Parental Problems...=(

[Uh-Oh?]

Hello all,

I am writing this post because for the past few days I have been feeling a little anxious. First things first, I have been going thru "some physical and emotional changes" lately and I have slowly been become more attracted to girls.

Question # 1: When you are in a conversation, do you look at their face and stare into their eyes the entire time...not staring but looking into their eyes when they are talking? or do you look around?

Question #2: My parents feel that I need to pay attention to my school work and schooling as this IS my JUNIOR year of high school, that into girls and relationships in general. This makes me sad because I have a very intense fear that I will be very inexperienced in college and well..that WILL suck. How should I go about this problem?

thanks for reading

[Gumleaf]

well my answer to question one is to keep eye contact when your talking directly to them, and as they talk directly to you. having a girlfriend has never affected my school work, what you need to do is to ensure that you have enough time for both your gf and school work. if you can balance both then you have no problems.

[Andrew56]

Simple.

If your looking at them, you best be looking in their eyes. Girls watch your eyes, if you look at their cheeks, they'll think you spotted a zit.

Look at anything else, they'll think you watch sex badly.

But it can get rather odd staring in their eyes. So every now and then make it as though something caught your eye beyond their shoulder. Perhaps act like you're glancing at your shoes.

HOWEVER - In a relationship, always stare at the eyes or you will probably get talked to about it.

Now, inexperience - Take me for example. I believe sex, and sexual acts between you and your partner is for marriage. I doubt you agree with that but just imagine, you have to admit to inexperience, I have to reject it.

If you're talking simply about relationships in general. If you find a girl, and you really like each other, and you tell her you're inexperienced in the whole deal, she will totally think it's the most adorable thing ever, and you'll get a zillion brownie points. Trust me.

If she's a whore or a slut, she'll laugh and leave. That just means you didn't want her in the first place, for real.

But focus on school. It doesn't matter if you start your dating career after college that's fine. There is no rule that says you've got to have a girlfriend at any time.

But just know, there is a girl out there, and no matter what, she is going to want to spend the rest of her life with you. Even if you guys haven't met yet, you can't change the inevitable, and you'll find her, and you'll end up with her.

So just be yourself and chill. This is NOT anything to work at or worry about. And I must say again, respectable girls will love you for being inexperienced.

Please keep me updated!

-Andrew

[Uh-Oh?]

wow what a great reply..thanks Andrew that really helps me out =)...

I sorta agree with you on the sex after marriage but im not going to discuss my religious beliefs yet. In my post I was really referring to the relationships aspect not the sex part.

also...our junior prom is coming up but...well Ive never been to this dance...or any dances at my high school.I don't know what to do and i feel so awkward at those darn things.

I really dont want to mess up with this girl that I like, but I am sooooo inexperienced and I would hate that to be a problem. That and like I said earlier...my parents are a little obsessive about it ='(

[Andrew56]

Honesty, honesty, honesty.

Tell her you're inexperienced and unsure.

If it's really needed talk to your parents about it.

Imagine if it was your kid. Would you want them to think about dating at all if you thought it might get in the way of their education?

Tell them you understand the importance of schooling, and that it means alot to you and you wouldn't let relationships get in the way.

And then be true to that!