a slightly different question

[Gumleaf]

i was extremely happy today because i now have a new girlfriend and i'm just completely over the moon about it. i've liked jo for a couple of months on and off, and while i was still with my ex girlfriend jessica, i tried to put those feelings aside, but i'm happy now that jo and i are together. but there is just one thing that worries me, and that is my parents.

you see, jo has been a good friend for a while and only lives down the road, and she is around at our place often when we would just hang out as friends. anyways, she is much different to jessica, jo is loud and has got a strong personality, while jessica was quite the opposite. with jo, things had got to the point where my parents would make negative comments about jo and her personality.

anyways, later this afternoon jo came around and we spent time together which was nice, but i didn't tell my parents that we are now more then friends. i'm afraid to tell them because i'm thinking they are going to be annoyed about us. i don't want this new relationship to be possibly ruined because my parents don't like jo much. i don't know if i should tell them or not? or maybe just let our actions speak for themselves?

we have only been a couple for a matter of hours so there wasn't much to see today, but in time as we do more physical things together (such as kissing), which they might see, it would obviously give the game away. i'm just not sure what to do and how to deal with it, if my parents aren't happy about jo and i being together. any thoughts would be welcome peoples, thanks for reading this quite long rant.

[Aηdy]

I pretty much never tell my mum (never my dad) if I have a girlfriend. So it's your choice if you tell them or not, they don't have a right to know. And when she's round, just be careful with what you're doing and if you decide you want to get physical, either make sure your parents are out or go to her place. Or you could do it outside, I mean me and my last gf pretty much got to third base in a pub car park in daylight!

But if you want to tell your parents, maybe give it a couple of weeks before you do, because it could save a lot of hassle if things don't work out between the two of you for other reasons. But if they are against the two of you being together just tell them it's your life, your decision and if they don't like it there's nothing they can do.

Hope that helps a bit at least, but anyway, congratulations :)

[woahman]

i always tell my family. they're usually the first ones to know. because i know that they love me enough that who i'm dating at the moment doesn't matter.

i suggest you tell them. even if they don't like jo, you still won't have to feel like you're lying to them all the time. you can feel free to kiss her in front of them, and they shouldn;t care.

although rok.my.sox is right, you don't HAVE to tell your parents. it's still better. no secrets, right?

[jay92]

they will figure it out, they all do!

[Maverick]

I think you should tell them. This relationship is about you not them and you should expect them to be supportive. I think when you put secrets in a relationship things get complicated and then if they find out some other way then it the whole situation mushrooms.

The truth shall set you free.

[Mzor203]

I never tell my mom and dad when I like someone or go out with someone. In fact, they think a this point that I want to have nothing to do with the gender that is female. So, don't feel bad about keeping it to yourself. It's your life, your parents shouldn't interfere that much. Hope I helped.

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

I think you should tell them. This relationship is about you not them and you should expect them to be supportive. I think when you put secrets in a relationship things get complicated and then if they find out some other way then it the whole situation mushrooms.

The truth shall set you free.

Maverick, why do we always have the exact same things to say? 'Cept you always beat me.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Maverick, why do we always have the exact same things to say? 'Cept you always beat me.

Better count me in with that as well! :D

Almost exactly the same; I put out a front where by THIS point my parents almost definitely think that I simply don't CARE about girls. Unfortunately they make it kinda hard to be open with anything relating to puberty, sex, or relationships. Luckily I get it from elsewhere in with friends and on VT! :yeah:

[Mzor203]

^^^Yeah, basically the same with me. Good old VT.

Though some of the above posters have said to tell you're parents, I really don't think if you aren't comfortable with it, don't do it. As I said, it's your life.