who is under the influence of some substance be it alcohol, drugs, medication, etc. Wait until the person is sober before doing anything sexual otherwise in the future if you do anything physical with someone in an unconscious state you would be taking advantage of them and putting yourself in a bad position. I would not bring this up with your friend at this point because you might cause problems especially if you were sober while he was drunk when all of this had happened. You made a mistake, but at least you recognize it, and just don't do it again.

[The Faulted]

Alcohol can make people do some pretty out-of-character things. It sounds more like he pressured you into it to me, even if you happened to enjoy yourself. Don't worry, you didn't rape him. :)

[jessie3]

No it's not rape, ya'll drank and ya'll where just messing around. Rape is a big world to use here.

The definition of Rape is the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force and duress to have sexual intercourse and any physical force of sexual favor and or intercourse on a person.

[niceguy44]

What you did was not rape. You just took advantage of a bad situation.

[Lost in the Echo]

I think you should at least let him know what happened. You will feel less guilt.
But no, I wouldn't really call whate you did rape. Technically though a drunk person cannot consent to any sexual activity because of their altered state of mind, but at the same time, alcohol releases inhibitions, so maybe he was into you the whole time, and the alcohol helped him express that?

Anyways, the right thing to do would be to tell him what happened regardless.

[Rayquaza]

It's not rape. Although he was drunk, it was still consensual at the time, as he insisted that you did. Because of his intention, and him asking you to, that's consent. It's likely he's pretending to not remember to avoid embarrassment when around others or also wanting to experiment as well. Also, looking at what you said it would be more likely that there was some sort of rape actually coming from him, and not you, because he was insisting and almost coercing you to make sexual advances on him. Don't worry about it.

[KoolKid96]

SORRY THIS IS LONG. Okay so a while back i posted a post about how i wanted to experiment with this friend. Well a few weeks ago it happened. We went on a camping trip with a few friends and we drank. He got pretty wasted and he had to pee a lot and i went with him every time. Finally one time i started joking around and i said "alright you know the drill i gotta check for substances." Then i shined the flashlight at his cock and looked at it. Then he explained about how it was normal and he has seen his guy friends dicks. Fast forward and we are in the tent and i spooned him because he asked me to. Then all of the sudden he pushed my hand down his pants and i ended up giving him a hand job. Then he brought me to the bathroom and was like are you gonna finish. Then i said no you're drunk isn't that rape and he kept saying that it was fine and insisted that i helped him out. So i ended up giving him a blow job. Then a few days later i asked him if we were going to talk about what happened and he said he doesn't remember anything after a certain point in the night. Did i rape my friend? I feel really bad.

U definitely did not rape him

[romoperson]

I wouldn't say so isn't rape if u get fucked and u didn't want to???? If it is then no but still he was drunk. But I would say no u didn't rape him.

[gothy]

If u were both drunk..no. If he was and you weren't then yes.

[Mikey13]

I dont thingk it would be rape but taking advantige yes

[LokaChris]

Nah,, rape is without concent

[deregisterme]

It's definitely not rape, as that would be full blown sex without his consent. There was fault on his side for getting drunk and getting you to do something, and possibly fault on your side for not saying no. It might be worth letting him know and talking if you feel the need. If things don't work out, then at least you still have things in the open

[Catholic Guy]

Well he gave consent but don't say anything because there's no point starting a problem where you didn't have one

[esparza.warren]

It wasn't rape, however you should make sure in the future to make smarter decisions about drinking and how it affects your actions. Somebody can't make an educated decision when they have drunk so it's important for you to think about that before you give him a handjob or blowjob.

[pconnor2001]

I don't think it was rape.

[Dalcourt]

It was taking advantages in a certain situation but not rape except you planned to make him drunk and to this.

[hockeyfan]

That isn't rape.

Rape is "forcing someone to perform or take part in a sexual act"

He agreed to it. Even if he was drunk/ not thinking str8. (No pun intended)

[TomTheThingy]

you did NOT rape him. He was drunk and i guess you were drunk too so.. shit happens

[Jtyler]

Not even ner rape

[Your Captain]

No you did not rape your friend

[henry5331]

SORRY THIS IS LONG. Okay so a while back i posted a post about how i wanted to experiment with this friend. Well a few weeks ago it happened. We went on a camping trip with a few friends and we drank. He got pretty wasted and he had to pee a lot and i went with him every time. Finally one time i started joking around and i said "alright you know the drill i gotta check for substances." Then i shined the flashlight at his cock and looked at it. Then he explained about how it was normal and he has seen his guy friends dicks. Fast forward and we are in the tent and i spooned him because he asked me to. Then all of the sudden he pushed my hand down his pants and i ended up giving him a hand job. Then he brought me to the bathroom and was like are you gonna finish. Then i said no you're drunk isn't that rape and he kept saying that it was fine and insisted that i helped him out. So i ended up giving him a blow job. Then a few days later i asked him if we were going to talk about what happened and he said he doesn't remember anything after a certain point in the night. Did i rape my friend? I feel really bad.

I think you both took advantage of each other. But I also think that's common for teens. We're all horny mofos. The fact that you feel bad about it means you have a conscience and you care about your friends. Just hold onto that. Maybe stay away from getting drunk. But I don't think rape is the right word for what happened.