parental influence

[Virginiakid]

do you believe that if a boy doesn't have a strong father or father figure influence it might increase the chance of him becoming gay/bi? can the same thing be said about a girl and her mother?

[Bull]

You are born with your sexuality. You did not choose to be bisexual, you just are, or your hormones are in control at your age and later you will have enjoyed the experimentation but move on to a permanent sexuality. I do believe family does influence how one accepts his/her sexuality and how it is expressed/repressed.

[CrazyPerson101]

do you believe that if a boy doesn't have a strong father or father figure influence it might increase the chance of him becoming gay/bi? can the same thing be said about a girl and her mother?


There are many factors in how you feel about other people. You're not just simply born with it , upbringing plays a big part in it. I don't have a dad or brother and I have lived with women ALL my life ( 5 at one time ). When I was born , I lived with my mom and god mom and then she had to move so it was just me & mom ( They weren't lezbians but they were close friends ) Im more in touch with my feminine side so I naturally seek that something that guys have Masculinity ( basically , someone who can protect me , I know it sounds corny but its true ).

[Luminous]

No, not at all. Sexuality is something that you are born with, it cannot be changed. I think it could influence personality, though - for example, a boy could not have a strong father figure and be gay because he was born that way, but he's more feminine because he was raised around females, or the opposite for a girl. But in general, a boy could be feminine with a strong masculine father figure in his life, it really all just depends on the person.

[Hudor]

No, not at all. Sexuality is something that you are born with, it cannot be changed. I think it could influence personality, though - for example, a boy could not have a strong father figure and be gay because he was born that way, but he's more feminine because he was raised around females, or the opposite for a girl. But in general, a boy could be feminine with a strong masculine father figure in his life, it really all just depends on the person.

True. Besides a strong father does not necessarily have to be homophobic.

[Luminous]

True. Besides a strong father does not necessarily have to be homophobic.

I never said anything about a father being homophobic. That's a whole other story. A strong father figure is a man in one's life that is (or is like) a parent. I was referring to the father figure as masculine, not homophobic, and I think OP was too.

[Faolan]

In no way does this influence a boy being gay or bi. The same is true for girls. Sexuality is something that is most likely determined before birth, or in the first few years of life, when it really doesn't matter whether or not a father/mother figure is there. The child doesn't know.

[Soccerkid]

No I believe you are born with your sexuality

[Hudor]

I never said anything about a father being homophobic. That's a whole other story. A strong father figure is a man in one's life that is (or is like) a parent. I was referring to the father figure as masculine, not homophobic, and I think OP was too.

Course you didn't. It was a non sequitur and an additional comment

[Lovelife090994]

I was raised by a single mother and crave men for love and comfort. I just happen to be bi (homosexual and biromantic) nothing I chose or asked for. I was not always like this, it grew over time for me. Environment does play a role.

[Perfectly Flawed]

I do not think upbringing changes sexuality at all, I do think it changes personality though (which could lead to men being more feminine and women more masculine). That may be misinterpreted as sexuality on occasion.

[Body odah Man]

do you believe that if a boy doesn't have a strong father or father figure influence it might increase the chance of him becoming gay/bi? can the same thing be said about a girl and her mother?

I doubt it to be honest. I think gay/straight is more based on birth/genetics than parental influence