There's a girl I like but ...

[drunkbanana]

Hey guys , today i want to discuss a problem i have with you :\
To start , there's a girl was a girl in my extra math classes that I really started liking her , and now i really want to go out with her .. But i don't have any experience on what to do or what to say ... I barely go with my friends for a coffee or sth like that ... (I'm 15and she's 15 too) . I didn't have a relationship before . When we where chatting in a break , she told me that she is embarassed that she never had a relationship , and at another that he would go on some sort of a date with a guy she liked (but it failed) and some times she points out that i'm a funny guy , and when we return to our houses from the extra classes we walk side to side 'n' stuff . However i really don't know what to do ... Chat with her for 3 days at facebook then ask her to go for a coffee or something ? Wouldn't that actually YELL that i like her? Also we're both inexperienced , i am desperate , can someone help me ???

[Living For Love]

I guess she's just as nervous as you, you don't have to worry. Ask her if she wants to have lunch or coffee with you or something, make it seem natural. Make sure you don't pressure her too much, and keep the conversation flowing.

[SillyShyGuy]

I think the two of you would make a perfect couple. You both lack experience, which is why if you ask her on a date neither of you will have to worry about pressure. Ask her if she has any plans for the weekend and if she would like to see a movie with you or grab a cup of coffee. If she says no, do not be sad but instead tell her maybe another time.

[drunkbanana]

Yeah thats what i had in my mind before coming here but i really fear what will happen if she says no because even though it will seem natural she may "discover" my goal and i don't want to lose her
Edit:Thanks for the fast replies

[JamesSuperBoy]

skip the facebook chat and just suggest something like a coffee if thats the regular thing.

[audiophile5]

Go for it, she seems to be into you. But, no matter what, please don't do it on Facebook/sms. It'll take courage to ask her directly, but, as you said, she didn't have a relationship before, so don't worry! And do it, don't ask yourself whether you want it or not, don't think that you've never been with anyone before.
Don't let it wait any longer, or she'll lose interest eventually, if you don't act, and she'll find somebody else, and you'll be the one to be left alone, thinking "why didn't I ask her out?"

Sorry to be so dramatic, I went through this same situation and didn't do anything, and I know how much it hurts.

[greenstar]

Well there are many things you can do. I mean well if you are really really shy and awkward, it might make things more difficult. The first thing you have to do is open up a bit and i mean well since u have her for you math class, you can try mssging her and asking her for the hw or something simple. Well things can get off topic easily. TRUST IK. LOL well that will be the key to know her better. You can ask her about a TV show or anything like that. Anything you can relate. Or even ask her about "if you had a boyfriend" this this and that. like what would you expect of him or requirements or idk. Since both of you are unexperienced, you can talk about the things you dont know about how relationships work like kissing hugging dating etc... dont freak her out by mentioning sex because thats just plain odd and you might creep her out. Maybe if you went to a place before time and try out supose a coffee shop and tried something out there and then ask her oh so i went to this coffee shop and it was really good, maybe you should try it out. Any convo that you make with her is best at increasing your chances with her. Just give it sometime get to know her better and dont rush things. I think you must know the person good before you try anything because rust been there done that and its just plain horrible. So yea just try your best at talking to her as much as possible but not to the point where u annoy her lol. c: :)

[drunkbanana]

Go for it, she seems to be into you. But, no matter what, please don't do it on Facebook/sms. It'll take courage to ask her directly, but, as you said, she didn't have a relationship before, so don't worry! And do it, don't ask yourself whether you want it or not, don't think that you've never been with anyone before.
Don't let it wait any longer, or she'll lose interest eventually, if you don't act, and she'll find somebody else, and you'll be the one to be left alone, thinking "why didn't I ask her out?"

Sorry to be so dramatic, I went through this same situation and didn't do anything, and I know how much it hurts.

The problem is i don't know her appartment and the only place we met is the extra math class , thats why i want to ask her w/ FB .
Now the real problem is overcoming my fears i stated above (rejection) because i am a shy person and i can feel akward pretty easily .(I feel akward even topless/half naked near family members) Did you have any problems like that ? How did you move on?

[audiophile5]

The problem is i don't know her appartment and the only place we met is the extra math class , thats why i want to ask her w/ FB .
Now the real problem is overcoming my fears i stated above (rejection) because i am a shy person and i can feel akward pretty easily .(I feel akward even topless/half naked near family members) Did you have any problems like that ? How did you move on?

I just meant don't tell her you like her over sms/fb. Maybe try asking her out for a coffee, movie, something.

Well I wasn't sure whether I liked a girl or not, and I think I had a chance with her, but I did nothing so now she's dating one of my friends, who actually asked her out... So I just cut them out of my life, bringing the contact I have with them to a minimum. But trust me, you don't want to experience that...