I relapsed

[diddykong53]

Hi I'm Andrew and I've been cutting for 3 years. But I had my first girlfriend since February and she was my best friend before that. She literally knew everything about me. My worst sin and every thought I had at night. But then 3 weeks ago she left and just 4 days ago she said she did because she was tired of having a guy who she always had to help. But in the 8 months of knowing her she helped me stop cutting, because I think I was afraid of her. When I would tell her I cut she would get angry at me and force me to tell someone. Now the abscense of that fear combined with me missing her so goddamn much, I relapsed 2 days ago after 4 months of not doing it. I don't know what to do. If someone could help please tell me what to do because I'm so sick of myself.

[AllTimeLoser]

Hi I'm Andrew and I've been cutting for 3 years. But I had my first girlfriend since February and she was my best friend before that. She literally knew everything about me. My worst sin and every thought I had at night. But then 3 weeks ago she left and just 4 days ago she said she did because she was tired of having a guy who she always had to help. But in the 8 months of knowing her she helped me stop cutting, because I think I was afraid of her. When I would tell her I cut she would get angry at me and force me to tell someone. Now the abscense of that fear combined with me missing her so goddamn much, I relapsed 2 days ago after 4 months of not doing it. I don't know what to do. If someone could help please tell me what to do because I'm so sick of myself.

my bf did the same, we broke up last week and I relapsed, I'm 5 days clean but it has to count for something, every single day matters. I know it may not seem like it but you don't need her, you will miss her a lot but you need someone who will support you. I don't know if I can really tell you how to overcome it, I'm still figuring it out for myself, but try and find a way to remind yourself every day that you can keep going. The list of ways to stop on this forum is actually so so helpful, just if you ever need anyone come and talk?

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I went through a relapse after six months clean, and I found that the best way to handle it was to come clean about it and seek help from a therapist.

[diddykong53]

my bf did the same, we broke up last week and I relapsed, I'm 5 days clean but it has to count for something, every single day matters. I know it may not seem like it but you don't need her, you will miss her a lot but you need someone who will support you. I don't know if I can really tell you how to overcome it, I'm still figuring it out for myself, but try and find a way to remind yourself every day that you can keep going. The list of ways to stop on this forum is actually so so helpful, just if you ever need anyone come and talk?
yeah we can talk :) Thank you
I went through a relapse after six months clean, and I found that the best way to handle it was to come clean about it and seek help from a therapist.
I've had a therapist in the past and they never understood me, so i'm not really sure if that would work.

[AllTimeLoser]

I went through a relapse after six months clean, and I found that the best way to handle it was to come clean about it and seek help from a therapist.

if your family know about your self harm, or if you can bring yourself to tell them, then this may be really helpful

yeah we can talk :) Thank you

I've had a therapist in the past and they never understood me, so i'm not really sure if that would work.

okay therapy may not be such a great idea then...

[Stifler]

Wtf? Cutting yourself over a breakup??!
You realize there are worse things in life, like your parents dying, being homeless, etc.
Don't let a girl ruin your life man, you must be strong! I've been through so much shit in my life and I never even thought about cutting!
God, I hate weak people!!!

[diddykong53]

Wtf? Cutting yourself over a breakup??!
You realize there are worse things in life, like your parents dying, being homeless, etc.
Don't let a girl ruin your life man, you must be strong! I've been through so much shit in my life and I never even thought about cutting!
God, I hate weak people!!!

I'm sorry if I huet your feelings somehow :( :'(

[dame]

Wtf? Cutting yourself over a breakup??!
You realize there are worse things in life, like your parents dying, being homeless, etc.
Don't let a girl ruin your life man, you must be strong! I've been through so much shit in my life and I never even thought about cutting!
God, I hate weak people!!!

This is a very ignorant response. Everyone is different. You never know what someone may be going through, so for you to say that is just despicable. Think before you speak next time & realize the effects your words have on others.

[AllTimeLoser]

I'm sorry if I huet your feelings somehow :( :'(

don't listen to people who disregard any reason you have for cutting, because no matter how another person would react in your situation, it obviously has upset you enough for you to do this so it is a very important issue. You aren't weak, you are strong enough to still be here and that's all that matters

[Svan]

Hello Andrew, I am Svan, someone who has cut-relapsed-cut-relapsed many many times. The best thing you can possibly do IS to tell someone. She was right about that. Please consider that. If you ever need someone to confide in (I'm not a girl, but I am someone you can commiserate with), I am here always.

[Stifler]

I'm sorry if I huet your feelings somehow :( :'(

No, please don't cut yourself because of it :(

This is a very ignorant response. Everyone is different. You never know what someone may be going through, so for you to say that is just despicable. Think before you speak next time & realize the effects your words have on others.

Please, how does cutting solve problems in life? I try to be realistic here... you need to face your problems, not beat yourself over them.

[dame]

Please, how does cutting solve problems in life? I try to be realistic here... you need to face your problems, not beat yourself over them.

Personally, I don't cut nor know much about it, but I know that's how certain people cope with their problems. They're obviously reaching out for help for their problems, I'm sure they don't want to resort straight to cutting whenever a problem arises. I appreciate that you're trying to be realistic but there are far better ways to help out, your approach was too blunt. I agree that you should face your problems, but that's my personal way of dealing with things, everyone's different.

[AllTimeLoser]

Personally, I don't cut nor know much about it, but I know that's how certain people cope with their problems. They're obviously reaching out for help for their problems, I'm sure they don't want to resort straight to cutting whenever a problem arises. I appreciate that you're trying to be realistic but there are far better ways to help out, your approach was too blunt. I agree that you should face your problems, but that's my personal way of dealing with things, everyone's different.

I agree with that, with people who cut... its a slow and difficult process before you get to that point and you need the right support before you get to that point

[diddykong53]

Please, how does cutting solve problems in life? I try to be realistic here... you need to face your problems, not beat yourself over them.

I didn't it just made me sad

[AllTimeLoser]

I didn't it just made me sad

am I right in saying that, beforehand it feels like the only option you can think of? And then afterwards you regret it? That's what happens from my experience, just wondering if its the same...

[diddykong53]

am I right in saying that, beforehand it feels like the only option you can think of? And then afterwards you regret it? That's what happens from my experience, just wondering if its the same...

I don't really like talking about it too much. Its just a problem. I hate it

[AllTimeLoser]

I don't really like talking about it too much. Its just a problem. I hate it

I know, I really hope you overcome it. You're strong enough, believe me :)

[diddykong53]

Update: so I did it again yesterday on my leg and today as well it looks like I'm gonna be stuck again with this. :'( I hate it.

[AllTimeLoser]

Update: so I did it again yesterday on my leg and today as well it looks like I'm gonna be stuck again with this. :'( I hate it.

:( be strong... I know its hard but please try, I know you can

[diddykong53]

:( be strong... I know its hard but please try, I know you can

I'm trying Lauren. Almost there

[AllTimeLoser]

I'm trying Lauren. Almost there

You've done so well up til now, just stop now and breathe

[diddykong53]

You've done so well up til now, just stop now and breathe

I'll just try going to sleep like you said in your rules. Don't worry about me Lauren. Goodnight

[AllTimeLoser]

I'll just try going to sleep like you said in your rules. Don't worry about me Lauren. Goodnight

goodnight, stay strong :)