Is this guy gay?

[mrmee]

Me and my best bud have been hangin around in town a lot this summer, and this one topic he brought up kinda stick to my mind. The strange part is when he brings it up. Every now and then, we'll have another guy with us, just chillin. Only when there is another guy will he bring it up, and never to the same guy (except me) twice. He gets all serious and is like "I heard every teenage guy goes through a gay phase, have either of you had anything like that?". IT kinda makes me suspicious that its always another guy and me. Could he be kind of discreetly hitting on me for fear of me saying no? Is he just trying to tell someone he's gay (we're closer than pb+j on a hot day in July) although he's not necessarily into me? Or is it just nothing and I'm just thinking about it too much? How would i tell him i am straight if he does turn out to be gay? Help me out here. What do ya'll think?

[Trinidad_boii_]

Maybe he's just giving u a hint that he wants to experiment with u

[Stripling]

Me and my best bud have been hangin around in town a lot this summer, and this one topic he brought up kinda stick to my mind. The strange part is when he brings it up. Every now and then, we'll have another guy with us, just chillin. Only when there is another guy will he bring it up, and never to the same guy (except me) twice. He gets all serious and is like "I heard every teenage guy goes through a gay phase, have either of you had anything like that?". IT kinda makes me suspicious that its always another guy and me. Could he be kind of discreetly hitting on me for fear of me saying no? Is he just trying to tell someone he's gay (we're closer than pb+j on a hot day in July) although he's not necessarily into me? Or is it just nothing and I'm just thinking about it too much? How would i tell him i am straight if he does turn out to be gay? Help me out here. What do ya'll think?

It could be some of those things or none of them. My first thought would be that he's just looking for confirmation. Like most of the people on this forum he's prob just wanting to know if this "gay phase" he brings up in conversation is normal for other guys too. Maybe he's a bit curious atm and he just wants to know if other people have had same-sex feelings. He might decide he's gay, or find out it really is just a "phase" for him. But if he wants to talk about it so much then is it because no one's given him an answer? Just talk about it hypothetically and honestly, if he is gay, bear in mind he's probably gonna have it tougher coming out to you than you would telling him you're straight :) You could say something like "yeah I think most people get same-sex crushes, sometimes it means they're gay, sometimes its just hormones and curiosity, either way it doesn't bother me" (might make it easier for him) :)

[IAMWILL]

Definitely sounds like he's curious about other guys and is trying to find a way to justify experimenting without sounding gay. Kind of a "since all guys go through a gay phase its totally fine and not gay if we do stuff together now" type of thing. Basically you have two options. If you don't want to try anything with him, keep denying that guys go through a gay phase, and he'll probably get the message. If you're open to doing things with him, then maybe next time say yes you have heard of that and see where the conversation goes from there. He's probably not gay, just curious and trying to figure out if other guys are too. Maybe refer him to this site lol.

[Catholic Guy]

I would tell him that you have had that phase and you were curious about guys then see how he reacts, if he doesn't come out you say something along the lines of "but it was only for a day and it's passed now" then there's nothing wrong but if he does tell you he's feeling gay then you can help him out tell him that it passed for you or something and just comfort him about it, you could even tell him about here so he can ask questions and get help

[Menzis]

When he brings it up, talk about it and discuss and ask.

[Jakie23]

Just ask him. If he's trying to tell you discreetly, he should have no issue really about telling you properly :)

[Fireangel]

Don't worry, It's normal.

[refrigeratorx]

if you are closer than pbj maybe it would be ok to bring it up somehow and maybe talk about it. remember that sexuality is a spectrum and its not like if people are not straight that they are gay, there is a lot in between and maybe he's trying to figure it out... or maybe he isn't

[CrazyPerson101]

Well if you too are close, I you should talk to him about it. I think he's just curious so he is hinting he wants to experiment with you. He maybe trying to figure out his sexuality attractions or he could have been simply telling you that guys go through a "gay period" In they're teen age years

[fast8]

I say he might just want to experiment with someone

[casperathome]

mrmee... Since you are a member of this site you have the advantage of past posts and other guys 'curiosity'. so don't be shocked about his curiosity. If he is that tight a friend ask him when you are alone if he feels he might want to experience something with another guy and let him know that you don't think it's weird. Puberty is really tough for all of us. Lucky for me I have really good friends that I talk to about this stuff. Also steer him to this site so he won't feel so alone and get weirded out. Let him know that you are a true friend and you won't 'out' him if he tells you something in confidence. I think what he is asking is pretty much what we are all going thru. Let him know that curiosity does not make him gay. I know you are straight but I'm sure even you are just a bit curious ?? Try to let him know what he is experiencing is pretty normal for at least 80 % of the guys on here.

[Living For Love]

Puberty For Boys :arrow2: Teen Sexuality.

[ATOMICskittles]

Me and my best bud have been hangin around in town a lot this summer, and this one topic he brought up kinda stick to my mind. The strange part is when he brings it up. Every now and then, we'll have another guy with us, just chillin. Only when there is another guy will he bring it up, and never to the same guy (except me) twice. He gets all serious and is like "I heard every teenage guy goes through a gay phase, have either of you had anything like that?". IT kinda makes me suspicious that its always another guy and me. Could he be kind of discreetly hitting on me for fear of me saying no? Is he just trying to tell someone he's gay (we're closer than pb+j on a hot day in July) although he's not necessarily into me? Or is it just nothing and I'm just thinking about it too much? How would i tell him i am straight if he does turn out to be gay? Help me out here. What do ya'll think?

Honestly before I was out with everyone, I dropped hints like everywhere. You should talk about it with him and say, "I have nothing against it, but if you are I will always be here for you." Or something like that, most would say not to dig but trying to leave the closet is hard. When I was leaving the closet I was just waiting for someone too pick up on my hints. Good luck.

[Soccerkid]

I think he's trying to hint that he wants to experiment with you

[Babs]

There is no way to tell what somebody's sexual orientation is unless you ask them.

[Biscuithead13]

Sounds like its possible he may have some curiousness and is wondering if it is normal for a guy to fell that way. Since you don't know for sure whether he is having curious feelings or not, and you don't know why he may brining this topic up, the safest thing to do (and I'm assuming you would accept him if he ended up being gay) would be next time he brings this up, you can say something like "some guys do, and I would accept you no matter what you felt." This lets him no you'd accept him if he wasn't straight, but also isn't directly suggesting he is gay, because its entirely possible he Is straight to. Sexuality is so fluid, so saying something like what I mentioned above could be a conservative way to answer without suggesting anything. In the end, he'll know how he feels.

[CelloGirl0031]

I don't think he's gay at all, just curious. Personally, if I were you, I'd invite him over for a sleepover or something and maybe let him try 'jerking you off', kissing, or something like that to satisfy his curiosity. I think it'll be a good experience for both of you personally and maybe you'll learn something new about yourself as well. And if you sincerely think he is gay, I don't think it should change anything about your friendship, just tell him that you're not really into guys but you'd be willing to try something for him(like said idea earlier in this text). It's being a good friend and my opinion and it'll be a learning experience for you both.