thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:20 PM
Hey there. So I've had a friend that I've known for over a year. We were acquaintances until around 7 months ago and since then we've been friends, and for the past 3 months, we've been close. And he's been very lovey-dovey and touchy-feely for a while (he's a flirty guy in general but I'm the only male he acts like this towards). He's apparently straight and so am I (in public)... But I've grown feelings for him the past couple of months and I'm wondering if I'm just being delusional or if it's worth telling him that I have feelings.
I've been posting on another site with updates. I'll include every post from the other one so far and tell me what you guys think!
POST 1: LAST MONTH
For example, here's what happened just this weekend: he was extremely weird with me. We were playing a video game and the location was rather "romantic" in the sense that it was full of flowers and water and it was nature-y and whatnot, and he said "wow this place is beautiful. (My name) we should go here one day." And he asked me to sit next to him, and when I did, he would scratch his head and then sneakily try to put his arm around my shoulder, multiple times. When I was near him but wasn't sitting directly next to him, he grabbed me and pulled me next to him then put his arms around my shoulder.
When we were standing next to each other, he randomly held my hands and started dancing with me.
When a song was on he grabbed my hands and then started grinding on me.
He would also randomly pull me towards him and hug him for no reason.
And then around other people he would ask "don't you just love mine and (my name's) relationship?" And one girl joked and asked how long we've been dating and he said "oh like 5 months."
And then when no one was talking, he said "let's ask each other questions" and he randomly asked me "do you think I'm a good looking guy? I think you're a good looking guy." And one of the guys noted how he thought that was weird of him to randohmly ask that, and so one of the guys asked "are you gay?" He replied by saying "Honestly..." and then he laughed and then changed the subject.
And then during a convo I said "I'm trying to think of something that's bad about me" and he said "there's absolutely nothing."
He asked only me out of everyone there to sleep over, and I did. We talked for about an hour until we knocked out, and in the morning, we talked a little more and then when I said something funny and he started giggling, he rolled out of his bed and then rested his legs on mine and hugged me.
And in general, he'll say stuff like this: "Oh and the sucking my part... That comes later it'll happen one day" which was said when he was leaving the room at a hangout.
"That sexually aroused "oh"", I like it": what he says after I say "oh" to something
"Can we sleep next to each other? The room is cold and dark and scary" this was said at a sleepover. He personally came up to me and said this even though there were many other guys around.
"If there was one guy you could make out with who would it be?" (At this same hangout, which was a sleepover, he looked at me, then jumped on me, noticed a gulp, then he went under my blanket and said "we're sharing the same blanket")
"If there was one guy in this group you could make out with who would it be?" "Making out with (me) I wonder what that feels like" " (me) would you make out with ___?"
"Oh yeah that was during my stalking stage"-this was said whenever I said he never saw me with a certain type of haircut and he said he did when he would stalk me on Facebook before he really knew me. Constantly brings up the fact that he thinks it's "trippy" how we became friends after meeting each other last year at some event
-Says "I love you" to me constantly.
-Always wants to be around me. The first time we hung out he always followed me around and told me to follow him. Now that we're close he has repeatedly asked to get drunk together, to work out together (not at the gym, but just us two at his house), to join a group he's in, "when we're going to (a certain vacation spot) you're in my car... Whether you like it or not" etc.
-Always interested in who I'm interested in. "I thought you liked her? What turned you off about her?" Etc.
-He remembers a lot of random things I've said and he also remembers specific gestures I do and copies a good amount of things I say and do
-At prom my date said "he seems too comfortable around you and he keeps staring at you this whole time"
-At hang outs he's around me a lot and stares at me quite a bit and when he goes somewhere he either physically pushes me to get me to come with him or he leaves and expects me to follow him and he turns around to check.
Just a few days ago, while I was talking to a girl he would constantly turn around and stare and to hide it he would scratch his head and neck.
-At one late night hang out when it was just me him and another friend we were playing video games and I noticed from the corner of my eye that he was staring at me and then looked at me up and down. He then randomly said "if there's one person I would want to watch getting head it'd be you"
-Was willing to spend $35 to hang out at some concert. He would repeatedly whisper things in my ear and giggle and he would constantly make lame jokes. One time he tapped me on my shoulder and when I turned around he was staring at me with his eyes closed and lips slightly puckered and did this multiple times and said "I was trying to get you off your phone."
An interesting comment he made though was that at one point in this hangout he said "I wish you were (a girl he's apparently interested in) right now"
-When we first became friends I was his background wallpaper at one point. He would also frequently text me for no reason just to have a conversation with me. He'd also talk about me to his parents and he'd ask me if my mom likes him.
