How do I approach this stunning guy at my school?

[Natalie97]

I am 16, and there is this guy at my school, maybe 19-20 years, who is amazingly good-looking - he is about 6'4" (I am only 5'1"), really big and muscular (I am slender), and has truly beautiful eyes and irresistible-looking full lips... and, well, he is just so incredibly hot.
I have never seen anyone like him that even comes close, he truly peaks on the beauty scale, and this makes me really nervous.
Every time I see him I find myself gazing at him and feeling nervous, and I'm sure I blush a lot as well.
But anyway, how can I approach a guy like him?
As you probably guessed, he is highly popular and often around other girls, and this makes it even trickier.
Should I just look at him and smile and look inviting, and hope that he comes up to me?
I am way too shy to approach him myself, but I guess I will have to do it in the end.

[arthur1]

Be friendly, and yourself. Try to bond with him over something, whether it be a sport or a book or whatever. It's just about the right introduction - once that's happened he'll recognise you himself and then he'll be the one talking to you. It's all about having things in common. Are you looking for a relationship with this guy?

[Natalie97]

Be friendly, and yourself. Try to bond with him over something, whether it be a sport or a book or whatever. It's just about the right introduction - once that's happened he'll recognise you himself and then he'll be the one talking to you. It's all about having things in common. Are you looking for a relationship with this guy?
Ah, okay, thanks. :)
Yes I definitely want to have him as a boyfriend.
Right now I am chiefly attracted to his looks and charisma, so a relationship on a pure sexual level also feels like a really tempting alternative - but of course, I would prefer to have a more intimate relationship with him so that he wants my for more than my body. :rolleyes:

Anyway, I know that he is good at math, so could it be a good idea to ask him for help and sit down with him somewhere slightly private?
Maybe I can make some moves then, like slowly moving closer and closer to him or something like that? :P

[arthur1]

What is important is that he feels you are someone he can talk to. Asking him for help is a great idea, though he might be slightly surprised if you hardly know him. When thinking about things like this, always think from HIS perspective. If someone years younger than him randomly comes up to him and starts making moves, he might be a little freaked out and make quick judgements. Sit next to him then ask something along the lines of 'Hey I hear you're good at Math?' That'll draw him into the conversation without it seeming too forward from your part, plus it'll compliment him and make him feel good without him even realising. Timing is important in these situations. Don't be too forward with your moves either. After he's helped you, you could say something like 'thanks, how about we hang out later or something?'. It extends the relationship beyond 'girl who I helped with Math' to 'nice girl' very quickly.

[Natalie97]

What is important is that he feels you are someone he can talk to. Asking him for help is a great idea, though he might be slightly surprised if you hardly know him. When thinking about things like this, always think from HIS perspective. If someone years younger than him randomly comes up to him and starts making moves, he might be a little freaked out and make quick judgements. Sit next to him then ask something along the lines of 'Hey I hear you're good at Math?' That'll draw him into the conversation without it seeming too forward from your part, plus it'll compliment him and make him feel good without him even realising. Timing is important in these situations. Don't be too forward with your moves either. After he's helped you, you could say something like 'thanks, how about we hang out later or something?'. It extends the relationship beyond 'girl who I helped with Math' to 'nice girl' very quickly.
Yes, I will do that, if I dare. :P

I have tried saying hi to him once and smiling a little, and I felt that I was stammering while saying it. :rolleyes:
I know that I will blush like a freak and have problems getting words out if I ask him for help with math, so I hope he doesn't think I sound silly.

Is it a problem if I am way smaller than him, by the way?
I could seriously stand under his chin on my toes and still not have my head touch him (plus he probably weighs like 3 times more than I do), and if I look straight at him while passing him I pretty much look at his lower chest, so what do guys usually think of such a size difference?

