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thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:20 PM
Hey there. So I've had a friend that I've known for over a year. We were acquaintances until around 7 months ago and since then we've been friends, and for the past 3 months, we've been close. And he's been very lovey-dovey and touchy-feely for a while (he's a flirty guy in general but I'm the only male he acts like this towards). He's apparently straight and so am I (in public)... But I've grown feelings for him the past couple of months and I'm wondering if I'm just being delusional or if it's worth telling him that I have feelings.

I've been posting on another site with updates. I'll include every post from the other one so far and tell me what you guys think!

POST 1: LAST MONTH
For example, here's what happened just this weekend: he was extremely weird with me. We were playing a video game and the location was rather "romantic" in the sense that it was full of flowers and water and it was nature-y and whatnot, and he said "wow this place is beautiful. (My name) we should go here one day." And he asked me to sit next to him, and when I did, he would scratch his head and then sneakily try to put his arm around my shoulder, multiple times. When I was near him but wasn't sitting directly next to him, he grabbed me and pulled me next to him then put his arms around my shoulder.

When we were standing next to each other, he randomly held my hands and started dancing with me.

When a song was on he grabbed my hands and then started grinding on me.

He would also randomly pull me towards him and hug him for no reason.

And then around other people he would ask "don't you just love mine and (my name's) relationship?" And one girl joked and asked how long we've been dating and he said "oh like 5 months."
And then when no one was talking, he said "let's ask each other questions" and he randomly asked me "do you think I'm a good looking guy? I think you're a good looking guy." And one of the guys noted how he thought that was weird of him to randohmly ask that, and so one of the guys asked "are you gay?" He replied by saying "Honestly..." and then he laughed and then changed the subject.

And then during a convo I said "I'm trying to think of something that's bad about me" and he said "there's absolutely nothing."

He asked only me out of everyone there to sleep over, and I did. We talked for about an hour until we knocked out, and in the morning, we talked a little more and then when I said something funny and he started giggling, he rolled out of his bed and then rested his legs on mine and hugged me.

And in general, he'll say stuff like this: "Oh and the sucking my part... That comes later it'll happen one day" which was said when he was leaving the room at a hangout.

"That sexually aroused "oh"", I like it": what he says after I say "oh" to something

"Can we sleep next to each other? The room is cold and dark and scary" this was said at a sleepover. He personally came up to me and said this even though there were many other guys around.

"If there was one guy you could make out with who would it be?" (At this same hangout, which was a sleepover, he looked at me, then jumped on me, noticed a gulp, then he went under my blanket and said "we're sharing the same blanket")

"If there was one guy in this group you could make out with who would it be?" "Making out with (me) I wonder what that feels like" " (me) would you make out with ___?"
"Oh yeah that was during my stalking stage"-this was said whenever I said he never saw me with a certain type of haircut and he said he did when he would stalk me on Facebook before he really knew me. Constantly brings up the fact that he thinks it's "trippy" how we became friends after meeting each other last year at some event

-Says "I love you" to me constantly.

-Always wants to be around me. The first time we hung out he always followed me around and told me to follow him. Now that we're close he has repeatedly asked to get drunk together, to work out together (not at the gym, but just us two at his house), to join a group he's in, "when we're going to (a certain vacation spot) you're in my car... Whether you like it or not" etc.

-Always interested in who I'm interested in. "I thought you liked her? What turned you off about her?" Etc.

-He remembers a lot of random things I've said and he also remembers specific gestures I do and copies a good amount of things I say and do

-At prom my date said "he seems too comfortable around you and he keeps staring at you this whole time"

-At hang outs he's around me a lot and stares at me quite a bit and when he goes somewhere he either physically pushes me to get me to come with him or he leaves and expects me to follow him and he turns around to check.
Just a few days ago, while I was talking to a girl he would constantly turn around and stare and to hide it he would scratch his head and neck.

