how to ask someone of the same sex?

[xandyx]

So weird question...

So like I think I like guys but Im also not like stereotypical gay acting...so its not like obvious... and I'm not really out to anyone including my parents. (Scary scary :( )

How do you find a bf but keep it secret and stuff? I want a bf but i really don't want people to know and I guess I'm scared to ever ask anyone cuz they might let it out accidentally or something

Advice?

[Blood]

Well...if you're not ready to be public about your sexuality, maybe you're not ready to be in a relationship. That's my opinion.

[jessie3]

Well if you want a bf then try to get someone who you share things in common with and don't just make it all about looks or "Size" because it might not work. As for being "Secret and stuff" I say when ever you and the man of your dreams are alone then be affectionate to each other.

Don't come out to your parents because you feel pressured from seeing someone else come out to there's. Come out when you are ready and if your afraid of someone finding out your sexuality then I suggest maybe telling a really good friend first ( but as from past experience, be careful as to who you tell )

And also, before you try to tell your family about you liking another guy I'd see how your family react to seeing 2 people of the same-sex being together first before being honest with them.

[Soldier212]

I understand your problem dude. I would recommend that you would first become good friends with whoever it is you want to ask out. Start slow and test out there reaction to homosexuals. If they are not homophobic you can then write a love letter that is from an anonymous person, and deliver yourself saying someone told you to give it to them. See his reaction and if you think it is good tell him that you are the one who wrote the letter.

[CassnovA]

Well...if you're not ready to be public about your sexuality, maybe you're not ready to be in a relationship. That's my opinion.

I disagree entirely. Im only out to a select number of close friends. I have no reason to shout it loud and proud to the whole world, and once I get a bf, I wont have any problems introducing him as such. I just dont need that hassle whilst im single.