[arthur1]

Not really. It varies from guy to guy - some like girls shorter than them as much as there are guys who like girls taller. If you want a relationship with this guy obviously height shouldn't even be an issue, but personalities clicking and feelings bubbling. It might take him time, but you should never not go for it. Be confident in yourself and try, people have never got together by not trying. I've never met you of course but I'm sure there's plenty about you that he can be attracted to. Feel good about yourself and have confidence in everything good about you, and if you do that I bet he'll fall head over heels for you. But go for it - otherwise you'll live to regret it! :P

[Natalie97]

Yes, I am kind of hoping though that he is the protective kind of guy, so that he finds me small and cute, and someone he feels like taking care of - that would give me an advantage. :D

I just hope he isn't too cocky about himself, he seems great from a distance, although I am not sure what to think about the fact that he usually just glances at my breasts when I pass him at school.

[arthur1]

Haha something every guy can't help :P If anything that should encourage you to go for it! :D

[Natalie97]

Haha something every guy can't help :P If anything that should encourage you to go for it! :D
Hehe, well I don't exactly mind it, if he digs my breasts then that's wonderful! :D

Yes, I will definitely try approaching him on Monday. :D
Is it alright to perhaps try giving him a quick kiss on the lips if I get a good opportunity for that while he helps me out?

[arthur1]

If it feels like the right time, why not? But it has to be the right time. But again, be cautious about these things. If it's too much too soon, it'll only hinder your chances. Take it one step at a time, and when it feels like the right time to kiss him, do. This might take weeks of knowing him first, but going too quickly into these things will only make it worse. Remember, you've only got one first kiss with him. Don't waste it.

[Natalie97]

Oh dear, I actually managed to walk up to him and chat a little (although I was VERY nervous the whole time), and after some time I started talking about math and my problems with some of it, and he said that he was going to be busy until the weekend, but that I could visit him at 2 PM on Saturday;
so basically I am going home to the absolutely hottest guy I have ever seen in my whole life at that time.

What do I do now?
How should I act when I visit him?
I am extremely nervous, heeelp!

[Natalie97]

Oh dear, I actually managed to walk up to him and chat a little (although I was VERY nervous the whole time), and after some time I started talking about math and my problems with some of it, and he said that he was going to be busy until the weekend, but that I could visit him at 2 PM on Saturday;
so basically I am going home to the absolutely hottest guy I have ever seen in my whole life at that time.

What do I do now?
How should I act when I visit him?
I am extremely nervous, heeelp!

[Hardcatch]

Dont be overly excited, dont be clingy. Relax, be yourself, be honest and have fun. As a guy, we can see past those starstruck eyes and just being "seen" with a cute guy doesnt make the total package. We like the attention but we also like to initiate things ourself. And smile...we, I, like that alot. Good luck. Keep us updated on how it went.

[tbake98]

First off, I'll ask if you are in high school or college.

If you're in high school, and he's 19-20, that's a little creepy on multiple levels. Obviously, 19-20 year old guys that are popular with teenage girls is balancing on that legal/illegal line. And, two, if he's actually a student, just remember this: looks will fade, but smarts won't (at least as fast)...

If you're in college, congrats. That's an accomplishment at 16. Still illegal (depending on the state, etc.)...

[Natalie97]

I am in high school, and I turn 17 this year and this guy turned out to be two years older.
Hopefully not too creepy. :P

Yes I will definitely tell how it goes.
I am extremely nervous, but in a great way - I mean, it is definitely possible that we might end up kissing and cuddling if I am really, really lucky.
I believe he is single, and if he is then I'm not leaving his house until I have kissed him on the lips at least once. ^^

[Body odah Man]

I am 16, and there is this guy at my school, maybe 19-20 years, who is amazingly good-looking - he is about 6'4" (I am only 5'1"), really big and muscular (I am slender), and has truly beautiful eyes and irresistible-looking full lips... and, well, he is just so incredibly hot.
I have never seen anyone like him that even comes close, he truly peaks on the beauty scale, and this makes me really nervous.
Every time I see him I find myself gazing at him and feeling nervous, and I'm sure I blush a lot as well.
But anyway, how can I approach a guy like him?
As you probably guessed, he is highly popular and often around other girls, and this makes it even trickier.
Should I just look at him and smile and look inviting, and hope that he comes up to me?
I am way too shy to approach him myself, but I guess I will have to do it in the end.

