Can a person be gay and not into the LGBT or rainbow pride thing?

[Lovelife090994]

Can a person be gay or anything else for that matter and not into the LGBT or rainbow pride thing? Is it common, or is it hush-hush?

[Plasma]

Why not? Just be yourself and don't follow others.

[Remora]

I consider myself bi leaning gay and personally i think the whole thing is bs.

[Blood]

Why not? Just be yourself and don't follow others.

Yeah, pretty much. I don't find anything wrong with the rainbows, pride marches and festivals, and publicly supporting the LGBTQ+ community. However, if you're not into it then simply don't participate.

[Hudor]

The LGBT parades and festivals are a means to mix with other people of the community and show solidarity. I doubt I would ever join a parade because it all seems a bit garish to me and it wouldn't really be my thing although i'm bi myself.

[Lovelife090994]

The LGBT parades and festivals are a means to mix with other people of the community and show solidarity. I doubt I would ever join a parade because it all seems a bit garish to me and it wouldn't really be my thing although i'm bi myself.

Garish? As in gaudy?

[Gamma Male]

Of course not. If you're not into any of that, you don't have to go to anything. Just be yourself.

[Ajmichael]

I'm bi and I'm not really into it... I get the social side and what have you but to be honest, I'd rather just go along with everyone else... You don't get straight pride do you?

[Karkat]

Honestly? The commercial LGBT community tends to be fairly bigoted (*gasp*)

There are a lot of stereotypes enforced, double-standards, exclusion of the lesser-knowns, etc.

I mean, not all are, take George Takei, for example. He's a pretty amazing guy. All he really cares about is true equality, showing kindness and fairness to others, and making everyone smile.

But not everyone who is "a part of the LGBT community" is like that.

I try to stay away from it because of the hypocrisy of a lot of it, but I COMPLETELY get people who go to Pride, etc. and who are into that stuff. I COMPLETELY get why they do it. (For another example, I don't consider myself a feminist for highly similar reasons, but support feminism and those who believe in it as well. So long as they're not total fucking hypocrites.)

But no, as far as I'm concerned it shouldn't have to be a requirement, not even close. Just an option to show support.

[Cognizant]

Honestly? The commercial LGBT community tends to be fairly bigoted (*gasp*)

There are a lot of stereotypes enforced, double-standards, exclusion of the lesser-knowns, etc.

I mean, not all are, take George Takei, for example. He's a pretty amazing guy. All he really cares about is true equality, showing kindness and fairness to others, and making everyone smile.

But not everyone who is "a part of the LGBT community" is like that.

I try to stay away from it because of the hypocrisy of a lot of it, but I COMPLETELY get people who go to Pride, etc. and who are into that stuff. I COMPLETELY get why they do it. (For another example, I don't consider myself a feminist for highly similar reasons, but support feminism and those who believe in it as well. So long as they're not total fucking hypocrites.)

But no, as far as I'm concerned it shouldn't have to be a requirement, not even close. Just an option to show support.

I completely agree with you. It's fine and dandy if you want to be part of the pride movement (or inversely NOT a part of it), as long as you don't take it to extremes. I go to the pride festivals and believe in gay-rights activism and shit like that, but I would never go overkill with it and believe that gays are better than straights.

[Faolan]

Of course it's fine not to be into that. The important thing is to be comfortable with who you are, and if that you doesn't like rainbows, so be it. The parades are really just there as a chance to show acceptance and all that. Hopefully there will come a day when we don't need them. I personally think they're tons of fun.

[ShatteredWings]

I like rainbows 'cause I like colors tbh.

I've become.. disenchanted? by pride. I don't want to turn this into a rant about capitalist corporations using gay men as marketing tools at the detriment of other marginalized sexualities and gender identities but basically that.

Pride parades sound fun as hell (because neon moving club...) to me but the general atmosphere of "gay pride" is annoying and often unwelcoming.

You're definitely not the only one who's not into associating with 'obnoxious gay' stereotypes.

[Lovelife090994]

Wow, so it seems many either "don't fit" into the mainstream LGBT or *ahem* feel "welcome" around "all" of it.

[Hudor]

Garish? As in gaudy?

Yeah. In my place, the prides I had seen seemed much more of show than substance apart from being quite gaudy so they didn't really seem too appealing to join.

