Do I have a chance?

[Cognizant]

Ok sorry for the longish post but it needs explanation.
So there's this girl named Erin who I kind of knew during the last school year, but we really started to bond a lot more with during the past fifteen days. Last Friday, her, a mutual friend and I were chilling in her hot tub and chatting about teenager-y things.
I don't remember who brought it up, but we eventually got to the topic of what we find attractive in people, and tbh i was a bit shocked :P like they were talking about how they don't really like white guys, but they do like tall dudes and guys with brown hair or something, etc. etc. Then Erin asked me "so in our circle of friends, who do you find the most attractive?"

Obviously it's her, but I was reluctant to say that cause I didn't want to make things weird or uncomfortable. But alas, after much pushing from both her and our friend, I gave in and said "Erin, I find you really hot." I was scared she would be insulted so I started to laugh it off, but instead she gleamed and basically said along the lines that she was flattered. That's where I dropped it though, cause I didn't really want to risk making it more uncomfortable. It's also worth noting that she was slightly buzzed at the time.

I later thought to myself that I didn't really even meet her criteria though. Surely she's not interested in me any more than a friend..... That was until a few days ago at school when we were chilling in my car and we were talking about a friend and she said "haha, he asked me if you (me) were my boyfriend."
I just kind of dismissed it in my typical Patrick fashion of being like "ohhhhhh ok, interesting," but on the inside my mind was racing :wub: I got really excited over the fact that people think we could dating, even though I still don't know if she's even into me like that :P

I don't really know what to do now. Do I just ask her out on a date, or do I try to privately do some more investigation into whether she's really attracted to me or not? I've always kind of been sucky at reading people. Thanks so much for the help! :)

[dirtyboxer55]

maybe but i think currently youre being too much like a friend. just ask her out. also if she doesnt want to hang out alone with you (like she hangs out with you when youre both hanging out with mutual friends) she probably just sees you as a friend. you have a chance if you show her you are confident and dominant and more than a friend. go for it

[Hudor]

Your situation could have various meanings. it is possible she may be into you but it is basically up to you to decide. You could carry on a private investigation to be sure and that would also be prudent but it could take a lot of time and you may lose the opportunity. Or you could spend some more time alone with her and eventually ask her out.

[xlBitterSweetlx]

If you really want to just get it off your chest quickly, I suggest you tell her how you feel. It's better than just wondering and trying hard to read signals.
But if you aren't the direct type, you could ask around a bit - only people you trust though, because someone might tell her and it might not end very well. Or you could even try that trick, if you are having a deep solo conversation with her, just ask her opinion on how a guy should tell his friend that he likes her, or ask "randomly" whether she likes someone.
A confession takes courage in any form, but trust me, it's better than not knowing. :) Just pick the right moment and go for it! ♥

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I say take the risk and ask her out, the worst she could possibly do is say no.

[Kayonce]

If you like her, you should go ahead and take the chance to ask her out because you never know how she feels until you actually start to get deep into that situation with her.

[Devillain]

You should give it a try. Erin was not shocked when you admitted you liked her, so even if she would reject she will probably be cool about it. And if she accepts, then the dates would not only be rumors, but reality 😬

[Cognizant]

If you really want to just get it off your chest quickly, I suggest you tell her how you feel. It's better than just wondering and trying hard to read signals.
But if you aren't the direct type, you could ask around a bit - only people you trust though, because someone might tell her and it might not end very well. Or you could even try that trick, if you are having a deep solo conversation with her, just ask her opinion on how a guy should tell his friend that he likes her, or ask "randomly" whether she likes someone.
A confession takes courage in any form, but trust me, it's better than not knowing. :) Just pick the right moment and go for it! ♥

I'm definitely not the direct type :lol: so I guess I'll do some more digging. I guess the worst that could happen is she likes someone else, but even then there's always plenty more fish in the sea I guess

[dame]

One of my friends who's a girl has a crush on me, & honestly I did too for sometime, I just wasn't really interested in having a sexual relationship, because I'm gay. We'd mostly talk like friends, but sometimes she would flirt, kind of like how this girl is doing with you (yes, she's flirting). Girls are very intelligent when it comes to flirting, they like for you to question whether or not if they're actually flirting. I say that you hang out with her some more, take her out to eat, maybe a movie, or just hang out. Do whatever you guys both enjoy doing together. Eventually you'll feel more & more comfortable being around her & her flirting will become more obvious to you. I really think that she's into you, & I can tell that you're interested in her, so I say go with your gut instinct & do what you feel is right. I feel like there is very little that can go wrong. Good luck & I hope things work out for you! :-)