-At one late night hang out when it was just me him and another friend we were playing video games and I noticed from the corner of my eye that he was staring at me and then looked at me up and down. He then randomly said "if there's one person I would want to watch getting head it'd be you"

-Was willing to spend $35 to hang out at some concert. He would repeatedly whisper things in my ear and giggle and he would constantly make lame jokes. One time he tapped me on my shoulder and when I turned around he was staring at me with his eyes closed and lips slightly puckered and did this multiple times and said "I was trying to get you off your phone."
An interesting comment he made though was that at one point in this hangout he said "I wish you were (a girl he's apparently interested in) right now"

-When we first became friends I was his background wallpaper at one point. He would also frequently text me for no reason just to have a conversation with me. He'd also talk about me to his parents and he'd ask me if my mom likes him.

-At one hangout he told me to lie down next to him on the couch and he said "let's make out" twice

-Held my hand several times. When we first became friends, we were walking to the car and he asked if I could hold his hand and I just said "okay," then in the car he would put his arm around me and rest his head on my shoulder. We sat in the car once and he tapped my leg then grabbed my hand and held it. A few minutes in when our friends in the car pointed out that it was weird he said "this is awkward" and I let go after a few seconds, then he grabbed my hand back and said "sorry I was in the moment".
At his house we were watching a movie and he told me to sit next to him on the couch and then on 3 separate occasions he grabbed my hand and held it and also stretched his arms and put it around mine.

-Cares about my opinion a lot. One time I hinted a habit of his bothered me and he completely stopped doing it. Always asks for my opinion.

-Friends in our group constantly say how it's shocking how we have so many pictures together (I'm very very new)

-Was always extremely nice to me even though I was extremely cold towards him for a good month or two. To this day, even though we're close 90% of the time I just say (mostly jokingly) rude remarks to him and he still is really nice to me and tries to impress me (when he's playing a game, he tells me to specifically watch, when he's playing basketball he specifically tells me to watch, etc.) and always smiles while we're looking at each other and talking.
Example one: he made a joke about me in front of others and I told him that he's annoying and then he stoppedd talking, then a few seconds later he said "I'm heading inside ____ come with me" and I walked with him because I felt bad and as we were walking he would look and smile at me and try to make a conversation with me and when we stood next to each other he randomly tried linking arms and then he let go after a few seconds (we were around a lot of people). At this same event he said "I don't care about anyone else here I just care that ____ is here"

Example two: there was a girl who was "mine" for a day and I made out with her and apparently he tried to kiss her when I wasn't in the room, but he denied it. I got mad at him for it and the next time I saw him was at a party. The whole time he was constantly talking to me and teasing me until he realized I wasn't going to be nice to him and he left me alone. When I was on the dance floor later on, he would stop dancing with girls and he would grind on me and hold my hand and try slow dancing with me even though the music didn't fit, literally the whole time.
Someone pointed out that we've been dancing the whole time and I said "it's all him" and he responded with "shut up, you enjoy it!"
And he even pointed out weeks later during a hangout that "if someone lets you touch them if they like it they'll let you continue touching them"

-At prom, every time he saw me he would come near me and dance with me and while dancing he would hold my hands

-Touches my face and strokes my beard a lot

-Sits on my lap occasionally

-Randomly jumps on me for piggyback rides or for me to carry him

-Touches me unnecessarily. When we're playing a game instead of telling me to press a button, he controls my hand and presses the button for me. When he giggles a lot after I say something he hugs me and uses me as a head rest. He uses me as a "rest" a lot. Asks me to sit next to him even when I'm already sitting down somewhere else.

-Hugs me unnecessarily. A lot. A few weeks ago at a party I was talking to a friend who is a girl and he wasn't saying anything and just staring and he randomly says my name and hugs me and says "this is gonna be a long one." Sometimes while we're having a conversation he just hugs me in the middle of it. Sometimes he just looks at me and has the urge to hug me. If I say something that makes him giggle he'll hug me.

-Lets it slip that he snoops around a little bit. Asks why someone is my best friend on snapchat, knows my twitter bio when he doesn't even have a twitter, etc.

-Strangely compliments me. Always calls me sexy. Always asks if I think he looks sexy in pictures. If I say "interesting..." to something, he'll say "you're interesting."

-When I brought a girl over that I was interested in he was ing the entire time, sitting next to me on the couch while we were talking alone and putting his arm around my shoulder.

