Need help!!!!

[Miggy_C]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 years and we have broken up 3 times (all by me). Last time I broke up with her, I hurt her bad. Sex has always been very important to her. She wanted to wait till she found the person that she wanted to marry before she did it. She thought it was me and at the time I thought I was too but lately I have felt distant and I have been falling for another girl.

I've hurt her so many times and she's the last person in the world I want to do that too and I know I have been so selfish she get her back all those times.

And now if/when I break up with her this time it will be the worst because she gave me the most sacred thing in her life.

I'm a bastard and I know that. I just need some advice on how to end things without hurting her too bad.

[Living For Love]

We all make mistakes, and you can't really blame yourself for not having feelings for her anymore, even considering you took her virginity. She can't force you to like her as well. It's a pretty messed up situation, I'll have to admit, but maybe you could just tell her you should give yourselves a bit of time to think about it. The problem is, she trusted you to the point of having a sexual relationship with you, and now you're simply leaving her, but think about it this way: you two would even hurt each other even more if you continued with the relationship considering you don't feel nothing for her now. Just make sure you explain this to her and make her know you're also negatively affected by this, because you also lost your virginity, not sure if you care much about it or not.

[carolinae]

I agree with Dance In The Dark. There will be no way in which you can hurt her not as bad. If you really want to end your relationship, do it as soon as you can, because it will get worse if you wait longer. I can tell you to not tell her it's because you like someone else, just say you don't feel the same way for her. It's gonna hurt her more if you break up by saying "I wanna break up; I've been falling for another girl," than if you say "I wanna break up; I just don't feel the same and I'm not in love with you anymore."

[Meganium]

As Tiago said, the two of you will only feel worse if things continue the way they are now. So long as you have a shred of doubt about this girl, then it's in your best interest to break things off one last time to finally determine who you really want to be with.