[phuckphace]

Can a person be gay or anything else for that matter and not into the LGBT or rainbow pride thing? Is it common, or is it hush-hush?

sup.


I get a restraining order against anyone who comes within a mile of me with a rainbow anything.

[Lovelife090994]

sup.


I get a restraining order against anyone who comes within a mile of me with a rainbow anything.

Is it that bad by you? I admit some activists are a bit annoying sometimes.

[Svan]

Of course.
I'm pansexual and I'm not. I don't think it's necessary to shove my sexual orientation/rights in the face of others. It's just like shoving religious beliefs down someone's throat.

[Lovelife090994]

Of course.
I'm pansexual and I'm not. I don't think it's necessary to shove my sexual orientation/rights in the face of others. It's just like shoving religious beliefs down someone's throat.

Personally I just don't like wearing my label or any label really. I just live and act like anyone else. I don't wear a rainbow on my face or anything.

[Svan]

Personally I just don't like wearing my label or any label really. I just live and act like anyone else. I don't wear a rainbow on my face or anything.

If people ask me who I like, as in what gender, I just say I love everyone.

[Lovelife090994]

If people ask me who I like, as in what gender, I just say I love everyone.


I've never been like that, I usually say "that's none of your business." Personally I only like one gender at a time... it varies to be honest. I am far from pansexual though.

[Svan]

I've never been like that, I usually say "that's none of your business." Personally I only like one gender at a time... it varies to be honest. I am far from pansexual though.

For me, the question doesn't make me uncomfortable. Idk. I never feel like I have to explain myself, though.

[Lovelife090994]

For me, the question doesn't make me uncomfortable. Idk. I never feel like I have to explain myself, though.

That's what I mean. The way people have asked me has always been in a rude way. So I just ignore them, respond with sass, or leave.

[phuckphace]

Is it that bad by you? I admit some activists are a bit annoying sometimes.

gay rights activists are generally very screwed-up people with a long list of mental problems. that, and their hostility to Christianity, inspired me to keep my distance. just browse Tumblr, I bet two thirds of them could provide a lifetime of case studies for any psychotherapist.

[Dalcourt]

gay rights activists are generally very screwed-up people with a long list of mental problems. that, and their hostility to Christianity, inspired me to keep my distance. just browse Tumblr, I bet two thirds of them could provide a lifetime of case studies for any psychotherapist.

Lol, that's so true

And to answer the question I have never been into that rainbow and pride thing...imo it's mainly that people who give our sexuality this bad reputation in these days.

[Lovelife090994]

gay rights activists are generally very screwed-up people with a long list of mental problems. that, and their hostility to Christianity, inspired me to keep my distance. just browse Tumblr, I bet two thirds of them could provide a lifetime of case studies for any psychotherapist.

I thought I was the only one who noticed this. I have met two activists, only two. One was sweet and sincere. The other was how you describe and constantly insulted me and my faith. They didn't stop even after I said "I'm bisexual." Then they said "pick a side." I wanted to slap the person.

[Karkat]

gay rights activists are generally very screwed-up people with a long list of mental problems. that, and their hostility to Christianity, inspired me to keep my distance. just browse Tumblr, I bet two thirds of them could provide a lifetime of case studies for any psychotherapist.

The trans* activists, feminists, and social justice warriors on Tumblr are SO much worse.

If you are trans* and you do not HATE cis people, a lot of them will basically tell you you're not good enough, or some bullshit

They also think you can appropriate culture if you do not stereotypically look like a colored person from said culture. Tumblr is so overkill.

[Lovelife090994]

The trans* activists, feminists, and social justice warriors on Tumblr are SO much worse.

If you are trans* and you do not HATE cis people, a lot of them will basically tell you you're not good enough, or some bullshit

They also think you can appropriate culture if you do not stereotypically look like a colored person from said culture. Tumblr is so overkill.

I like and use tumblr for some things, but the activism is crazy. Since when is being cisgender a bad thing or a way of a person being "bound by society?" Should we punish a girl who is naturally feminine and likes pink because she is buying into society? Should we tell the macho guy to lay off the weights and buy pink? Some activists on tumblr are so crazy and heterophobic it's sickening. I have seen some of the activists you are talking about.