Be urself like others have said and good luck. Self confidence helps too

[Natalie97]

Be urself like others have said and good luck. Self confidence helps too
Yep, thanks. ^^
I am a little bit insecure if it's a good idea to be alone with a guy who is a lot more than one foot taller than me and waaay more muscular and powerfully built, but he seems very kind.

[sixguy6]

Be more secure about yourself (even tho they already told you). But try and make friend with the girls that hang out with him. That way they'll introduce you to him and boom bang bang you guys are a couple! Easier said than done but just be yourself and I'm sure he'll like you back

[Natalie97]

Thanks a lot everyone, you are wonderful. :)

Um, by the way, this might sound like a weird question, but do you know some good ways to initiate kissing after we have talked for a while?
My whole point with visiting him is to become intimate with him, haha, so do you know any good ways to seduce him? ^^

[frenchguy1]

Nathalie, just be confident, smile and go ... He"s all yours ;)

[Natalie97]

Nathalie, just be confident, smile and go ... He"s all yours ;)
Yes, I hope so. ^^
If he invited me to come over to his house then that should mean he finds me attractive as well, right?

[frenchguy1]

Are you serious ? Of course ! But be careful .. you know he'll probably want to do stuff with you ! Don't say yes too fast, let him boil ... :) Give it some time !

[Natalie97]

I'm going over to him in about two hours, omg I can't wait.
He's gonna get some fun for sure. ^^

[Natalie97]

Are you serious ? Of course ! But be careful .. you know he'll probably want to do stuff with you ! Don't say yes too fast, let him boil ... :) Give it some time !
Haha, yes. ^^
I am going to give him the optimal chances to boil in every way I can think of. ^^
I'm soon going over to him. ;)

I just really hope that he actually is into me, it would be very disappointing if he pushed me back when I tried to kiss him.
But I will at least try to do it, I have promised myself to do it, either with him already prepared for it, or as a complete surprise.
I really must take this unique chance.

[ViolinPro]

Like Nike says:

Just do it :P

Edit:

Ah he invited you to his place, xD Nice going :p
Exactly take time, and definitely don't go farther than kissing, just an advise, keep it interesting :D
Otherwise, good luck gurl :p

[Natalie97]

Like Nike says:

Just do it :P

Edit:

Ah he invited you to his place, xD Nice going :p
Exactly take time, and definitely don't go farther than kissing, just an advise, keep it interesting :D
Otherwise, good luck gurl :p
Hehe thank you, yes we did end up kissing quite a lot, it was almost about to become something even more, but like I said earlier, he had to leave shortly after that since he was going away for some time, and I knew that from the beginning - but he decided that we could meet on Thursday.

It reeeally feels awesome, I just hope he won't suddenly get some other girl until then, but that time at his house was great!

I honestly feel very tempted to "provoke" him a whole lot the next time we meet, that would be really really fun. ;)
Not sure if it's a good idea, but he might enjoy it. ^^

[Natalie97]

I followed him to a party for the first time yesterday, and overall it was wonderful, I spent a lot of the time there sitting on his lap and kissing him. ^^

There was just one problem - I often noticed that other girls were flirting with him, and they were often very pretty.
I think I saw signs of that at least 4-5 times, and it was pretty tough to watch.
Will I have to go through this every time we go out together?
I don't wanna feel jealous every time I go somewhere with him.

[ViolinPro]

Well this is somewhat like with my boyfriend, I guess I'm considered good looking amongst guys and my boyfriend unfortunately gets quite jealous and I feel he gets tense when some guy friends of mine start talking with me or I chat with some guy he never met. It's a bit difficult for me, so what I'd say is this, don't make him notice that you feel weighed down by this. Just have fun, REAL fun and do fun stuff together, invite him over to something interesting not just kissing on his lap. Make him enjoy his time with you, not physically ;) Guys wont say this but they are waiting for an opportunity like that, not just some girl who will make out with them.
Just feel confident, don't give a flying **** :) say his to those girls, heck even start chatting with them like you're a really social person.

