Gay.

[meohandme]

I think I am gay, but WAY to scared to tell anyone. I am scared they won't accept me. Please tell your story of coming out, and what reactions your parents, siblings, etc. Also please include, if applicable, the religion your family is. :yes::yes:

[green white]

What's your age?
I came out to my best friend. He said "it's okay, no problem. but you can't horny to me" My best friend not probem about that. I not suggest to come out to your parents if your age 13-16, because i think you not ready to any problem after come out. I know it's not accept in my religion. some people says gay, bi or lesbian can't change and other says it's can change. I have religious environment, my family and friends are religious. Until now, i always confused about that. But, my best friend said that "you must making a piece with yourself, you can't feel sin every time, you must enjoy it.". I think make a piece with myself it's best way to life, but it's bad way to die. I confused about that. I'm very religiou (i think)
I'm bi not gay

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

My coming out was kind of pressured, I was in a mental hospital, and one of the assignments we had been doing was to draw a picture of the future. I drew myself marrying another me, and my nosy mom had to see what was on the paper. The rest is history.

somehow though, I don't think my parents take my sexuality seriously, my mom says it could just be a "phase".

[Kass]

I consider myself to be halfway out if that makes sense :s some of my friends know that I'm bi. The first time I came out, I did it to my best friend and I was so scared that I had gotten one the counsellor-like ladies (who helped me through it) to tell her for me. And the first thing that she said to me was "why didn't I tell her sooner, she doesn't care" which was a relief. Everyone else that I have told always assumed a boy when I said that I had a crush. When I corrected them they all were shocked at first, but quickly got over it. None of my friends have any strong religous beliefs but I'm Christian (Church of England) so it took me a while to figure stuff out.

I haven't come out to my mam or my dad but I think my dad might have a clue. He hasn't said anything but I consider the area I live in to be oppressed. A lot of people in my town/area live in the past, not all but some. I think my mam is very oldy worldy. She has said previously that she doesn't mind them but other things disprove this. It'll be interesting to see their reaction when(if) I come out to them. My mam and dad are the same religion as me, however we are strong Christians (we don't go to church all the time and my mam and dad don't pray or anything).

Hope this has been a little helpful for you :) good luck and happiness in the future.

[Zachary G]

I have always kind of known that I liked boys, as far back as I could remember and I think my mom kinda picked up on it. so when I turned 11 after learning about what being gay was all about, I finally had the talk with my mom and dad. they took it pretty well and have been very supportive. my friends, i lost a few of them, but i made alot more of them because of it.

[SoccerLover42]

Hey! Look, I am straight and Christian, but that doesn't change anything! I know it may seem like lots of people don't or won't except you because you are gay, but don't freak out! There are people that feel this way and let fear hold them back. Express yourself! Don't be afraid. You are one of God's children and even though being gay is seen as a sin, you have to remember this: Hate the sin, not the sinner. God loves you and is always there for you, and there are plenty of people to talk about this with. I don't know this feeling, but I am sure I can say that there are people who accept gays. I'm one of them! In fact, I find gay couples kind of cute. :) they just look so sweet together! So again, God loves you, and there are people that will accept you. I know it's kind of jumbled up but I hope it helps!

[Mushin]

You are one of God's children and even though being gay is seen as a sin, you have to remember this: Hate the sin, not the sinner.

This made me nauseous.

@OP: Why tell anyone? If you don't make a big deal of your sexuality then there's no reason to make a big deal of telling others, ya know? It's just a spectrum. Some people are straight, some people are gay, some people are bisexual, and some people are everything and more. There's nothing to be scared of really. If people don't accept you then so what? Fuck 'em.

I don't have a coming out story because I don't see the need for one. I mean, I'm pretty straight honestly but also kind of bisexual. Telling people this just seems entirely unnecessary. You can't remember the last time someone came up to you and said, "I really need to get this off of my chest, so... I'm straight." Right? I certainly can't. So why should it be any different for any other sexual orientation?

