flaaffy
July 3rd, 2014, 07:16 PM
I just want some opinions on what I should do and how a couple guys are acting; I figure people on the internet are going to be a lil more honest than people I actually know (:
sorry if this is sort of long, just any advice would be really helpful.
1) I only have one ex, and I'm his only ex as well. we dated for a little more than a month a year ago, but he liked me for around half a year before that and we were close friends for at least a couple of months before we dated. he was one of my best friends, and he was the one that chased me. he was ridiculously into me, like "I stay up till 2 AM every night thinking about you", "I'll always love you, even if you break up with me", and we talked on skype for hours and hours every day, stuff like that. he suddenly started getting really distant, and he claimed that he was just nervous, but nothing I did helped.. so I was the one who broke up with him; it was actually over text, I was scared of breaking up in person, yeah I know that's bad, I wouldn't do it now. anyway, he said he still really liked me but if that's what I wanted, then that was what he wanted. he also asked if we'd ever go out again, and said he'd be a better boyfriend if he did. I was sure we'd stay friends, but he's been ignoring me for over a year now. he sees me every day at school. we've been in situations where he should've been forced to talk to me. he won't. he won't talk to anyone else about me, either. and whenever I pass him in the hall or something, he goes completely silent and pointedly looks away. it's ridiculously obvious that he's trying not to look at me. even so, I catch him stealing glances sometimes when he thinks I'm not looking. he's a super loud and outgoing person. I've texted him maybe twice, once right after we broke up and once earlier this year, trying to apologize and asking to be friends again..no such luck, he ignores it. it's really not like him, and I miss his friendship a lot. any ideas why he's acting this way or what I should do? I'm thinking of just leaving him alone for good, but we have a ton of mutual friends and we take a lot of the same classes so it's awkward.. :S
2) I've never gone out with this other guy, but I've liked him for like 4 years on and off. I didn't tell him for a couple of years, but I think he knew. after that, he randomly broke up with his 'girlfriend' (it was middle school, they hardly touched ever) because he liked me. he was the first guy to call me beautiful, yada yada yada, and I got even more attached to him. we texted constantly, and he flirted with me all the time in school. suddenly, he started ignoring me, even though he still stared and flirted a bit. kind of awkward. then he repeated the process a year later. he's done the I-like-you-then-ignore thing no less than 4 or 5 times now. I have no idea what to do about it, so I just kind of sit around and wait for him to come back around because I really do like him and I've known him for forever..he doesn't even talk to any other girls, really. I'm the only one he does this with. the last couple times, he's just made excuses about how he doesn't want a girlfriend 'yet'. i'm 16 and he's 15..? any help or ideas on what he's trying to do?
thanks so much!!
sorry if this is sort of long, just any advice would be really helpful.
1) I only have one ex, and I'm his only ex as well. we dated for a little more than a month a year ago, but he liked me for around half a year before that and we were close friends for at least a couple of months before we dated. he was one of my best friends, and he was the one that chased me. he was ridiculously into me, like "I stay up till 2 AM every night thinking about you", "I'll always love you, even if you break up with me", and we talked on skype for hours and hours every day, stuff like that. he suddenly started getting really distant, and he claimed that he was just nervous, but nothing I did helped.. so I was the one who broke up with him; it was actually over text, I was scared of breaking up in person, yeah I know that's bad, I wouldn't do it now. anyway, he said he still really liked me but if that's what I wanted, then that was what he wanted. he also asked if we'd ever go out again, and said he'd be a better boyfriend if he did. I was sure we'd stay friends, but he's been ignoring me for over a year now. he sees me every day at school. we've been in situations where he should've been forced to talk to me. he won't. he won't talk to anyone else about me, either. and whenever I pass him in the hall or something, he goes completely silent and pointedly looks away. it's ridiculously obvious that he's trying not to look at me. even so, I catch him stealing glances sometimes when he thinks I'm not looking. he's a super loud and outgoing person. I've texted him maybe twice, once right after we broke up and once earlier this year, trying to apologize and asking to be friends again..no such luck, he ignores it. it's really not like him, and I miss his friendship a lot. any ideas why he's acting this way or what I should do? I'm thinking of just leaving him alone for good, but we have a ton of mutual friends and we take a lot of the same classes so it's awkward.. :S
2) I've never gone out with this other guy, but I've liked him for like 4 years on and off. I didn't tell him for a couple of years, but I think he knew. after that, he randomly broke up with his 'girlfriend' (it was middle school, they hardly touched ever) because he liked me. he was the first guy to call me beautiful, yada yada yada, and I got even more attached to him. we texted constantly, and he flirted with me all the time in school. suddenly, he started ignoring me, even though he still stared and flirted a bit. kind of awkward. then he repeated the process a year later. he's done the I-like-you-then-ignore thing no less than 4 or 5 times now. I have no idea what to do about it, so I just kind of sit around and wait for him to come back around because I really do like him and I've known him for forever..he doesn't even talk to any other girls, really. I'm the only one he does this with. the last couple times, he's just made excuses about how he doesn't want a girlfriend 'yet'. i'm 16 and he's 15..? any help or ideas on what he's trying to do?
thanks so much!!