And there's probably a bunch of other things I forgot to mention. However, he does flirt with girls and has expressed interest that he wants to double date with me and whatnot, and sometimes encourages me to hook up with certain girls.

POST 2: A WEEK LATER

What confuses me is that he's really touchy-feely around me, we look each other in the eyes a lot (and for a long amount of time, usually), he sometimes blushes around me, teases me, etc. etc. pretty much everything I've listed, but then when we're hanging out with friends he'll say stuff like "we really need girlfriends" or "We really need side chicks" or he'll say "(my name) you should start talking to (this girl)."

And yesterday I was with him and slept over, and we slept next to each other in bed and we would unnecessarily touch a lot (legs and arms glued next to each other one moment, then he rests his head on my shoulder another moment, our butts are touching another moment, when we were both awake and in bed he would giggle and then hug me and sleep, etc. etc.), and when some other guys who slept over in another room admitted they had a certain bone pop out, he said "I think I had one too. Did you (my name)?" which is a little strange.

thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:24 PM
POST 3: WEEKEND TRIP
So I had the trip with him and our friends this weekend... It was great and I really feel like it immensely strengthened our friendship. Because I'm always mean to him I felt like I should tell him that in actuality I love him (as far as he knows, as just a friend) and he got happy and said "really? Do you really mean that? You'd consider me as someone in your Top 5 best friends at least?"

Judging from that reaction I realized that I've been colder to him than I'd thought. Throughout the weekend he would imitate some things I usually do, and bring up random things I've said, and when I did something similar he responded with a "wow I'm surprised you remembered that," which further showed me that I've been colder to him than I had thought.


Anyways, throughout the weekend he'd still do the "random hug for no reason" thing quite frequently. And the intimacy of the hugs have definitely increase. They're longer, more tight, and our faces are always touching and are sort of "glued together" as we hug.

We also had the whole "staring" thing going on as usual... We pass it off as a joke but we really look at each other in the eyes far more than any other guy friend I've had... We also teased each other the whole time pretty much (I'd insult him, he'd insult me, he'd say something to get our angry drunk friends mad at me as a joke, etc.) and he asked everyone "don't you just love the relationship we have?"

He took a few shots and we were doing some karaoke and it was just me and him performing and dancing while our friends watched the whole time, and he put his arm around me the whole time as well and at some points far lower (but not too low).

At one point he started grinding on me and tried grabbing my hands and someone said to him "okay he's definitely feeling the drinking." And he responded saying "no I'm just always happy when I'm around (me)."

When I fell asleep he came up to me, said goodnight and then kissed me on the forehead.

And we were both sitting next to each other in the car on the way back and this was the weirdest thing... I was paying close attention to how he would touch me the whole time. He had a lot of space but still chose to have our legs touching the whole time. He'd move his leg for a few seconds, but then would unnecessarily have his legs touching mine again. When I would zone out he would try to get my attention and when we started dancing he had his arm around my shoulder for at least a good 20 minutes as we'd dance in the car together, and he had his arm rested on my leg for a good 20 minutes as well. When we weren't saying anything, after a while he'd lightly tap me and try to make a joke and get my attention and we'd do the whole usual "staring" thing as we'd jokingly make fun of/insult each other.

While we were staring he said "this whole weekend there's been a hair on your mustache let me pull it out" and for a good 5 minutes he was holding my mouth area and pulling hairs off. And during the last few hours we were with each other he asked if just him and I should get haircuts together, meaning he wanted to have a one-on-one hangout which was nice.

POST 4(2 weeks ago)
Okay so today was amazing... he was giving me his attention pretty much 90% of the time. He laughed at almost everything I said, he'd jokingly tease me pretty much the entire time (he'd constantly make me the butt of jokes, for instance, or take a toy gun and squirt water at me, etc.), we'd look into each others' eyes directly every time we talked, and he frequently hugged me (I'd say we hugged at least 7 times today).

And when we first arrived at the pool party I said "this is gonna be awkward I know pretty much no one" and he said "it's okay stick with me and you'll be safe."

