WHY?????

[ChaseDakoda]

Why are people so mean and crule? I have had a GF for 9 months, I am 14 and she is 16. Her parents are moving to another state and she doesn't want to go. whit all this we broke up last night because she wanted to have sex and I have my christain beleifs and I told he any thing else because I want to save till I am married so she is mad and I am upset with myself, but I have to beleave in my faith and trust my own feelings and I do know this is her time to have a baby and I just did not want to chance it. I know this is long but these are my feelings. What should I do? about everything? My twin sides with me so he is a lot of support but I am just so fustrated.:what::what::rolleyes::(:(

[Rayquaza]

Who's being mean and cruel exactly? Also, if your girlfriend is pushing to have sex with you, you need to tell her no, firstly because you're underage and secondly because you have your own beliefs. You shouldn't feel guilty for staying true to yourself. If she can't handle a no then she sounds like she just tried to use you and you managed to avoid that. Plus you're only 14 there's so many other people out there.

[ChaseDakoda]

Thanks for the encouraging words.
BTW you joined VT on my birthday

[Hundred Spirited God]

piece of advice,don't EVER go with religion,it only controls you,you broke up with her cause of religion,does that sound fair?!,2nd i try not to love cause i know these kind of things happen,love blinds you,it leaves you,and it never comes to you when you need it,i hope this helps :),also,you might get a dead feeling inside ,i know this is scary,but as they always say,"what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" :P

[Microcosm]

If she can't respect your beliefs, then she should be the one at fault. Not you. She needs to respect what you believe in and not try to go against it.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Its sad and bad she is pressuring you - but she is moving aways and I hope you get what you deserve a girl who will respect your faith, as you would hers.

[Jim1]

You are luckly to have learned early and cheaply that you can't have a long-term relationship with
this girl. Her values are not your values. She doesn't want you, she just wants your penis. Or
that of any other guy who offers it to her.

[riverboy]

Stay with your beliefs and don't be forced into anything. If she can't respect you, then she is the person in the wrong not you. My question to you is how are you going to feel the next day if you have sex? You are not wrong.

[ChaseDakoda]

I did not give in and now a have a understanding GF that I told everything to and she wants me for what i am

[CrazyPerson101]

Dude, if she can't respect your beliefs and if you're not ready, then don't do it, You shouldn't be forced to do something you don't wanna do. If she can't see that, then she's not for you. On the sex thing, its up to you if you wanna have it with her or not and wait, she can whine,moan, and complain about it all she wants but she's gonna have to except ( if you say No ) that you made your decision and if she breaks up with you its fine, There are plenty more fish in the sea.

[Reg_]

Who's being mean and cruel exactly? Also, if your girlfriend is pushing to have sex with you, you need to tell her no, firstly because you're underage and secondly because you have your own beliefs. You shouldn't feel guilty for staying true to yourself. If she can't handle a no then she sounds like she just tried to use you and you managed to avoid that. Plus you're only 14 there's so many other people out there.

Couldnt say it better myself
Minus the underage thing

[Pepito]

If she really loves you then she should respect your beliefs, not pressure you into something that she wants. If that was the first time the sex topic came up, and she broke up with you after that then it's her fault really. Don't beat yourself up about it, that's the most important thing. You didn't do anything wrong

[ERB-lade]

If she cannot respect your beliefs, she's not worth it.