my friend is asking me for anal!

[NEYCK]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

[deregisterme]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

I wish I had a friend like that! Seriously though, on the one hand don't feel pressured until you're ready. When you are, know your limits and talk with him. Be prepared to know what you both want and communicate. Make sure you're both clean and relax. When it comes to anal, it may be worth doing a bit of fingering and loosen up. Communication is the key, as if it's sore, it's not working out right. Good luck and have fun

[NEYCK]

I wish I had a friend like that! Seriously though, on the one hand don't feel pressured until you're ready. When you are, know your limits and talk with him. Be prepared to know what you both want and communicate. Make sure you're both clean and relax. When it comes to anal, it may be worth doing a bit of fingering and loosen up. Communication is the key, as if it's sore, it's not working out right. Good luck and have fun
thanks appreciated

[pjones]

don't do anything you're not comfortable with. maybe masturbate together first if you haven't already, and see if you like that. you can then move on to oral or anal.

[Collins1]

Go for it if you want to, don't if you don't! What's the worst that can happen?
Just remember protection if you go for it ;)

[Stronger]

Only do what your comfortable with, don't force yourself into doing anything you don't want to. But one of my questions is, how do you feel about him?

[LokaChris]

Only go as far as youre confetable with..

[NEYCK]

Only do what your comfortable with, don't force yourself into doing anything you don't want to. But one of my questions is, how do you feel about him?
i actually love him to be honest he's my best friend since 2008 he turns me on !

[Connormann]

If it's what you want to do, then go for it! Just use protection and lots of lube, if you are unable to get lube, then use Vaseline. Don't use lotion, soap, or conditioner, they will irritate your bottom.

[ksdnfkfr]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

I think there should be a lot happening in between a first kiss and anal sex. Maybe your friend is going by what's on porn were they kiss for the first time and a minute later are doing it. Think it's something that should progress with time in a meaningful relationship.

[ugaboy]

What Ezra says! He always gives good advice.

[Stronger]

i actually love him to be honest he's my best friend since 2008 he turns me on !

Well if you feel that you love him and are attracted to him, then take things slow and see where it ends up.

[Reg_]

Never be uncunfortible

[Upse]

DONT DO IT

If you do do it then that means you loss your vrginity and if it's with a guy then ya

[ComfortableInChaos]

I had a friend who told me he loved me and would give me head and let me fuck him and we've talked sexually before and he's one of my best friends but we never kissed (sadly) and tbh, we haven't met in person because he graduated the year before my freshman year and we met on FaceBook, so I know what you mean.
My advice is just to go along with whatever makes you happiest and whatever you're comfortable with. Whether that's a really hot makeout session or an anal/oral sex session with the guy, that's up to you. He even said he's wait for you to be ready, so if I were you, keep that in mind. You might end up wanting to try something out with him and it's best to keep him in mind about that. Maybe jerking off together would be a good first step into the sexual situations with this certain guy? Just make sure you know that you can tell him to stop if you're uncomfortable. If he loves you like he said, he'll stop and won't keep doing whatever he's doing with you.

If you need to talk about anything at all (any more advice), just message me and we can talk about whatever. I've given a lot of advice before so... maybe I can help?

DONT DO IT

If you do do it then that means you loss your vrginity and if it's with a guy then ya

Sorry, but if he's bisexual or gay, then you probably just offended him... Please don't add any homophobic comments to people's threads because it's very offending, not just to the OP but to other posters, too. Losing your virginity doesn't matter what gender the person is you lose it to. You don't have to lose your virginity to just girls and then do things with guys...

[Urban]

Never do anything you don't want to do or feel too pressured to do; and in your case, it does seem like you want to engage in this. It's good that you guys have a good, already-established relationship, so it means if you want to go ahead and do it with him; it's easier to have the very important conversation to do with protection, privacy and how it's all gonna work. I'd definitely say go for it, and if it's not something you'd want to do again, end it right there and move on. But definitely plan it out before it happens just to be on the safe side.

[NeuroTiger]

Do not go for things you aren't comfortable with...
...respecting yourself is key.

[Bull]

I think there should be a lot happening in between a first kiss and anal sex. Maybe your friend is going by what's on porn were they kiss for the first time and a minute later are doing it. Think it's something that should progress with time in a meaningful relationship.

Totally agree with this. Explore your new feelings for a long time friend.

[riverboy]

Ezra is correct on this. Don't be pressured into doing some thing you don't want to do. Take your time.

