Was I wrong not to ask her out after she said she want doing much during the holidays

[User-Unknown]

I asked the girl I like how her holidays were and she told me it was alright and told me she wasn't doing much. I told my dad afterwards and he told me that I should have asked her to meet up. I told her friends who are my friends that I like her (and who I trust), told me not to tell her I like her or ask her out because she is doing her final year of high school. I think her parents have a positive view on me and are also strict on her, and asking her out will change their view on me and might reduce my chances of ever going out with her, and I don't want that to happen. The main thing is I don't want to be the one who possibly ruins her performance in her final year of school by asking her out.

Was it wrong for me to not ask her out because she said she wasn't doing much these holidays or am I right to wait until she finishes her high school before telling/asking her?

[unknownuser]

Well, first off, that's really sweet of you to care about her and how she does in school.

I'd say go for it, otherwise, you might miss your chance. If you don't ask her, someone else might... If she really isn't doing much this summer, you asking her to hang out might be a really pleasant surprise. If you're worrying about bothering her and taking up her time while she's in school, just don't become one of those clingy couples that have to be together all the time and text each-other 24/7.

Good luck. :)

[CrazyPerson101]

I asked the girl I like how her holidays were and she told me it was alright and told me she wasn't doing much. I told my dad afterwards and he told me that I should have asked her to meet up. I told her friends who are my friends that I like her (and who I trust), told me not to tell her I like her or ask her out because she is doing her final year of high school. I think her parents have a positive view on me and are also strict on her, and asking her out will change their view on me and might reduce my chances of ever going out with her, and I don't want that to happen. The main thing is I don't want to be the one who possibly ruins her performance in her final year of school by asking her out.

Was it wrong for me to not ask her out because she said she wasn't doing much these holidays or am I right to wait until she finishes her high school before telling/asking her?

Well, first off, that's really sweet of you to care about her and how she does in school.

I'd say go for it, otherwise, you might miss your chance. If you don't ask her, someone else might... If she really isn't doing much this summer, you asking her to hang out might be a really pleasant surprise. If you're worrying about bothering her and taking up her time while she's in school, just don't become one of those clingy couples that have to be together all the time and text each-other 24/7.

Good luck. :)


I agree ^^ , don't wait to long because your chance could go away ( speaking from personal experince ) Good luck

[SillyShyGuy]

If she thinks that a relationship will be a burden for her final year of high school then she is not the girl for you. If she cannot make time for you, then it is not meant to be. If you are doubting yourself and second guessing what you should do then it is not a good time. Ask her, one to one and see what she says.

[User-Unknown]

Well, first off, that's really sweet of you to care about her and how she does in school.

I'd say go for it, otherwise, you might miss your chance. If you don't ask her, someone else might... If she really isn't doing much this summer, you asking her to hang out might be a really pleasant surprise. If you're worrying about bothering her and taking up her time while she's in school, just don't become one of those clingy couples that have to be together all the time and text each-other 24/7.

Good luck. :)

Her parents are strict, so if they find out that she is going out with me she will be in trouble and their view on me (which i think is positive at the moment) will fall. I even told her friends who said not to tell her until after she has finished also that I might lose her with my history of asking girls out late and will lead to them saying no or they are seeing someone else. I don't want this to happen again and also don't want her parents to lose their positive view on me.

I attend a group event every weekend which she goes to (at the end she always drops another guy home, which makes me think she likes him). One night, before she was leaving I wanted to say bye to her. Instead of touching her shoulder to get her attention, I put my hand on her waist/lower back saying see you to her. She looked behind, looked down (maybe smiled) and said see you back to me. The next time I saw her I asked how her holidays were and she said it was alright and she wasn't doing much (without me asking her). After, my dad told me I should have asked her to meet up. Now, I feel that I've possibly lost my chance but I also don't want to ruin her final year in school and/or let her parents views on me change.

[User-Unknown]

If she thinks that a relationship will be a burden for her final year of high school then she is not the girl for you. If she cannot make time for you, then it is not meant to be. If you are doubting yourself and second guessing what you should do then it is not a good time. Ask her, one to one and see what she says.

I also think entering into a relationship will ruin her studies. So its not her, but her parents and what my parents have told me when I finished my final year of high school (when I liked girls when in high school). I have waited all the time until I gain confidence to tell the girls I like, but by the time I do, its too late. This is the first time I'm ready to ask her out a little earlier but want to wait so I don't affect her studies. But this girl, she seems to take her parents advice.

[SillyShyGuy]

Well it is best to respect her parents' wishes about dating.