-At one hangout he told me to lie down next to him on the couch and he said "let's make out" twice
-Held my hand several times. When we first became friends, we were walking to the car and he asked if I could hold his hand and I just said "okay," then in the car he would put his arm around me and rest his head on my shoulder. We sat in the car once and he tapped my leg then grabbed my hand and held it. A few minutes in when our friends in the car pointed out that it was weird he said "this is awkward" and I let go after a few seconds, then he grabbed my hand back and said "sorry I was in the moment".
At his house we were watching a movie and he told me to sit next to him on the couch and then on 3 separate occasions he grabbed my hand and held it and also stretched his arms and put it around mine.
-Cares about my opinion a lot. One time I hinted a habit of his bothered me and he completely stopped doing it. Always asks for my opinion.
-Friends in our group constantly say how it's shocking how we have so many pictures together (I'm very very new)
-Was always extremely nice to me even though I was extremely cold towards him for a good month or two. To this day, even though we're close 90% of the time I just say (mostly jokingly) rude remarks to him and he still is really nice to me and tries to impress me (when he's playing a game, he tells me to specifically watch, when he's playing basketball he specifically tells me to watch, etc.) and always smiles while we're looking at each other and talking.
Example one: he made a joke about me in front of others and I told him that he's annoying and then he stoppedd talking, then a few seconds later he said "I'm heading inside ____ come with me" and I walked with him because I felt bad and as we were walking he would look and smile at me and try to make a conversation with me and when we stood next to each other he randomly tried linking arms and then he let go after a few seconds (we were around a lot of people). At this same event he said "I don't care about anyone else here I just care that ____ is here"
Example two: there was a girl who was "mine" for a day and I made out with her and apparently he tried to kiss her when I wasn't in the room, but he denied it. I got mad at him for it and the next time I saw him was at a party. The whole time he was constantly talking to me and teasing me until he realized I wasn't going to be nice to him and he left me alone. When I was on the dance floor later on, he would stop dancing with girls and he would grind on me and hold my hand and try slow dancing with me even though the music didn't fit, literally the whole time.
Someone pointed out that we've been dancing the whole time and I said "it's all him" and he responded with "shut up, you enjoy it!"
And he even pointed out weeks later during a hangout that "if someone lets you touch them if they like it they'll let you continue touching them"
-At prom, every time he saw me he would come near me and dance with me and while dancing he would hold my hands
-Touches my face and strokes my beard a lot
-Sits on my lap occasionally
-Randomly jumps on me for piggyback rides or for me to carry him
-Touches me unnecessarily. When we're playing a game instead of telling me to press a button, he controls my hand and presses the button for me. When he giggles a lot after I say something he hugs me and uses me as a head rest. He uses me as a "rest" a lot. Asks me to sit next to him even when I'm already sitting down somewhere else.
-Hugs me unnecessarily. A lot. A few weeks ago at a party I was talking to a friend who is a girl and he wasn't saying anything and just staring and he randomly says my name and hugs me and says "this is gonna be a long one." Sometimes while we're having a conversation he just hugs me in the middle of it. Sometimes he just looks at me and has the urge to hug me. If I say something that makes him giggle he'll hug me.
-Lets it slip that he snoops around a little bit. Asks why someone is my best friend on snapchat, knows my twitter bio when he doesn't even have a twitter, etc.
-Strangely compliments me. Always calls me sexy. Always asks if I think he looks sexy in pictures. If I say "interesting..." to something, he'll say "you're interesting."
-When I brought a girl over that I was interested in he was ing the entire time, sitting next to me on the couch while we were talking alone and putting his arm around my shoulder.
And there's probably a bunch of other things I forgot to mention. However, he does flirt with girls and has expressed interest that he wants to double date with me and whatnot, and sometimes encourages me to hook up with certain girls.
POST 2: A WEEK LATER
What confuses me is that he's really touchy-feely around me, we look each other in the eyes a lot (and for a long amount of time, usually), he sometimes blushes around me, teases me, etc. etc. pretty much everything I've listed, but then when we're hanging out with friends he'll say stuff like "we really need girlfriends" or "We really need side chicks" or he'll say "(my name) you should start talking to (this girl)."