[NickH]

dont do what makes u feel uncomfortable

[Cheesydog567]

You should do what you want to do. Take it slow. If you're doing anal don't forget the lube :)

[CrazyPerson101]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

Seriously though, on the one hand don't feel pressured until you're ready. When you are, know your limits and talk with him. Be prepared to know what you both want and communicate. Make sure you're both clean and relax. When it comes to anal, it may be worth doing a bit of fingering and loosen up. Communication is the key, as if it's sore, it's not working out right. Good luck and have fun

1 welcome to VT & 2 I agree, communication is the key, from what I've heard from friends who have had sex, they say " It hurts at first but it feels good after a while " so I what johnblogs said is very true. ( almost had my first time at 12 to a 15 year old dude who looked like zac effron but younger ), Hope you have a good time and whatnot. Good luck

[Stripling]

I think there should be a lot happening in between a first kiss and anal sex. Maybe your friend is going by what's on porn were they kiss for the first time and a minute later are doing it. Think it's something that should progress with time in a meaningful relationship.

I think this is really good advice ^^

[hockeyfan]

Do wat u want. Remember the choice ins urs, don't let him talk u into anything that ur not confertable with.

[Mikey13]

Do it unless ur uncomfertable. Im a christian with a purity so lisen to you bilives to.

[Wyatt 13]

The important stuff is you feeling respected by him and ready to the next level. He is your friend so that's important to keep.

[Phillips2000]

Don't rush things out ^=^ do it when you're guys ready for it ..

[Hermes]

Unlike some of the previous posters I can't advise on how to have anal sex as I have never done it but I agree with those who have said only do what you are ready to do rather than being pressured into it. In that respect that fact that he says he will wait until you are ready is obviously good.

In the mean time it may be worth seeing what else you can do sexually short of that, for example mutual masturbation or frottage. In particular you could jack him off with your face close to his cock and watch in closeup as he cum (obviously you can angle it away frim you slightly if you don't want a faceful) as something to get you used to the idea of having your moth close to his cock and you could let him put it between your thighs or along the crack of your ass (without going in) and hump as a step closer to anal. Also think about how you want to get off so it is not one-sided and talk to him about all of this.

[esparza.warren]

That's awesome that he loves you like that. Don't do anything that you'll regret thouh and only go as far as you are comfortable with.

[Catholic Guy]

Maybe start with oral and see how it goes? If it's too much you can stop or carry on

[Your Captain]

Well if you want to and he wants to then do it. What are you scared about

[henry5331]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

If you aren't ready for sex, don't have sex. If he really is your friend he will respect you. If you aren't gay, don't have sex just to make him feel better. Beyond that you have to make the call.

[Jeonard]

I would say talk to him about things...how you feel about each other etc. You may feel more comfortable with things after that. Communication is key no matter what you decide because you don't want to do things you don't want to do but then I'm sure you don't want to lose your friend either.

[hansemann]

do it if you both are comfortable with it!

It can be lot of fun! :)

[Reg_]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

Do it when ur comfortible

[Pepito]

Do it only if you're comfortable with it and if you actually want it. If you don't want it just say no, if he is your real friend then he should understand. But if you do decide to go ahead with it, remember to talk to each other (communication is key as others have said) and take it slowly.

[James Rothwell]

Wow, so jelous you have a friend like that :o I say do it

[Svan]

Wow... Doesn't really sound like a friend to me!

[Jaseblader]

go for it bro if you want

[Just Sayin]

If you want him then go for it man just be ssfe

[Semi_IronMan]

Omg, wnt a frnd like dat

i thnk u should strt slow, if he loves u lyk he said he does he'l wait

[Erik13]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

i am all about experimenting, but you dont have to do everything at once. take your time. enjoy a hj and move on to bjs for a while and see how that goes. try to equate it with your emotional feelings for each other.

[Body odah Man]

ok that's DISGUSTING. AVOID HIM!

[Dennis98]

Stay out of that guy and just ignore him , that is best way to shut him up

[casperathome]

Relationships are about two people who have feelings for each other. Whether it's boy-boy or boy-girl or girl-girl. Puberty is challenging at best but also about finding your 'groove'. Nothing is written in stone and we all are curious. We all mature at different rates sexually, not only physically but mentally as well.

