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youfutube
July 14th, 2014, 07:18 PM
Hi everyone, I’m here to ask a question about dealing with situation that not many of you have heard about. Long story short, my mom was divorced about 8 years ago, and she has been dating women ever since, I support her because I love her for who she is. She’s 36 years old, and I’m 15, currently in high school. We live in New York City.

Last month, my mom and I moved in with another single mother who she has been dating for over a year, she’s the same age as my mom, and her son is 14 years old. We live in this large studio, basically one large room with no walls. Plus a kitchen, a bathroom, and a balcony.

Because of the fact that we’re sleeping in the same room, there has been a privacy issue for my mother and her partner. I know they are very careful to not let us see any sexual aspect of their relationship, and there is a divider between their bed and the other part of the room. But almost every night, I can hear them kissing in bed. Even though the room is dark, I can hear them kiss very clearly. They’ve never done anything beyond that, since they try to keep quiet as much as possible. I’m old enough to know and understand what they’re doing, and I never disturb them, I just try to pretend that I’m sleeping. However, I am worried that my mom and her partner might be kissing too much, there were nights when they would literally kiss all night long, until the morning. Most other nights they would kiss for at least an hour or two.

Should I tell her that I'm worried about her? Or should I respect them and give them personal space and not let them know. Please let me know what you think about this. Thank you.

We will be moving into a bigger place on Sep 1st, so I guess the problem will solve itself by then.

Luminous
July 14th, 2014, 07:29 PM
I don't think you should be worried at all. They seem to have a healthy relationship. If they can't have sex since you're practically in the same room, if they love each other, they probably feel they need to do something to feel close. I don't think you have anything to be worried about, but if you still feel that way, maybe you should bring it up to your mom and let her explain.

youfutube
July 14th, 2014, 07:37 PM
I don't think you should be worried at all. They seem to have a healthy relationship. If they can't have sex since you're practically in the same room, if they love each other, they probably feel they need to do something to feel close. I don't think you have anything to be worried about, but if you still feel that way, maybe you should bring it up to your mom and let her explain.

Thanks. I was just worried that they're not getting the rest they needed, since they both work full time.

Luminous
July 14th, 2014, 07:40 PM
Thanks. I was just worried that they're not getting the rest they needed, since they both work full time.

Ah, I see, I thought you were concerned they were kissing too much.
Well, they're both adults and they know how much sleep they need. I still wouldn't worry about it.

youfutube
July 14th, 2014, 07:41 PM
Ah, I see, I thought you were concerned they were kissing too much.
Well, they're both adults and they know how much sleep they need. I still wouldn't worry about it.

That is in fact my other concern, I do think they're kissing too much. However, I feel weird if I bring it up. Is it common for adults to do that?

Luminous
July 14th, 2014, 07:49 PM
That is in fact my other concern, I do think they're kissing too much. However, I feel weird if I bring it up. Is it common for adults to do that?

If it's consensual (and at an appropriate place and time - home at night is just fine), I don't think anyone can kiss too much :) All night is a long time, but it seems like a very newlywed thing to do and since they just moved in together it must kind of feel like that. I still don't think you should worry about it, and I don't think I'd bring it up if I were in your position.

youfutube
July 14th, 2014, 07:55 PM
If it's consensual (and at an appropriate place and time - home at night is just fine), I don't think anyone can kiss too much :) All night is a long time, but it seems like a very newlywed thing to do and since they just moved in together it must kind of feel like that. I still don't think you should worry about it, and I don't think I'd bring it up if I were in your position.

you're right, thanks a lot! I won't bring it up, it's better that way. I totally understand their position, since they've both been single for years, and it's no surprise that they're having a lot of affection.

Kissing doesn't bother me at all. but yes, all night is very very long. I'm still shocked sometimes that they can kiss for such a long time. I can never see myself having that kind of energy.

morsar
July 22nd, 2014, 10:46 AM
How can you "kiss too much"? What happens if you do? Do your lips fall off?

Absolutely not. ~Hannah

Pulp501
July 23rd, 2014, 01:31 AM
It seems rather odd that all 4 of you are in one room, that sounds like no privacy for anyone. Maybe you should talk to them about it as a family, and see what their plans are and tell them you think it would be a good idea to move into a more family friendly home.

goodnightxmoonx
August 12th, 2014, 09:49 PM
It seems rather odd that all 4 of you are in one room, that sounds like no privacy for anyone. Maybe you should talk to them about it as a family, and see what their plans are and tell them you think it would be a good idea to move into a more family friendly home.

Well, I mean, the OP said that they will be moving at the start of September, so. I imagine it's because they're in NYC. It's a very crowded place to live in, especially if it's Manhattan but even if it isn't. So I'm not particularly surprised.


To the OP:

It's unfair to all four of you, however, and I'm glad you'll be moving soon.