And yesterday I was with him and slept over, and we slept next to each other in bed and we would unnecessarily touch a lot (legs and arms glued next to each other one moment, then he rests his head on my shoulder another moment, our butts are touching another moment, when we were both awake and in bed he would giggle and then hug me and sleep, etc. etc.), and when some other guys who slept over in another room admitted they had a certain bone pop out, he said "I think I had one too. Did you (my name)?" which is a little strange.
I've been posting on another site with updates. I'll include every post from the other one so far and tell me what you guys think!
POST 1: LAST MONTH
For example, here's what happened just this weekend: he was extremely weird with me. We were playing a video game and the location was rather "romantic" in the sense that it was full of flowers and water and it was nature-y and whatnot, and he said "wow this place is beautiful. (My name) we should go here one day." And he asked me to sit next to him, and when I did, he would scratch his head and then sneakily try to put his arm around my shoulder, multiple times. When I was near him but wasn't sitting directly next to him, he grabbed me and pulled me next to him then put his arms around my shoulder.
When we were standing next to each other, he randomly held my hands and started dancing with me.
When a song was on he grabbed my hands and then started grinding on me.
He would also randomly pull me towards him and hug him for no reason.
And then around other people he would ask "don't you just love mine and (my name's) relationship?" And one girl joked and asked how long we've been dating and he said "oh like 5 months."
And then when no one was talking, he said "let's ask each other questions" and he randomly asked me "do you think I'm a good looking guy? I think you're a good looking guy." And one of the guys noted how he thought that was weird of him to randohmly ask that, and so one of the guys asked "are you gay?" He replied by saying "Honestly..." and then he laughed and then changed the subject.
And then during a convo I said "I'm trying to think of something that's bad about me" and he said "there's absolutely nothing."
He asked only me out of everyone there to sleep over, and I did. We talked for about an hour until we knocked out, and in the morning, we talked a little more and then when I said something funny and he started giggling, he rolled out of his bed and then rested his legs on mine and hugged me.
And in general, he'll say stuff like this: "Oh and the sucking my part... That comes later it'll happen one day" which was said when he was leaving the room at a hangout.
"That sexually aroused "oh"", I like it": what he says after I say "oh" to something
"Can we sleep next to each other? The room is cold and dark and scary" this was said at a sleepover. He personally came up to me and said this even though there were many other guys around.
"If there was one guy you could make out with who would it be?" (At this same hangout, which was a sleepover, he looked at me, then jumped on me, noticed a gulp, then he went under my blanket and said "we're sharing the same blanket")
"If there was one guy in this group you could make out with who would it be?" "Making out with (me) I wonder what that feels like" " (me) would you make out with ___?"
"Oh yeah that was during my stalking stage"-this was said whenever I said he never saw me with a certain type of haircut and he said he did when he would stalk me on Facebook before he really knew me. Constantly brings up the fact that he thinks it's "trippy" how we became friends after meeting each other last year at some event
-Says "I love you" to me constantly.
-Always wants to be around me. The first time we hung out he always followed me around and told me to follow him. Now that we're close he has repeatedly asked to get drunk together, to work out together (not at the gym, but just us two at his house), to join a group he's in, "when we're going to (a certain vacation spot) you're in my car... Whether you like it or not" etc.
-Always interested in who I'm interested in. "I thought you liked her? What turned you off about her?" Etc.
-He remembers a lot of random things I've said and he also remembers specific gestures I do and copies a good amount of things I say and do
-At prom my date said "he seems too comfortable around you and he keeps staring at you this whole time"
-At hang outs he's around me a lot and stares at me quite a bit and when he goes somewhere he either physically pushes me to get me to come with him or he leaves and expects me to follow him and he turns around to check.
Just a few days ago, while I was talking to a girl he would constantly turn around and stare and to hide it he would scratch his head and neck.
-At one late night hang out when it was just me him and another friend we were playing video games and I noticed from the corner of my eye that he was staring at me and then looked at me up and down. He then randomly said "if there's one person I would want to watch getting head it'd be you"
-Was willing to spend $35 to hang out at some concert. He would repeatedly whisper things in my ear and giggle and he would constantly make lame jokes. One time he tapped me on my shoulder and when I turned around he was staring at me with his eyes closed and lips slightly puckered and did this multiple times and said "I was trying to get you off your phone."
An interesting comment he made though was that at one point in this hangout he said "I wish you were (a girl he's apparently interested in) right now"
-When we first became friends I was his background wallpaper at one point. He would also frequently text me for no reason just to have a conversation with me. He'd also talk about me to his parents and he'd ask me if my mom likes him.
