Sexting Gay Friend

[Yoshimitzu]

I'm a closeted bi teen, and earlier this week a guy a couple of years below me at school came out publicly on FB. I'd met him a few times before but not had a proper conversation. I soon sent him a message congratulating him and telling him I was bi, and we talked about lots of different things to do with sexuality. It was very quickly confirmed that neither of us have sexual/romantic feelings for the other.

A few days ago, he was talking to me about how he uses Omegle and Kik to talk to strangers and even share explicit photos with them. I decided to give it a go, and enjoyed myself, and the two of us agreed to forward on any nakedness we received to the other. However we also ended up sending slightly explicit (but non naked) photos of ourselves, which I was comfortable with.

Last night this went further and he asked for completely naked photos, which I sent, and he reciprocated. I didn't feel too awkward about it, but the conversation ended slightly sourly because I feel I took the chat too far. To add to things further, he's asked me to consider kissing him on the cheek, because neither of us have done that before with a guy and he just wants to know what it feels like. I'm extremely hesitant, but still thinking it over.

Do you think this was a bad thing to do, am I right now to refuse a kiss, and where do you think we go from here?

[Nathan03]

It all depends on what you desire and how you feel about this person. I have had a very similar situation. Since the last time I've been on here I've figured a lot out about myself. I consider myself bisexual and I had a friend that is a year older than me come out to me as gay. We talked a lot and I found myself in the very same situation that you're in.. The big question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you feel like you could go through with his request with no regrets? If so, then I believe that you should kiss him and continue talking to him. Don't do anything that you would regret and be sure you're doing what's in your best interest. I wish you the best of luck in your situation.

[Bull]

I think you guys should get to know each other better on a non sexual level. Start hanging together, doing regular activities. If there is chemistry between you, both are enjoying being together, then the desire to share a kiss will be natural. Dating can be a lot of fun and being together will be fun, and making out will be fun and will feel normal between two people expressing their feelings. Right now it seems you guys are just hyped on seeing naked pics, cool it with the sexting and see if you can have a real relationship. It will be interesting to see how things work out between the two of you. I hope it will be positive and enjoyable for you both.

[Living For Love]

It's not like kissing him on the cheek means you two are in love, but you should definitely get to know him a bit better before taking things much further. He should understand, though, that you are not forced to do anything; you've sent the photos, and you were ok with it, and he was as well, but if he actually wants to take things further, then both of you should be prepared for it.

[Yoshimitzu]

I don't have any kind of sexual or emotional feelings for him - I mean the contents of the pics were okay, but they didn't spur anything. Also he's 2 years younger, and I'm leaving school in a week, so we can't embark on anything.

My one problem is a lack of sexual activity myself. I'm 18 years old now, but have never dated anyone, and never even kissed anyone of either gender. To me, having built this up for so many years, giving it away to someone I don't care about in that way is something I can't do. Having the kiss on the cheek is a way around that, but I think now it's something that can't happen.

I asked him to meet up with me to talk the other day, but he says he doesn't want to see me in person right now. Should I be worried about this?

[Hermes96]

A kiss on the cheek isn't really something your likely to regret so go for it

[Zachary G]

I don't have any kind of sexual or emotional feelings for him - I mean the contents of the pics were okay, but they didn't spur anything. Also he's 2 years younger, and I'm leaving school in a week, so we can't embark on anything.

My one problem is a lack of sexual activity myself. I'm 18 years old now, but have never dated anyone, and never even kissed anyone of either gender. To me, having built this up for so many years, giving it away to someone I don't care about in that way is something I can't do. Having the kiss on the cheek is a way around that, but I think now it's something that can't happen.

I asked him to meet up with me to talk the other day, but he says he doesn't want to see me in person right now. Should I be worried about this?

A kiss on the cheek isnt anything life altering, its just a cheek. And just because he doesnt want to meet in person right now doesnt mean anything, just dont get stressed about a bunch of nothing. You will be alright dude