I come from a liberal family where we can be open. Sex is not 'dirty', but something to be shared with someone we have feelings for. I personally think I am Bi but have had amazing experiences with some of my male friends. My G/F is a virgin and I respect that with her. She is not ready. I am a bit more adventurous and tbh always horny. The risk with experimenting with my curious buddies is minimal as it is 'mutual'. It is also allowing us to try and help us figure out our sexuality ( I think).

My point is that the decision is very personal and don't be forced into something you don't want to do. Go with the flow and you might enjoy it. As others have said be open about how you feel about it. I have really enjoyed my experimentation with some of my best friends and being able to communicate what I like and don't like. It helps make me feel more secure in a meaningful and somewhat adult sexual relationship. I'm sure that learning this with my buddies will help me when I decide to get into something serious whether it's with a boy or a girl.

It's up to you. Be young and have fun. Forget what some of the closed minded idiots say on here about being gay or Bi. AS the saying goes.

I sleep with boys...Get over it !!!!

As my Dad says to me.. Be young, have fun and make good decisions! and nothing good nor bad lasts forever...

Good luck bud and lighten up . I'ts ALL GOOD !!

[AdamS]

Is it too old fashioned to want a date or 2 first ? Go slow. Itll be more fun :D

[Curious.]

I agree with Ezra

[Jack_smith1234]

just go slow with it, dont do anything youll regret

[Erik13]

if you have to be pressured into something, then that should be a sign that it probably isn't a good idea. at least not right now.

[samii]

just listen to u r mind

[Indio]

i actually love him to be honest he's my best friend since 2008 he turns me on !

Haha that's cool so any latest update as of today?

[Wyatt 13]

he seemed like he truly love me !...

And if you found after the stuff he just wanted to fuck you? will be you ok to move on?

[Snydergate]

As with what I would guess that most people on here are saying then just do what you feel it right, I read some of your other comments and since you seem to like him very much as well, do it if you really want to.

[Indio]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

After those advises which one you followed?

[kay_jay]

Just make sure that you are ready and you won't regret it later.

[Jaseblader]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

Ifyou want to then do it

[Juiceman]

I think u should I mean IF I HAD THE CHANCE ... Never mind that's a no Brainer but yeah u should because u want to and he does so go for it. Contact information removed. ~Elysium

[Crona]

Only do what your comfortable with. don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do

[Lskillz]

hey guys .. i'm new here but i really need your advice
so my best friend is asking me to have anal and oral sex
he always hinting yesterday he told me that he loves me and everything and then he kissed me ! actually he shocked me and then he said i always wanted to have sex with you ! but i told him that i can't and then he said whenever you changed your mind i will always be there for you !
he seemed like he truly love me ! and he's such a cutie ! i wanted to jave anal and oral sex with him but i was scared ! what should i do ?

Tell him how you feel

[Silentslayer13]

Just go with your gut

[aussiepride]

Do whatever you are most comfortable with, dont get pressured into doing something u may regret

[Zachary G]

first off dont do anything that you dont want to do or feel that you will regret. if you think by doing it it will have some kind of negative impact on your friendship, then explain it to him. but if you think it will bring you closer together, than you should have a talk with him about it before jumping into anything. you both should weigh out the pros and cons of doing it.

[SethfromMI]

don't do anything you don't want to

[rhyse3]

do it if you feel comfy with it

[stiller]

If you really want to do it, then you should do it :)

[DavidNorton]

Set your limits with him. If you want to do it go ahead but don't let him make you do it

[Andrew2499]

If you aren't comfortable, don't do it. Maybe start out slow, like jerk together and then see where it goes from there.(:

[CuteGuy889]

I have few "curious "frends...they are str8 and have GFs but they are interested in guys' bodis. They comments like "you're not skinny any more", playfully touch my butt feelng for my briefline, suggest that I take my tee/pants off if its warm, frq suggest impromtu skinny dips in our undies so that he can see the guys undressed etc

[Tendencies]

As everyone is saying, only do what you want to do. If you are comfortable with it, then go for it. But if not, then it's okay to say no. It won't be fun if you aren't comfortable with it.

[gloverjake]

If you really want to do it, try it. And if at any moment you change your mind, just tell him you don't want to go through with it. If he's a good friend he'll understand.

[Pyro99]

lol, wish i had a friend like that. only do what you feel comfortable with, and whatever you do be careful and gentle. if u do actual anal use protection.

[rguevara12]

If your comfortable with it then go for it

[BoyOBoy]

do it but when your ready

[Atlantis]

do it but when your ready

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