We went to a pool party and he'd basically want to do everything together. He'd follow me around and he'd tell me to come with him everywhere (if he wanted to smoke outside, he'd tell me to come. If he was in the jacuzzi, he'd tell me to come. etc. etc.). At one point he told me to come with him into the bathroom where he changed and peed in front of me and said "if you've ever wanted to look at my penis now's your chance." He wanted us to eat together, take our shirts off for the pool together, etc.

And when we were just standing around we hugged and then "air-kissed" me on the cheek and he said "Be thankful. I don't do that to very many people" and I said "you've already kissed me on the forehead" and he said "really?" and I said "yeah, a few days ago" and he said "oh..."

And then when we were in the jacuzzi... he wouldn't stop getting near me. He would put his arm around me, or play footsies, and at one point we were sitting right next to each other and our legs were practically glued and because we were in the pool we'd move our legs but we were still glued to each other so it was practically like we were rubbing our legs... and neither of us were moving away.

And then the jacuzzi didn't warm up and I started to freeze and I kept rubbing my hands together and said that I was cold and he said "(me) stop being cold. Just come here and let's cuddle. I'm being serious" and someone commented saying "(him) is sexually frustrated" and he didn't say anything to that.

When people were trying to splash him or spray water guns on him he'd grab me and hug me and use me as a shield and he'd say "save me."

And there was one particular hug where we hugged, then we talked and stared, and then while talking he said "man, there's another hair sticking out again" and then he took his hands and started taking hairs out of my mustache again.

And then later on he started hugging me in the jacuzzi, and then he jumped on me and had me carry him in the jacuzzi while he hugged me and someone commented saying "wow you guys are such a cute couple how long have you two been dating?" and he said "eh, y'know, we've been on and off"


And then there was this one point where he stood in between my legs and wanted to lie down on my lap but I let go of the grip because I was getting a... y'know... 3rd leg and I'm almost 100% sure he felt it and it didn't feel like he was creeped out... at all. He kept telling me to accompany him everywhere at the party, using me as the butt of jokes/teasing me, putting his arm around me, etc. and ever since he found out I like the same fast food place he does, he's been wanting to eat there with me all the time and we went together for the second time today but his dad was on his case so he had to leave, and he said "aw man I really wanted to sit and eat with you."


Once another one of our friends came near the end he became far more serious, though. And he even asked me "did you have a good time here? Got any girl's number?"

POST 5
So today he came over to my house with some other friends, and the whole time he was basically following me; I would come into my house while everyone was outside to get some food for them or to clean up, and every single time, he'd accompany me inside. Despite having around 7 other people over, we had a lot of alone time because of this. I noticed how he didn't blush while laughing around anyone else, but he blushed a lot around me while laughing.

When he wanted to use the bathroom, he asked me if he wanted to come with him, again. And yeah, he'd pretty much accompany me everywhere. If I went to look into the fridge, he did it with me. If I went to pet my dog, he came along with me. If I was eating pizza, he'd come next to me. If I was getting something from downstairs, he'd come with me. If I was getting something from my friend's car, he'd come with me. If he wanted to go somewhere he'd ask me to come with him.

And when we were alone and talking we'd pretty much stare at each others' eyes while talking, usually pretty much just teasing each other, making fun of each others' laughs or things we'd say. He also brought up a lot of things that no one else would remember, such as one thing my grandma would say, which is something I probably brought up once months ago.

There was even a point where we stopped talking, we just stared into each others' eyes for at least 6 seconds, then he tapped my shoulders, my hips, my ears, then my face, then hugged me.

Speaking of hugs, he randomly hugged me at least 5 times. And I'm almost 100% sure for one of them he felt my... 3rd leg... and he wasn't creeped out at all. Everything was still how it was. I also noticed him trying to fix his hair, especially when I jokingly pointed out that his hair was bad. When we were playing video games, he made him and I partners against two other friends, and every time I'd look at him, he'd raise his eyebrows and point to the TV, open his mouth, stick his tongue out and move his lips up and down. Dunno if that means anything, really.

And this time he didn't mention girls at all. And he was always oriented towards me if he wasn't talking to me.

And lastly, both him and I acted very different and very straight the moment my brother came home. And once my mom was in the living room sitting on the couch he would no longer accompany me inside.

