Don't know how to get over this breakup

[beautiful__disaster]

Hi everyone.

I dated a great guy for almost two years. I thought everything was going great- we got along super well, we didn't have any problems in our relationship, everything was going perfect. Then out of nowhere he breaks up with me. He says he just doesn't love me anymore. I was in complete shock. I did not see this coming at all. I cried and cried for hours. I begged for him back (stupid, I know). He also said he wanted someone that was more mature. I'm completely devastated. I love him so much. I lost my virginity to him as well. I just need some advice on how I can move on and how to start the healing process.

[miley]

I am sure you'l be fine! just like carry on having fun with your friends and family and im sure one day you'l get over him
nobody ever dies from a broken heart it just feels like you do..
the best thing is loving yourself enough to eventually let go.

[Microcosm]

Give yourself time. Try not to put yourself down over it. Eventually, once you have had time to think about it for a bit, it will be easier to let it go.

[Rallo]

Break ups with out any real explanation are terrible!
There's no real magic thing that can be said or done to instantly make the pain go away; it takes time.

The worst thing you could do is beg for them back like you said you had some what already; this pushes them further away.
The shock of it all lasts a few days, sometimes weeks.. There's no real way to avoid this stage. There's methods to help with the pain of it, though nothing will completely stop it from hurting.
Best thing I can recommend is giving it a few weeks. Avoid looking at their online profiles (Facebook, twitter, etc), avoid messaging them excessively (excessively telling them how much you miss them, etc). After a few weeks once the shock of it all goes away and things stop hurting as much, see how you feel.. If you still really miss him (not miss how it used to be, miss him) then send him a little message then asking if you could meet up to talk some time. Meet up somewhere quiet and tell him how you feel, see if after having a week or two to think about things if he feels the same.

Now this doesn't simply mean wait a few weeks then message him, this means talk to a few other people, wait for the shock of it all to pass then see how you feel. If you feel as if you still love him, then maybe message him how you feel.

[Inzanethingy]

What helped get over someone was to focus on an activity that required critical thinking so much that it was 100% of my thoughts no thinking of anyone/anything else. Activities like this are like games, learning an instrument or puzzle solving. Spend some time doing something were you are focusing lots of attention on the task at hand. This advice is not an instant cure or anything, thats really time that does that. It helps though and can teach you a new thing you might enjoy. Combine this with the other advice in the thread and it will help you in your dilema.

[SillyShyGuy]

I think that is awful that he would leave you when you gave up so much to him. He should go jump off a bridge. You deserve better than jerks like him. You need to prove him wrong and be happy. Find a reason to smile everyday and for practice name three things that went well every day. Do not let this break up slow you down and make you sad.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Good advice above - and yeah just life your life -