When will it happen?

[cudo2]

Alright, so I am 13 years old, and apparently in the 2.6 tanner stage. (I have a bit of an idea what this is.)

The problem is, I feel like I am behind. Yesterday I went to my friend's house, and I haven't seen him in months. He is the same age as me, but he has grown nearly half a foot and sounds like he is 16-17 in terms of voice pitch. You could easily mistake him for somebody older.

The thing is, I haven't gotten to that point yet, so it was beyond embarrassing to talk or stand next to him, because I still sound like a little kid, and I'm relatively short for my age. I have been told that I am late for my age, and it's starting to worry me. I do sometimes get erections and have a bit of hair on my body, but that's pretty much it.

Is there something I did wrong? Why are my friends ahead of me? I know I'll hit it eventually...but what do I do until then? I'm starting to get a bit depressed as I am seeing more of my friends spurting up before me.

Any advice or emotional help?

[Lord Of Curiosity]

You shouldn't be worried :). just keep in mind that you will soon start to get the same changes. It's not a race and nothing to be ebarreses about. you'll catch up to them just wait and see.

[SillyShyGuy]

Everybody develops at different paces. Some people develop sooner than others.

[CrazyPerson101]

Alright, so I am 13 years old, and apparently in the 2.6 tanner stage. (I have a bit of an idea what this is.)

The problem is, I feel like I am behind. Yesterday I went to my friend's house, and I haven't seen him in months. He is the same age as me, but he has grown nearly half a foot and sounds like he is 16-17 in terms of voice pitch. You could easily mistake him for somebody older.

The thing is, I haven't gotten to that point yet, so it was beyond embarrassing to talk or stand next to him, because I still sound like a little kid, and I'm relatively short for my age. I have been told that I am late for my age, and it's starting to worry me. I do sometimes get erections and have a bit of hair on my body, but that's pretty much it.

Is there something I did wrong? Why are my friends ahead of me? I know I'll hit it eventually...but what do I do until then? I'm starting to get a bit depressed as I am seeing more of my friends spurting up before me.

Any advice or emotional help?


Different people develop at different rates ( im 5'4 & 1/2 and I have the body of a 12 year old, my voice hasnt' dropped all that much ) and im 15 and other guys my age have got a more developed body, taller , stronger etc and weigh more than I do ( im 89 pounds ) All I can say is just wait, you'll get bigger eventually

[Baseball1999]

Don't worry, you'll catch up to everyone else in no time! As everyone else is saying, everyone develops at different rates. Nothing to be embarrassed about! :D

[Second Chance]

I wouldn't worry because the fact of life is that guys are going to be all shapes and sizes. You're only 13, and you have plenty of time to grow. It is one thing if you're 16 and still look like you belong in elementary school, but at 13 many guys are just starting out in puberty. You are a lot more normal than you think you are.

There is really nothing you can do to speed up puberty, and the only thing you can do is eat rightly, stay away from alcohol, drugs, and tobacco, and make sure you are physically active. Chances are you will hit your growth spurt over the winter. If it means anything, at least you don't have to worry about body maintenance issues unlike your friend. Enjoy your body now while it lasts because you will have so much less work than your friend when it comes to daily routines.

[ksdnfkfr]

Alright, so I am 13 years old, and apparently in the 2.6 tanner stage. (I have a bit of an idea what this is.)

I'm 13 and about the same. but other 13 are less and others are a lot more. i'm only 13 so i don't care. if i was 18 and less then 3.0 then that would be a an issue. also my pediatrician would notice if i was to far behind.

[Microcosm]

Just chill and let it happen. It'll happen if you give it time to.

[Cloud_Strife]

Alright, so I am 13 years old, and apparently in the 2.6 tanner stage. (I have a bit of an idea what this is.)

The problem is, I feel like I am behind. Yesterday I went to my friend's house, and I haven't seen him in months. He is the same age as me, but he has grown nearly half a foot and sounds like he is 16-17 in terms of voice pitch. You could easily mistake him for somebody older.

The thing is, I haven't gotten to that point yet, so it was beyond embarrassing to talk or stand next to him, because I still sound like a little kid, and I'm relatively short for my age. I have been told that I am late for my age, and it's starting to worry me. I do sometimes get erections and have a bit of hair on my body, but that's pretty much it.

Is there something I did wrong? Why are my friends ahead of me? I know I'll hit it eventually...but what do I do until then? I'm starting to get a bit depressed as I am seeing more of my friends spurting up before me.

Any advice or emotional help?

Hi mate,

It's understandable that people feel self-conscious at the beginning stages of change. It will become less so as you transition through it. It is important to realise that everyone will develop at different rates and at different times.

I remember our school going on holiday break when I was about 14. I returned back to find that I had apparently sprouted a bit more than a few of my friends in terms of height. One of my friends who was markedly shorter than I suddenly had a voice that had apparently dropped almost an octave over a few weeks! Yet his height never changed during this time frame. Conversely, my voice pretty much remained the same. It was most uncanny, as his appearance was almost exactly the same, but mentally we had all associated him with a far higher pitched voice. He ended up catching up to the rest of us in time.

So don't worry. Things always have a way of ending up fine in the end. Ultimately though, regardless of height, or weight or body frame, it is most important that you are comfortable with how you are with yourself. You are more that your physical attributes alone. If you are able to recognise this and accept it, than that is what matters most.

Hope that helps!

[cudo2]

Thank you everyone! I guess the hardest part will be the waiting. :)

[Connormann]

That is perfectly normal. I know everyone says this, but I will say it again. Everyone develops at different rates hell, it may be genetics, if you want to, ask your dad to see if he was the same thing. He will be mature about it and be happy to be able to help

[fast8]

Everyone grows at there own speed don't worry before u know it it will happen to u

[cjto]

i was an early bird when it came to all those things and let me tell you eventually it sucks i mean i have to shave my chest and everything at least once every two weeks, just be proud of who you all everyone is different and both have pros and cons

[cudo2]

i was an early bird when it came to all those things and let me tell you eventually it sucks i mean i have to shave my chest and everything at least once every two weeks, just be proud of who you all everyone is different and both have pros and cons

That doesn't sound TOO bad, I would rather have to shave my chest weekly than be childish and small like I currently am. I've had several people (particularly the early developers) look down on me. Some people are just so lucky! :P

[bbwolf26]

Hey Cudo2, I am 13 too and just like you. I have friends my age that are way ahead of me. I know trying not to worry about it doesn't always work, cause I still think about it. Just don't let it take over who you are. Be active, go out with friends, and do stuff that makes you happy. Being active helps me a lot and makes me feel better about myself.

[bigp0599]

Don't be worried u will grow