-At one hangout he told me to lie down next to him on the couch and he said "let's make out" twice
-Held my hand several times. When we first became friends, we were walking to the car and he asked if I could hold his hand and I just said "okay," then in the car he would put his arm around me and rest his head on my shoulder. We sat in the car once and he tapped my leg then grabbed my hand and held it. A few minutes in when our friends in the car pointed out that it was weird he said "this is awkward" and I let go after a few seconds, then he grabbed my hand back and said "sorry I was in the moment".
At his house we were watching a movie and he told me to sit next to him on the couch and then on 3 separate occasions he grabbed my hand and held it and also stretched his arms and put it around mine.
-Cares about my opinion a lot. One time I hinted a habit of his bothered me and he completely stopped doing it. Always asks for my opinion.
-Friends in our group constantly say how it's shocking how we have so many pictures together (I'm very very new)
-Was always extremely nice to me even though I was extremely cold towards him for a good month or two. To this day, even though we're close 90% of the time I just say (mostly jokingly) rude remarks to him and he still is really nice to me and tries to impress me (when he's playing a game, he tells me to specifically watch, when he's playing basketball he specifically tells me to watch, etc.) and always smiles while we're looking at each other and talking.
Example one: he made a joke about me in front of others and I told him that he's annoying and then he stoppedd talking, then a few seconds later he said "I'm heading inside ____ come with me" and I walked with him because I felt bad and as we were walking he would look and smile at me and try to make a conversation with me and when we stood next to each other he randomly tried linking arms and then he let go after a few seconds (we were around a lot of people). At this same event he said "I don't care about anyone else here I just care that ____ is here"
Example two: there was a girl who was "mine" for a day and I made out with her and apparently he tried to kiss her when I wasn't in the room, but he denied it. I got mad at him for it and the next time I saw him was at a party. The whole time he was constantly talking to me and teasing me until he realized I wasn't going to be nice to him and he left me alone. When I was on the dance floor later on, he would stop dancing with girls and he would grind on me and hold my hand and try slow dancing with me even though the music didn't fit, literally the whole time.
Someone pointed out that we've been dancing the whole time and I said "it's all him" and he responded with "shut up, you enjoy it!"
And he even pointed out weeks later during a hangout that "if someone lets you touch them if they like it they'll let you continue touching them"
-At prom, every time he saw me he would come near me and dance with me and while dancing he would hold my hands
-Touches my face and strokes my beard a lot
-Sits on my lap occasionally
-Randomly jumps on me for piggyback rides or for me to carry him
-Touches me unnecessarily. When we're playing a game instead of telling me to press a button, he controls my hand and presses the button for me. When he giggles a lot after I say something he hugs me and uses me as a head rest. He uses me as a "rest" a lot. Asks me to sit next to him even when I'm already sitting down somewhere else.
-Hugs me unnecessarily. A lot. A few weeks ago at a party I was talking to a friend who is a girl and he wasn't saying anything and just staring and he randomly says my name and hugs me and says "this is gonna be a long one." Sometimes while we're having a conversation he just hugs me in the middle of it. Sometimes he just looks at me and has the urge to hug me. If I say something that makes him giggle he'll hug me.
-Lets it slip that he snoops around a little bit. Asks why someone is my best friend on snapchat, knows my twitter bio when he doesn't even have a twitter, etc.
-Strangely compliments me. Always calls me sexy. Always asks if I think he looks sexy in pictures. If I say "interesting..." to something, he'll say "you're interesting."
-When I brought a girl over that I was interested in he was ing the entire time, sitting next to me on the couch while we were talking alone and putting his arm around my shoulder.
And there's probably a bunch of other things I forgot to mention. However, he does flirt with girls and has expressed interest that he wants to double date with me and whatnot, and sometimes encourages me to hook up with certain girls.
POST 2: A WEEK LATER
What confuses me is that he's really touchy-feely around me, we look each other in the eyes a lot (and for a long amount of time, usually), he sometimes blushes around me, teases me, etc. etc. pretty much everything I've listed, but then when we're hanging out with friends he'll say stuff like "we really need girlfriends" or "We really need side chicks" or he'll say "(my name) you should start talking to (this girl)."
And yesterday I was with him and slept over, and we slept next to each other in bed and we would unnecessarily touch a lot (legs and arms glued next to each other one moment, then he rests his head on my shoulder another moment, our butts are touching another moment, when we were both awake and in bed he would giggle and then hug me and sleep, etc. etc.), and when some other guys who slept over in another room admitted they had a certain bone pop out, he said "I think I had one too. Did you (my name)?" which is a little strange.