Advice Needed

[Mzor203]

There is this girl that I like (obviously) and I am having a hard time with. I think there is a chance that she might like me, but I really want to have more of an idea if she does before I ask her out. I am generally a shy person, and I always get nervous even when I am just talking to her. I don't want to ask her out and then have her reject me, because then it would be very awkward and it would be quite hard ever to talk to her again. What should I do?

[theOperaGhost]

Try just to be a friend with her and get to know each other before asking her out. maybe?questionmark

[Mzor203]

I am kind of already her friend. I don't like hang out with her every day or anything, but you could call me a friend of hers. I just need to find ways to either get her to like me or to figure out how much she likes me.

[The Batman]

if she's your friend then try and go out to the movies or something with her and some other friends just so you could get to know each other more

[Andrew56]

Firstly, don't rush anything.

Just keep doing what you're doing. Don't go out of your way. Be yourself. Find sometime you can have a group activity, and casually invite her to come as well.

Most importantly, be confident in yourself and who you are. The absolute worst thing that could happen is that she calls you a freak and tells you to leave her alone.

So what? If it's not supposed to happen, it's not supposed to happen.

Just work on casual group activities and be sure to invite her to all of them.

Just totally be who you are, I can't stress that enough. And be confident of who you are. Get yourself in the mindset of, "This is me. She'll either like me or not. Some people will and some people won't. But that doesn't change me."

Good luck!

Please keep me updated!

[Mzor203]

Thank you Andrew for the above post. When you said, "The absolute worst thing that could happen is that she calls you a freak and tells you to leave her alone," that actually isn't true, since she's really nice and I know she wouldn't do that. So it's okay!

But... my real problem is ever approaching her to ask her out... I am really too shy, and so that is going to be a very hard thing to do.

[Andrew56]

There isn't a cure for shyness.

Some girls like the shyness. It's the opposite of thinking you're hot stuff. So they think it's "cute".

But just practice being yourself, and being ok with who you are, and the shyness will fade.

[woahman]

be very good friends. and when you feel comfortable enough, ask her our. i mean, if you like her and you want to go out with her, you'll never know if she likes you back unless you ask.

[ScotsGirl]

I say... go for it! :)
Take a deep breath, and just ask her. It doesnt have to be a date, you can say, 'just as friends' so you can get to know her better. You can be honest with her and tell her its because you want to get to know her better because you like what you know already.
I know its difficult, but you wont know what her answer is unless you try!
And if she does say no then its alright. You can still talk to her, she is still the same person. By the sounds of things even if she doesnt want to go out with you, it would still be nice to get to know her better as a friend.
Good luck! :)
xxx