Stop trying to define yourself, it just makes everything more difficult. All the power to ya man.

[ECSTASY]

if you have a really religious family , never come out .
my family isnt religious at all but theyre muslim . im atheist myself .
i brought them to a counselling center and i asked that counselor to tell them the truth. sadly , non of them were supportive . even the counselor . well think about it before you do anything , it may be a huge risk :)
and... im here if you wanna talk to , just message me , id like to help if you need to talk to someone who ahd the same problems :)

[gothy]

Im not gay but im a very big supporter. My gay teacher thought i was . religion sucks okay? Don't let the dogma hold you back from being you. Gays shouldn't have to come out. Straights don't.
But those who don't support you should be removed from your life. If they can't see love beyond heterosexual couples, they are not worth it.

[gothy]

My family is christian but don't care what sexuality i am. As long as it is legal of course.
Im agnostic however

[meohandme]

I am 14 years old, and I agree with some of you on not coming out. I think it is stupid, but what should I do? Come to a get together with a boy? I also may be bi, not sure, I have dated girls, I just didn't really like it. I am Baptist Christian. :eek::eek::eek:

[Dalcourt]

I don't think it's necessary to come out at your age. Just wait till you are older, then coming out will be much easier.
I personally did never come out to my parents, my Dad in my case. He kinda found out on his own, dunno how, it was just that we talked about sexuality and in this talk he mentioned that he knew I was gay...so I have know idea how about you best tell your family anyway.

I can't tell you how to find a guy, it's different for everyone but just after you tried out if you like being with a guy you know wether you are gay, be or whatever.

I'm not religious btw.

[CrazyPerson101]

I think I am gay, but WAY to scared to tell anyone. I am scared they won't accept me. Please tell your story of coming out, and what reactions your parents, siblings, etc. Also please include, if applicable, the religion your family is. :yes::yes:

I don't think it's necessary to come out at your age. Just wait till you are older, then coming out will be much easier.
I personally did never come out to my parents, my Dad in my case. He kinda found out on his own, dunno how, it was just that we talked about sexuality and in this talk he mentioned that he knew I was gay...so I have know idea how about you best tell your family anyway.

I can't tell you how to find a guy, it's different for everyone but just after you tried out if you like being with a guy you know wether you are gay, be or whatever.

I'm not religious btw.

I agree ^^ I would wait till you're older & maybe outta the house that way your parents don't ground you till you're 80 ( assuming they don't support gay , bi etc. people ) Im Christian but I support Gay , bi etc. people ( I know Ironic huh ) Idk see the big deal in people finding the people they love. Idk either way Good luck :)

[Karkat]

Honestly, I don't think I'll ever come out to my family. I don't see a reason to.

I've come out to my friends, however, as being part of the transgender community, and I haven't gotten any negative remarks from it. (TBH the only directly transphobic remarks towards me have come from here, but I ignore the user in question anyways. That's all there is to it.)

[ComfortableInChaos]

My family doesn't know, as far as I know. My sister is bi, too, so I don't think she'd care too much, to be quite honest. My mom, aunt, and grandma have always wondered about me, so I don't think they would be surprised. When I told my friends and school I was bi, they all understood, most of my friends already knew. I think if you go to your closest friends first and you let them know what's up, they'll understand and won't care. Then, tell the school, then your siblings, then parents. For me, that's just the easiest "coming out" kind of thing, whether you're gay or, in my case, bi.

[Cognizant]

I guess location could be a factor, as different regions have different opinions on social issues.

For me, someone who lives about 30 minutes from The Castro in San Francisco, it was obviously dead easy to come out because almost everyone here at least is okay with it, if not fully accepting.

So just keep that in mind, I guess. Even if they're religious, it's possible that their opinions on social issues is different.