So yeah. Overall tonight was nice. I felt a great connection with us. He wouldn't leave my sight.

Also, another thing that I noticed: he never wants to hurt me in any way, ever.

If I do something and someone else does the same thing and it makes him mad, he'll only get mad at the other person. If I jokingly hit him, he hits me back very lightly. One time I was hitting him with a pillow and to fight back he hit me with a pillow twice, then dropped it and hugged me. And today he jokingly tried to light out a cigarette on my face and then said "no I'd never do anything like that to you."

thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:26 PM
POST 6

Re: Does my friend think of me as more than a friend?
Well I got a little pissed off today.

So ever since he found out that we like the same fast food place and it's near our school that we now both attend, he's been wanting to go with me. Even though my class ends at 2 and his ends at 4, he asked me to wait for a couple of hours until him and another friend in our group finished the class. I had work around the area at 6 so today I decided to stay (though yesterday I didn't, and he wanted us to eat together).

So from the moment I saw him he was blushing and smiling and we were teasing/mocking/poking fun at one-another, and I noticed him preening a lot; fixing his hair and stuff. And while we were eating and sitting next to each other we would "accidentally" touch a lot and both of us would delay moving away after a good 10 or so seconds and when we were teasing each other he randomly grabbed my arm from near its pit and started squeezing it. I mean it's nothing super sexual or quite possibly not sexual at all but it's worth noting, I guess.

And then when another friend came to join us while eating, we were continuing our usual behavior until a few minutes in when he said "if you two were gay you'd make the perfect gay couple." And then he responded by saying "of course you say that because of (me) it's all (me) cuz he's gay" and he also said something like "yeah I couldn't concentrate in class because of this chick sitting in front of me I was staring at her the whole time" around 10 minutes before our other friend came in.

which really really pissed me off because he's been the one from the beginning doing all the non-straight touching and whatnot which made me have feelings for him. I have literally never made a move on him. So it really pissed me off.

I'm seeing him tomorrow at an event and I don't think anyone from our group will be there (unless he invited them over the course of tonight while he was hanging out with them while I was at work) but I dunno, today had me annoyed.

POST 7
This friendship is slowly killing me...

I tried my best to stay mad but I couldn't do it. He called all excited asking if I was coming to the event that went on tonight, I gave him attitude on the phone. He messaged in the group chat asking where I was, I didn't respond. And then at the event I tried avoiding him and being cold but I just couldn't anymore. The entire time he'd follow me around or orient himself around me; whenever I wouldn't follow him, he'd yell my name and say "come (even if it was the bathroom)", whenever I went somewhere without telling him he'd say stuff like "you think you can escape me?" and he'd always look at me and try to get my attention and when I'd purposely ignore him he'd just tap me on my shoulder or yell my name over and over again until I looked. We were together practically the entire time and we did the usual staring and teasing, and he'd ask people the usual "don't you just love our relationship?" And of course we'd get the usual comments we get like "you guys are weird" etc. etc. And he blushed literally 90% of the time he was talking to me.

And when I was jokingly rude to him he'd say things like "are you serious? Please tell me you're not serious," when I tried rejecting hugs he'd say "no" and try hugging me again, when I told him to shut up or stop talking he'd look at me and say "you love me. Come on, you love me" and would try hugging me, etc.

He'd get us alone a lot, and at one point he told me to sit with him at a table all by ourselves, and a few minutes in he'd say "why are we sitting here we look like we're dating" (in a joking manner).

And at one point we were randomly talking and he said "make out sesh?" to me.


And then two things really pissed me off... we were inside, watching a presentation, and he told me to come stand next to him, then he randomly asked "which chick would you bang?" And then around 20 minutes later he wanted me to come with him outside to accompany him on his cigarette break while he vented about how some of our friends made fun of him for hooking up with this girl (same trip where I hooked up with some girl a few weeks back) and he said "funny how that made me a little more attracted to her. Doesn't it feel the same way with you (my name) when you hook up?"