[Karkat]

I like and use tumblr for some things, but the activism is crazy. Since when is being cisgender a bad thing or a way of a person being "bound by society?" Should we punish a girl who is naturally feminine and likes pink because she is buying into society? Should we tell the macho guy to lay off the weights and buy pink? Some activists on tumblr are so crazy and heterophobic it's sickening. I have seen some of the activists you are talking about.

It's a lot of what's driven me mostly off Tumblr, honestly. It's ridiculous.

[Lovelife090994]

It's a lot of what's driven me mostly off Tumblr, honestly. It's ridiculous.

I just avoid those parts. My blog isn't very popular but it makes posting my Minecraft stuff quick and easy.

[Karkat]

I just avoid those parts. My blog isn't very popular but it makes posting my Minecraft stuff quick and easy.

I've started a new blog, and I followed a lot of sweet girls, and like half of me followed me back. Which was cool.

I don't think I'll get into it much again because of all the shit I experienced last time. Someone I trusted ended up really hurting me over a stupid "social justice" issue (that wasn't actually a social justice issue. Lmao.) and I can't really go back on my old account without feeling anxious now.

[Hermes96]

I'm like the lgbt pride bits but loads of my gay mates don't it's everyone's own opinion

[ComfortableInChaos]

I consider myself bi leaning gay and personally i think the whole thing is bs.

Same, tbh...

[Lovelife090994]

I consider myself bi leaning gay and personally i think the whole thing is bs.

I was not expecting that answer. I thought most of the LGBT loved it.

[ImCoolBeans]

Why not? Just be yourself and don't follow others.

Exactly. If you're not into it... then don't act that way. I'm gay and I've never been to a pride-fest, worn rainbow t-shirts, nor have I done a day of silence or anything like that. Just do you.

[jessie3]

It's normal to be gay and not like LGBT stuff. Im gay and I want to go to a pride festival and just experience the culture im happy and proud of who I am and I don't mind showing people who I am.

[Passenger]

I'm gender queer and asexual but I don't really like the idea of the pride thing - I don't see why you would shout about it, I mean straight people don't - but I do like the idea of having a community of supportive people who are in a similar situation because quite a few non-LGBT+ people don't understand and it's quite annoying/upsetting sometimes so it's nice to have that safe place :)

[chiisaiaoiryu]

Yeah, it all depends on what you're into. Be you gay or an open-minded person, you don't have to be a part of a LGBT community to show your agreement with equality for all.

[CharlieHorse]

Just as much as a straight person being into the lgbt support thing.

[backjruton]

Well. I'm not into any of it and I feel that way too... I don't really see how anyone can be really :whoops:

[Lovelife090994]

Just as much as a straight person being into the lgbt support thing.

I'm guessing that's a not into it?

[CharlieHorse]

I'm guessing that's a not into it?

what?

it's a logical and practical statement.
If straight and support lgbt is possible, then not straight and not support lgbt is possible.

I don't understand your question. Is that directed at my own opinion?

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Can a person be gay or anything else for that matter and not into the LGBT or rainbow pride thing? Is it common, or is it hush-hush?

Yes of course. Here is a crappy example but it works: You may like Justin Bieber but you don't have to be a belieber. (sorry for that crap example).

[Lovelife090994]

what?

it's a logical and practical statement.
If straight and support lgbt is possible, then not straight and not support lgbt is possible.

I don't understand your question. Is that directed at my own opinion?

I was asking anyone willing to answer. Earlier I was confused by your answer.

[Hideous]

Honestly? The commercial LGBT community tends to be fairly bigoted (*gasp*)

There are a lot of stereotypes enforced, double-standards, exclusion of the lesser-knowns, etc.

I mean, not all are, take George Takei, for example. He's a pretty amazing guy. All he really cares about is true equality, showing kindness and fairness to others, and making everyone smile.

But not everyone who is "a part of the LGBT community" is like that.

I try to stay away from it because of the hypocrisy of a lot of it, but I COMPLETELY get people who go to Pride, etc. and who are into that stuff. I COMPLETELY get why they do it. (For another example, I don't consider myself a feminist for highly similar reasons, but support feminism and those who believe in it as well. So long as they're not total fucking hypocrites.)

But no, as far as I'm concerned it shouldn't have to be a requirement, not even close. Just an option to show support.

I agree.