[xXEverReadyXx]

Well I've known I as gay for as long as I could remember, but I recently came out to my mother and she was very happy I told her and couldn't be more supportive and loving, I plan on coming out to the rest of the family soon. My family is Christian (Catholic) but not religious at all. My advice is to be absolutely sure you are ready and that YOU know who YOU are, because knowing yourself before telling others is the best preparation in my opinion, and there is no rush in coming out.

Remember if you ever need someone to chat to, there are heaps of supportive people here, including me :)

[Antagonist]

My coming out story isn't the nicest of stories. Basically, I got outed by someone and the entire school found out. I live in a conservative town in the south. I made a lot of enemies, most of which were the jocks and preps. I decided that I might as well tell my parents. It broke their hearts- I mean, why wouldn't it? I was the only chance of continuing the family name (my sister is a lesbian). However, they came around and are now 100% supportive. My friends were always supportive of me, so there wasn't a problem there.

All I really have to say is that you just need to find the good people in your life- the people who you can go to for everything and that love you (whether that be friends or family), and confide in them. Hell, if it makes you feel safer, don't come out to your parents until you move out.

Good luck on your endeavors.

[meohandme]

Thanks to all of you, I enjoyed your feedback. I had a dream that I was with a man, so I guess nature was telling me, who I really am!

[LiamC]

If you're only 14, maybe hold off telling your parents for a couple of years. I told my best friend, two sisters (one of whom is a lesbian) and mum when I was just about 15 though, they were all fine but my mum didn't have the best reaction... She said something like "I'd rather you weren't but oh well" and periodically says "do you think you're... that way" when something gay comes up on TV, as if it's a phase and I'm gonna be like "no I have a girlfriend now"... I told another couple of (male) then, one of whom was (and still is) my crush, he was really great. He didn't know I like him but he said somehrinf like "it makes no difference, always here buddy either way".

I'm out to everyone now, I did it when I was 16 and a half or so. Someone asked on Ask.fm, I was fed up of it so I just said yes I am, shared it to twitter and Facebook and the rest was history. My friends who didn't know were very supportive, straight guys were like "cool, we have a gay friend, you have more balls than us, it makes no difference" and the girls were really happy. The only bad thing was a few girls who were like "OMG YOU'RE GAY, THAT'S SO FAB, COME SHOPPING WITH ME AND PAINT MY NAILS!" but they got over it once I said I'm not that into shopping and fashion and stuff (which they should have known in the first place). Outside my friendship group, nobody much cared really, a few people said stuff like "I heard you came out, that takes balls" etc. but nothing major and no horrible comments that I know of.

I tried to keep it brief, oops, but have an essay :p the last thing I will say is be careful who you trust, my best friend (at the time, we aren't talking now due to a separate incident) who was the first to know told somebody else not long after, someone he wasn't even really friends with :/ luckily, at the time i was just becoming friends the girl he told and she is the most trustworthy person possible so he told the right person if he had to betray my trust and I forgave him, although things weren't the same again. So start with your most trusted friend, and the more people you tell, the easier it gets!

[riverboy]

I don't think it's necessary to come out at your age. Just wait till you are older, then coming out will be much easier.
I personally did never come out to my parents, my Dad in my case. He kinda found out on his own, dunno how, it was just that we talked about sexuality and in this talk he mentioned that he knew I was gay...so I have know idea how about you best tell your family anyway.

I can't tell you how to find a guy, it's different for everyone but just after you tried out if you like being with a guy you know wether you are gay, be or whatever.

I'm not religious btw.

I agree. Wait and just experiment with both boys and girls.

[Faolan]

When I came out, I was petrified that my friends would treat me differently, but as it turned out, I was the only one who was freaking out about it. This certainly isn't the case for everyone; oftentimes your parents may be really mad, but I think then all you can do is grit your teeth and stick it to them. My family's not very religious, but ethnically my dad's side is Jewish. My mom's Methodist.

[AceofSpades97]

I haven't come out yet and I know my parents wouldn't mind me being gay but telling is never easy and it will probably never be but it's just something you need to do sometime in live otherwise you will need to do everything in secret.