I dunno. I just hate this. When we're actually talking and spending time he always follows me, constantly laughs, blushes, we obviously flirt, constantly get gay comments, there are days where he gets insanely touchy-feely, says gay stuff quite frequently that I'd never imagine a straight person saying (such as "if I could watch one person get a blowjob it'd be you" "if you could make out with one guy in this group who would it be?" "make out sesh?" etc.), and I'm almost sure he's seen or felt a boner at this point (if not it's a miracle)... and yet he still brings up ladies. And I am attracted to girls but at this point I'm attracted to him more than anyone else.

I dunno... I really don't know what to do. At some point I know I won't be able to take it anymore, because there are some points where, in my mind, I'd say "he's for sure into me," other times I'd think "he might be into me, or he might just be an amazing friend," other times I think "he's just a friend for sure," etc. and it's insanely maddening. I hate it.

Maybe soon I'll just say that I can't be friends with him anymore and if he cares to ask I'll pour my heart out in private. I just can't take this. It's driving me insane.

thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:30 PM
POST 8
More confusion today.

He asked me if he wanted to eat at our favorite fast food place again today and I said sure. We met up afterwards, and, of course, the entire time, did the same old routine. Blushed a lot, teased each other a lot, etc.

We sat next to each other in the car and he held my hand until someone pointed out "hey look they're holding hands."

And when we said bye to a friend, he hugged the friend, then came up to me and said "...and I'm just hugging you because I like hugging you."

Then we went to his house. When we were playing games he wanted to be on my team for everything and we would stare at each other and tease each other a lot.

And in terms of actual flirting we'd do, some examples would be that we'd constantly stare at each other, and either I'd say "I know I have a beautiful face but stop staring at me" or he would.

And if I said "**** you" to him, he'd say "okay sure what time?"

The whole time, and practically every time, we're with each other, we just stare at each other in a joking manner. To describe it accurately... one of us starts staring, we give a joking angry stare (but lately both of us pretty much smile whilst trying to pull off an angry stare), we make fun of each other somehow, look away, look back, look away, look back, etc. until one of us breaks it off. And something he does is just continuously stare while I look away and look back and then he cracks a slight smile then we break it off. And sometimes we just stare at each other while making fun of each other by mimicking each others' voices/mannerisms. I dunno. But basically, we stare at each other a lot. And smile to each other a lot. And he may blush more than the usual person, but he is definitely smiling and blushing eery time.

And after a particular instance of staring, he randomly said "(me) I just love you. I love you so much."

And, of course, after two other instances of staring, he tried pulling something from my eye area, and from my mustache again.

We were standing next to each other at one point and he put his right arm around my shoulder, then he took my left arm and put it around his waist.

And at one point we were sitting outside... and that's when he began to be really touchy-feely. He was next to me the whole time and then would put his arm around me, then he started taking out his phone and snapchatting with people. He would constantly snap pictures with me and we'd take photos together. For a good 20 minutes he had his arm around me. For one photo our cheeks were pressed against each other. In another photo I was holding his phone and he came from behind and rested his head on my shoulder. In another photo he put his hand on my mouth.

Then we all decided to sit in a circle. He pulled up a chair and sat next to where I was standing and he told me to grab a chair. I sat next to him, then he pulled me and he put his hands around my face and held it to his chest as he rested his head on mine.

Then, at one point, the other guys went inside for a few minutes. And a few seconds in, there was just silence as we were looking at our phones, and then he just rest his head on my shoulder, and after a minute said "we need girlfriends, man."

And then for the rest of the night, he would sit near me for anything and our legs would be touching/rubbing, or he'd use me as a leg rest.

And today he basically showed me how, if I find something of his annoying, he stops saying/doing it... and it's usually just phrases that he likes to use (and some of them a lot of people love) and he just stops them, for me. Which I find sweet.


So yeah... what do you guys think of today? Lots of touchy-feely but then there was that "we need girlfriends" comment...

POST 9
Today we were at a party/kickback... And from the moment we were there together he would hint for me to follow him. For example, when he had to use the bathroom, he passed by me and tapped my shoulder hinting for me to accompany him but I didn't.

And he specifically only asked me to accompany him to a food place a few blocks away, along with randomly asking me to go to pet the houseowner's dog who was resting inside. He only asked me. And he was only willing to drink because I did.