[Body odah Man]

Once more, good luck

[YankeesFan45]

Follow him around and then at the right time, purposely bump into him and then start a conversation with him. Then, compliment his looks, etc.

[Natalie97]

Well this is somewhat like with my boyfriend, I guess I'm considered good looking amongst guys and my boyfriend unfortunately gets quite jealous and I feel he gets tense when some guy friends of mine start talking with me or I chat with some guy he never met. It's a bit difficult for me, so what I'd say is this, don't make him notice that you feel weighed down by this. Just have fun, REAL fun and do fun stuff together, invite him over to something interesting not just kissing on his lap. Make him enjoy his time with you, not physically ;) Guys wont say this but they are waiting for an opportunity like that, not just some girl who will make out with them.
Just feel confident, don't give a flying **** :) say his to those girls, heck even start chatting with them like you're a really social person.
Yes I will try to relax, but it is pretty difficult.
Sometimes I notice some attractive girl flirting with him very clearly, like putting her hand on his arms while talking and staring into his eyes with a smile.
When this happens he looks like he is carefully backing off a little bit, and if she rests her ha nd on him too "close" - like almost gripping him with her full hand on him and leaving it like that for several seconds - he grabs her wrist and carefully takes her hand away.
Also, if I am somewhere close to him when this happens he will call me "his girl" , grab me and give me a short passionate French kiss in front of the girl while holding me close to him.
This usually makes the girl look very disappointed, but she tries to hide that reaction, act nice to both of us and then she will leave in a few minutes.
After that she will not approach him anymor, and just check him out a lot.

It's just that this happens every time when we go to a party together, and it feels like anyone might charm him enough to make him interested.

[Natalie97]

There was one more thing I would like some help with, if that's alright. :p

I am afraid that I might be too clingy, and too attracted to him.
I am pretty used to his looks by now, of course, but I still often find myself thinking "wow...!" when I see him, especially in the mornings when he walks without a shirt.
It's pretty common that he finds me sitting and glancing quietly at him a whole lot, until he understands what I want and kindly invites me to sex.
I feel like this happens perhaps so often that he thinks it's annoying - in the weekends we can easily have sex and kiss for several hours straight, and I never get tired of it.
He hasn't complained yet, but I still wonder about it, since I am the one who shows the first desire for it perhaps 80% of the time.

[Renata_cmp]

so yeah, it seems like i'm the only person under 40 who will try to date someone because of their personalities instead of their looks... it's depressing. "hey have you met Joe? He beats me with a shovel but you can skate on those abs!!"

[Natalie97]

so yeah, it seems like i'm the only person under 40 who will try to date someone because of their personalities instead of their looks... it's depressing. "hey have you met Joe? He beats me with a shovel but you can skate on those abs!!"
Well I wouldn't stay with someone who beat me, although I would have a lot of patience for someone if he was really really attractive. :p

Anyway, this super-attractive guy I used to be with dumped me about two weeks ago, and now he is with another girl and barely sees me anymore, which hurts a lot.
But despite the fact that he treated me like some throwaway sex toy and used me as hump-and-dump material, I still long for him and desire him.
I guess he acts like that because he knows that everyone wants him, and because everyone hopes that his player behaviour is a lie.
But he is very very VERY attractive, so it's kind of like being addicted to him.

[Renata_cmp]

wow this sound so stupid and retarded i wonder if you're not a guy living his fantasy of being this guy... So you like being treated as an object? This guy is soooo attractive because he show no respect for you or any female whatsoever by kissing them when he want? I don't call this kind of guy an "alpha male" for me it's an "arrogant douchebag", and if women really think being treated as sex-slaves, not as human beings is ok just because some shitface is hot, which is VERY unlikely, this is definitely a proof that this generation is badly fucked up, and i don't want to have anything to do with it...