Jalinta
June 30th, 2014, 05:44 AM
I have a bit of a predicament with dating and my best friends - this may be kinda long sorry, so I'll try summarise as much as I can and to anyone who reads it all - good effort on your part, and thanks heaps! :P Hahah
So I'm bi, just to clarify first up :P I have 2 really, really good friends whom I've been friends with for almost 3 years - they're 2 of my best friends. One of them I only became close with in the last year and a half (we'll call her Amy) and the other I've been close with for ages - we've gone on a lot of overseas trips together (we'll call her Beth). They're both girls by the way.
Anyway, I was kind of figuring myself out last year and by about midway I realised I like 'Beth' :P I'd always thought her to be the most amazing person, and I did gush about her all the time, but I never really thought I liked her until then. But I thought nothing could happen so I tried to shut that off. And then she told me a few months later she's a lesbian. So I was a bit shocked, but I didn't tell her about me for some reason.
A few more months passed and it was the summer holidays and I eventually told my friend 'Amy' I was bi - she is too. And I liked her - I kind of used her as a way of moving on from Beth earlier in the year, which sounds bad. But we're dating now - since 4 months ago.
The thing is just after we started dating, I told Beth about myself and that I was dating a girl - and then she confessed that she liked me and had for a while. And I was twisted because I still had buried feelings for her, but I stayed with Amy.
And now I went to a party recently and I got drunk, she didn't - and nothing happened between us but we just hung out and talked like we haven't since this little debacle came about, and I haven't stopped thinking about her since. And I feel awful because I have a wonderful, amazing girlfriend who's my best friend as well - I cant' talk to anyone the way I can talk to 'Amy'.
But throughout the whole relationship 'Beth' has been there at the back of my mind, and now she's re-emerged strongly again and I'm just confused.
I really, really love 'Amy' but I've always had a kind of fascination or connection with 'Beth' - ever since I met her and I can't help but think of her and want her sometimes. I don't know if I just want our old friendship back, or if I like her but I'm confused and I feel bad because my girlfriend is the sweetest, most incredible person to me and I don't want to hurt her.
Argh, sorry this has been long - but any thoughts? Ideas? Experience?
So I'm bi, just to clarify first up :P I have 2 really, really good friends whom I've been friends with for almost 3 years - they're 2 of my best friends. One of them I only became close with in the last year and a half (we'll call her Amy) and the other I've been close with for ages - we've gone on a lot of overseas trips together (we'll call her Beth). They're both girls by the way.
Anyway, I was kind of figuring myself out last year and by about midway I realised I like 'Beth' :P I'd always thought her to be the most amazing person, and I did gush about her all the time, but I never really thought I liked her until then. But I thought nothing could happen so I tried to shut that off. And then she told me a few months later she's a lesbian. So I was a bit shocked, but I didn't tell her about me for some reason.
A few more months passed and it was the summer holidays and I eventually told my friend 'Amy' I was bi - she is too. And I liked her - I kind of used her as a way of moving on from Beth earlier in the year, which sounds bad. But we're dating now - since 4 months ago.
The thing is just after we started dating, I told Beth about myself and that I was dating a girl - and then she confessed that she liked me and had for a while. And I was twisted because I still had buried feelings for her, but I stayed with Amy.
And now I went to a party recently and I got drunk, she didn't - and nothing happened between us but we just hung out and talked like we haven't since this little debacle came about, and I haven't stopped thinking about her since. And I feel awful because I have a wonderful, amazing girlfriend who's my best friend as well - I cant' talk to anyone the way I can talk to 'Amy'.
But throughout the whole relationship 'Beth' has been there at the back of my mind, and now she's re-emerged strongly again and I'm just confused.
I really, really love 'Amy' but I've always had a kind of fascination or connection with 'Beth' - ever since I met her and I can't help but think of her and want her sometimes. I don't know if I just want our old friendship back, or if I like her but I'm confused and I feel bad because my girlfriend is the sweetest, most incredible person to me and I don't want to hurt her.
Argh, sorry this has been long - but any thoughts? Ideas? Experience?