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xlBitterSweetlx
June 19th, 2014, 11:40 AM
It's me again. Twice in a day, I know. But I just can't get this off my mind.
One of my best friends and I have been friends for years.
We've always been different, but we somehow fit each other. She helped me open up,
we have fun together and we are even writing a trilogy together.
Up to a point.
We chat almost everyday for about an hour, and one ay I just opened my eyes and noticed how 55 minutes of this hour are spent planning the book. I felt like our friendship lied only on this. We discussed it and decided to talk about other things for a while.
I forgot to mention that after elementary school we went to different highschools. I found new friends and introduced her to them, and we became a group.
And lately I've been finding myself avoiding being just with her.
And today, as I was thinking, I figured out why.
We have become even more different than before.
Here are some things that made me think this way:
-Her 'wanting to try everything', including cigarettes (check) and weed; even smoked for the first time with one of my new friends, who is a good girl but way too curious + thank God she only did it twice
-She likes acting superior, bragging about her new expensive clothes, complaimimg abojt her obviously amazing figure, face, and how she is BORED of the FIVE skirts she has
-She has this thing, everytime we go out, there's that secret 'look of judgement' all over me (especially since she started using makeup)
-Her idea of fun being going to a villa with her classmates for 2 days and getting drunk, whereas my class going out for a nice meal and just hanging out is 'not cool'; Not to memtoon she is planning to celebrate her birthday in a night club which opens late, obviously, and YES she is 16, NO I'm not going.
-She always HAS to be right and may be direct up to rude

Yes, I know - a true friend accepts you for who you are.
I'm not saying I am perfect, nor that I do not accept her.
It's just that sometimes she makes it feel like an obligation to be with her. Like tomorrow, she invited me over for a short time as it is a 2nd shift day at school and she'll be travelling for a while in the summer. And I've been so exhausted lately, and this is my chance to rest - and when I said that I may not come if I don't wake up on time, she got mad. She might not be superangry, I don't know, but she hasn't written to me yet. And even if I may sound rude, I just can't help but feel forced in this.

What should I do? Not about the invitation (I may not have one), but overally in this situation...

clay morrow
June 25th, 2014, 12:39 PM
you need to tell her how you feel explain you need to rest as everyone does if she does not understand this then i dont know but be carefull you dont make yourself unwell by not resting

Rayquaza
June 25th, 2014, 05:08 PM
You should see what happens if you attempt to initate events, such as asking her out or having a conversation with her. See if she seems interested. Make sure she isn't using you to not appear lonely, and perhaps if things don't work out, just accept that you've both moved on and voice your concerns to her. If she feels like she's doing nothing wrong then it looks like she's voluntarily going down a bad road and you don't want her to drag you with her. Your willpower is good but having a friend like that who can lead you to a bad place will detriment your determination to stay true to yourself. I should know.