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[steven]

okey i dont know if this is the right place but...

i get the feeling that me and my girlfriend are about to have sex for the first time... and im kinda getting paranoid about not lasting very long... any help on how to last long?

everything will be appreciated lol... kinda nerving asking this but still...

Steve

[Aηdy]

Don't worry this is the right section :)

And you're only human, so if she expects you to last long then you've got to consider she wants you for sex more than other things. Just try to relax about it ond you'll be ok.

[steven]

well its more me that wants to last longer than her... she says its ok but it really gets to me emotionally... theres a couple of friends of mine that say that its loads better and their partners can last for ages (1 particular sed that her bf can last for 3 hours) and it really gets to me... my girlfriend says she doesnt care about the sex but i can tell that she is disappointed and i feel really embarrased about myself... sooo...

steve

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You know, I hear that most everyone's first time is awkward anyways. Few people actually have great sex the first time. I would suggest that, if you feel you two are ready, just going for it. Then, if you find that you really have a problem lasting long enough, they do make little bands that go around the base of your penis once you have an erection (if you put it on before, you're gonna have trouble getting one), and while it doesn't cut off the blood flow it slows it enough that you can keep going longer. Then you just take it off when the time is right (because this will prevent you from reaching orgasm while it's on), and voila. Or, maybe she could masturbate in the other room for a little bit first, so she's already ready to go and won't have a problem if you don't last too long.

Whatever happens though, don't be embarrassed. It's not anything you're doing wrong, it's just how your individual body works. If your girlfriend really loves you she's not going to get that upset with you over this. She may be a little disappointed initially, but you'll figure something out to make sex work for both of you.

[steven]

thanks... its just that it will really make me upset if i dont actually do last and i can tell i would be embarrassed/ashamed and i would probably go on days on end just worrying abart it... and well... i dont know what i would do... i have heard from a few people that i know that their partners have left them because of the same problem and im scared that i will lose my girlfriend... but i guess ill have to get over it and trust her when she says it dont matter... :'( :(

steve

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You know what, Steven? If your girlfriend leaves you because of something like that, she's not worth it. Relationships are about more than just sex. If she really loves you, she'll stick with you, and try to help you find a way to make it work. Sit down with her and talk about your concerns. Ask for an honest response, what would she do if you guys had sex and you had a problem lasting the whole time? Then you know what to expect and you won't have to worry.

[Mikel14]

i find it helps to masturbate more by ur self before like maybe if u no what night ur having sex maybe jack off a few times itll make u last longer im pretty sure

[jay92]

i figured when i got my first blowjob id last for 2 seconds...
turned out she cudnt make me cum hahahah (cos we ran out of time, but she tried!)

[tombstonequeen]

well chance are u are going to release early but thats just normal and it is a suggestion but after u do and a tad softer then it would be easier for her cause ur not so big and it won't hurt as much
me and my boyfriend are talking about this as well so don't worry about it

[steven]

thanks for all the advice... its really helped and i will talk to her... thanks alot guys :) :) :) i feel better with myself... kinda... but ahh well... ill live... ive got to lol ... :) thanks

Steve

[jay92]

well when ya think about it,
doesnt a chicks first time hurt?

therefore her not wanting it to last too long..?

anyway, take it slow, deep and enjoy the experiance. and try make it hell steamy and passionate cos shed focus on that more then how long ya last

[steven]

well it aint exactly her first time so i dont know what would happen... i dont know what she is used to either... if u kno what i mean... but i wont think about it... as it cud mek it worse than if i dont think about it... or will it...?

Steve

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well as always the best thing for the two of you is to KNOW what eachother wants. The only way for that to happen is if you two communicate OPENLY about this topic. That way you'll know where SHE stands, what she'll want, and vise versa (you can tell her that you have no prior experience, don't be ashamed, she'll be glad you told her).

[jay92]

yeh tell her its ur first time
cos if ya dont she will just think you suck at sex and there is no room for improvement

[ThatCanadianGuy]

^^^ ding ding ding!

If she finds out that you really just need time to improve... she'll just find herself wanting to "teach" you all kinds of fun stuff to "show you the ropes"! :D

You know what they say; practice makes perfect! :yeah: