What is this?

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Me and my... well I don't know what to call this so I guess that's why I am here!

So I've known this girl for 8 years (let's call her Bob - she is not called Bob) but only really started hanging out with her about 2 years ago. About a year ago I had crush on her and asked her out. She said no. I just moved on and didn't think about it again... until about 9 months ago when I noticed her again and started to get a crush on her again. We then grew closer together. 8 months later we are hanging out with friends and Bob chases me down the other side of the field we were in whilst it was raining and we start making out. We then make out several more times in the day. I then am just hooked on her and attached to her. Last night we were at a party and we made out... a lot. I was talking to some of her friends at the party and confessed my crush on her to them. They then say she feels the same about me and also knows that I like her. People are constantly going on about us. I feel I should ask her out, but in the past asking people out never really worked. My best mate got really drunk and said "you guys should totally go out. you just need to change your Facebook status and you don't need to do anything else!" Another friend said to me, "Look mate, I'm gonna admit that I like Bob. I've got a crush on Bob! But I can see that you like her and you two have something that I could never have with her. You guys have the history. You guys are like two jigsaw pieces that fit! I'd much rather you have her than me" At which point I started to cry a lot also being 100% sober. I've never felt this deeply in love with someone ever in my life. She is just right. When she holds my hand I may look relatively normal on the outside, but inside of me, I'm just screaming out cheering and crying! I don't know what to call this. Is this just us making out A LOT, is it something more? Help me good people of the internet! What is this and what do I do? :wub:

[Karagor]

Sounds like you're both into each other. Take her out for a while and see where it goes. The only person who can know if it's love, though, is you.

[ashdyn]

You don't accidentally make out with someone multiple times lol she obviously likes you but I get what you're worried about. DTR'ing is always a bit of a sensitive issue. However, it's also a time sensitive issue. If you don't DTR after too long then the window will close on you and she'll look for someone ready to commit. It sounds like y'all are perfect for one another and it's been a few months so take the leap bro. You're practically dating already so why not make it official.

[AlexanderTheGreat]

You don't accidentally make out with someone multiple times lol she obviously likes you but I get what you're worried about. DTR'ing is always a bit of a sensitive issue. However, it's also a time sensitive issue. If you don't DTR after too long then the window will close on you and she'll look for someone ready to commit. It sounds like y'all are perfect for one another and it's been a few months so take the leap bro. You're practically dating already so why not make it official.

Thanks for the advice dude. I get what you mean, I guess for me the issue is the fear of a breakup. I hate ending any kind of relationship whether it be friends or cousins, and so if I did ask her out my main fear would be a breakup. Also it's asking her out. I guess the classic 'do you wanna go out with me' just seems lame. I want to date her but I don't know how to without looking and sounding like an idiot. I really want this but I just need to push myself that bit further to get there, it's just that bit further seems like a mile.

Thanks again bro.

[Microcosm]

Ask her out to the movies or something. Maybe go have lunch with her or something. See how that goes.

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Ask her out to the movies or something. Maybe go have lunch with her or something. See how that goes.

I think I may ask her to the theatre. She's a real drama geek. Drama is how we met. I think I'll ask her to London to go to the west end.

[Steve Jobs]

Thanks for the advice dude. I get what you mean, I guess for me the issue is the fear of a breakup. I hate ending any kind of relationship whether it be friends or cousins, and so if I did ask her out my main fear would be a breakup. Also it's asking her out. I guess the classic 'do you wanna go out with me' just seems lame. I want to date her but I don't know how to without looking and sounding like an idiot. I really want this but I just need to push myself that bit further to get there, it's just that bit further seems like a mile.

Thanks again bro.
Be yourself, enjoy each other's company. The more you worry about trying to please her, the more distant you'll become to her. Do what you normally do, find out what she likes, and find that common ground to start it off with.

Going into a relationship with the fear of breaking up is the wrong way to start it off!

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Going into a relationship with the fear of breaking up is the wrong way to start it off!

Thanks man. That's so true. I appreciate that :)

[Maxv]

Me and my... well I don't know what to call this so I guess that's why I am here!

So I've known this girl for 8 years (let's call her Bob - she is not called Bob) but only really started hanging out with her about 2 years ago. About a year ago I had crush on her and asked her out. She said no. I just moved on and didn't think about it again... until about 9 months ago when I noticed her again and started to get a crush on her again. We then grew closer together. 8 months later we are hanging out with friends and Bob chases me down the other side of the field we were in whilst it was raining and we start making out. We then make out several more times in the day. I then am just hooked on her and attached to her. Last night we were at a party and we made out... a lot. I was talking to some of her friends at the party and confessed my crush on her to them. They then say she feels the same about me and also knows that I like her. People are constantly going on about us. I feel I should ask her out, but in the past asking people out never really worked. My best mate got really drunk and said "you guys should totally go out. you just need to change your Facebook status and you don't need to do anything else!" Another friend said to me, "Look mate, I'm gonna admit that I like Bob. I've got a crush on Bob! But I can see that you like her and you two have something that I could never have with her. You guys have the history. You guys are like two jigsaw pieces that fit! I'd much rather you have her than me" At which point I started to cry a lot also being 100% sober. I've never felt this deeply in love with someone ever in my life. She is just right. When she holds my hand I may look relatively normal on the outside, but inside of me, I'm just screaming out cheering and crying! I don't know what to call this. Is this just us making out A LOT, is it something more? Help me good people of the internet! What is this and what do I do? :wub:

Hey, this seems like you are both crushing on one another and we'll totally sound like you're pretty much already going out. I think you should just speak to her about what you're current relationship is and go from there, girls from England are such hard work;) -Max.

[ashdyn]

Thanks for the advice dude. I get what you mean, I guess for me the issue is the fear of a breakup. I hate ending any kind of relationship whether it be friends or cousins, and so if I did ask her out my main fear would be a breakup. Also it's asking her out. I guess the classic 'do you wanna go out with me' just seems lame. I want to date her but I don't know how to without looking and sounding like an idiot. I really want this but I just need to push myself that bit further to get there, it's just that bit further seems like a mile.

Thanks again bro.

You don't have to literally ask her out. I think that's kinda cliche nowadays. Just start hanging out a lot, go on a bunch of dates, get close to her...when you feel like things are getting serious try to DTR. I find that defining a relationship conversation is a little easier than spitting out a "you wanna go out with me?" lol Everyone is afraid of break ups and rejection but if youreally like her then you've got to take the leap or else you'll always wonder what could have been or WORSE end up in the dreaded friendzone.