Coming Out...Again.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I think I'm genderqueer.

The thing is that I am a male, I feel like a male physically, and mentally. But not emotionally and socially.
My dad talks about sports and cars and bikes and lumberjacking and all sorts of manly things, but I just don't connect.
I like to cook, do arts and crafts, stuff like that but I don't really feel like a female either. I wish I could be normal. Who ever heard of a guy that paints his toenails, even if only on occasion.

What the hell is wrong with me?!

[Elysium]

First of all, nothing's wrong with you. You're perfectly normal. To say that something's wrong with you may be offensive to people struggling with the same or similar concerns. Anyhow, you just don't relate to activities that are traditionally masculine. That's a societal thing, so personally, I don't think the activities you like puts your gender in jeopardy. In my opinion, liking traditionally feminine activities or disliking traditionally masculine activities should not have to be emasculating.

[Luminous]

Not liking 'manly' stuff doesn't make you genderqueer. It just means you don't like 'manly' stuff. If you haven't noticed, the stereotype for gay guys is being very feminine, of course it's a stereotype and isn't true for everyone, but how would it become that stereotype if there weren't lots of feminine gay guys? If you don't feel like a male mentally, then you could be another gender besides male and female, but emotionally and socially are just parts of your personality. It works for girls too, but of course in this society we live in people aren't very open minded. Have you ever heard the term tomboy? My guess is you have and think nothing of it, because it's fine for girls to be boyish. All you have to do is switch that around and apply it to you.
By the way, I've heard of lots of guys who paint or want to paint their nails, and I don't think it's weird at all.

[Dalcourt]

I think I'm genderqueer.

The thing is that I am a male, I feel like a male physically, and mentally. But not emotionally and socially.
My dad talks about sports and cars and bikes and lumberjacking and all sorts of manly things, but I just don't connect.
I like to cook, do arts and crafts, stuff like that but I don't really feel like a female either. I wish I could be normal. Who ever heard of a guy that paints his toenails, even if only on occasion.

What the hell is wrong with me?!

I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. I mean why should we all act according to stereotypes? I'm tiny, extremely girly looking and always paint my nails, I love to cook...on the other hand I love cars, guns and could beat up any big guy that comes near me... I'm gay, and I totally feel like a male...that's me, is something wrong with that? I don't think so...so everyone can do as he or she likes and not make oneself a prisoner of a cliche or stereotype.

[LiamC]

You don't sound gender queer, there's nothing wrong with you at all either way! You are what you are, just because you don't like cars and manly stuff doesn't mean you aren't still a male, you just don't adhere to the socially constructed stereotypes we have of males in the western world. I much prefer music and reality TV to sports, car documentaries etc. but I'm still a guy!

[Bull]

You are you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are absolutely normal because you are doing what is normal for you. You don't have to talk about cars and lumberjacking to be a man. Be yourself, celebrate who you are, and most of all enjoy who you are and stop worrying if you are normal, because you are.