The few times where we had a convo were, obviously, very intimate in the sense that we would stand next to each other and stare into each others' eyes a hell of a lot, and he would randomly hug me a lot too, usually after insulting him. Example, I'd say "I hate you" and he'd say "no you love me" and hug me. I also called him a jack *** and he said "I can't believe you think that's what I am" and I said "I'm joking" and he said "okay to prove it you need to hug me" and I did and he said "make this long" while we were hugging.

We were posing for a photo at one point. I had my arm around his shoulder and he moved it to his waist. I pointed that out, then he changed it to mid-body, then to his ass for a few seconds.

And the hand-holding from yesterday was brought up and he said "shut up I had a reason" I asked "and what's that" and he said "it's our friendship"

An interesting tidbit: he's been known as a ladies man, constantly asks if there's girls at a party or kickback or whatever... But he said in a convo with a few guys (one of them he just met) stating that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex... And
He's not even that religious.

And we were also talking at one point and we were talking how we usually talk aka stare and I guess flirt and one of our close friends said "are you guys gay? This whole time..." And I couldn't hear the rest.

POST 10: LAST UPDATE, TWO DAYS AGO
I was with him again yesterday and we had a great time. I got mad at him the day before for something small and I was cold towards him, but today when he saw me he was so happy when he saw me and hugged me that I couldn't continue it. From the get-go he wanted to sit next to me at the restaurant we were at; at the beach he wanted to swim with me but I didn't because I'm a little uncomfortable with my body. But as usual, we got another "are you guys gay" (to which he said yeah) comment when we were hanging out; and of course every time we talked we mimicked each other and teased each other and looked at each other straight in the eye. And at one point he said "we tease each other but in reality we're best friends" and then he hugged me. I've also noticed lately that it's hard for him to keep a straight face around me, and numerous times, I have noticed from the corner of my eye that he would look at me and then proceed to smile.

And for some reason he only asks me to accompany me him to places, such as the bathroom. Which he did again twice today.

We were walking with each other and another friend when we were exiting the beach, but the whole time we walked we focused on each other and made fun of each other as usual, and joked around. When we sat in the car we were 3 people in the back at first, but then it was just us two. Despite this, he was still right next to me and we were practically glued for a good 20 minutes; he rested my head on his shoulder and said the "we need girlfriends" thing again. He moved over when he realized someone had been gone in the back for over 20 minutes.

Then at someone's house, he sat next to me and his leg was resting over mine until I moved away. He asked people the "don't you just love mine and (me)'s relationship" question again and at one point he was smiling and looked at me and said "I just like you a lot, okay?" And when I left I forgot to hug him and then he said "hey!" And then he approached me, got ridiculously close to my face (which I said to him), and then we had a long hug. I then let go and then he hugged me again.


I dunno. Not much to go by but I can tell for sure that he enjoys my company a lot. And when I wasn't there for a hangout one day this week a friend told me that he said "wow you can really feel the emptiness without (me)" so yeah.

thatoneguy555
July 6th, 2014, 10:32 PM
Sorry for the novel, guys! But these were posts and updates from another site over the course of two months and I wanted to post it here. If you guys can actually read it and give me feedback that'd be great and I'll update here as well!

thatoneguy555
July 7th, 2014, 08:53 AM
Eh I sort of knew it'd be impossible to gins people that's read all this. But it's be greatly appreciated!

Living For Love
July 7th, 2014, 06:55 PM
Two questions:
- How old are both of you?
- Do you prefer your friendship to keep this way or to actually start having something more serious?

It's just because I think he only sees you as a friend, nothing more. 90% of this type of cases and situations when a certain guy acts lovey-dovey and touchy-feely are cases of guys who are straight but, like he said, need a girlfriend, and in order to overcome that gap, they decide to act that way towards their best friends, in this case you.

I'm not going to tell you to tell him how you feel about him because it could threaten your friendship, so I suggest you keep things this way. Just make sure he doesn't get too boring or annoying for always wanting to be with you, etc...

NickCollins
July 20th, 2014, 11:03 PM
i read most of it
couple questions
-how old are u two
-do u like what hes doing
-would u date him

i wish i had a friend like this
i had a guy like this but milder and he turned out to just be an ass to my friend who like him