Resisting the urge

[Body odah Man]

This may be somewhat of a long post so please bear with me here.

Recently I have decided to try and give up on masturbating indefinitely after a promise to God and due to pressure from my mom. However, resisting said urge is REALLY hard especially during bath/shower time (my normal m-bation times). Does any1 therefore have any tips or something to help me? All tips r incredibly appreciated :)

Note: Plz don't tell me I'm an idiot or to watch porn. I'm not going to watch it and I don't need people criticizing me. Also I don't have a gf sos sex marathons r out :(

[Living For Love]

It's been almost a month since I last masturbated. I have my own copping methods, but I think you also need to find one that suits you. First, avoid watch porn no matter what, and then, when you feel those "urges", you could always pray for help, but if that doesn't work, whatever you do, you shouldn't like sit down somewhere hoping it will go away, because it wont. Go do something more active, jogging, or housework, something that makes you tired and busy, and then the urges will go away. If those urges happen when you're showering, then you should just quit it as soon as possible and leave the bathroom.

[sixguy6]

Ummm you should just not think any sexual thoughts and try to see your penis as little as possible

[Bull]

Ummm you should just not think any sexual thoughts and try to see your penis as little as possible

How do you NOT have sexual thoughts if you are on VT? And how do you take a leak without at least touching your penis, which for me gives me sexual thoughts. I wish you luck, but I could never do that.

[klhohman16]

Look to God for help, pray to him, and ask him for help in your situation. But also know that masturbation is not a sin, your body is going to essential do it anyways whether it is through a wet dream or through masturbation you will still continue to have orgasms, it just part of being human. I wish you Good Luck!

[Giando]

I don't agree with you, but anyway, I want to say a thing to you...
My record without masturbating is 37 days, when you get used to resist, it becomes more easy, but I think resisting for a very long time is impossible

[sixguy6]

How do you NOT have sexual thoughts if you are on VT? And how do you take a leak without at least touching your penis, which for me gives me sexual thoughts. I wish you luck, but I could never do that.

I didn't say I don't jack off. I was giving advice on how to control it. I have them every minute lol

[esparza.warren]

Good luck man, I've tried a few times to stop. It's hard. I'll go a month here or there not doing it. The more you don't, the easier it gets to not do it, so push through and you'll get used to not doing it.

[Body odah Man]

It's been almost a month since I last masturbated. I have my own copping methods, but I think you also need to find one that suits you. First, avoid watch porn no matter what, and then, when you feel those "urges", you could always pray for help, but if that doesn't work, whatever you do, you shouldn't like sit down somewhere hoping it will go away, because it wont. Go do something more active, jogging, or housework, something that makes you tired and busy, and then the urges will go away. If those urges happen when you're showering, then you should just quit it as soon as possible and leave the bathroom.

So hard work helps with the urges? Didn't know that :)
@everyone
Thanks for the support guys :)

[Living For Love]

So hard work helps with the urges? Didn't know that :)
@everyone
Thanks for the support guys :)

Not hard work necessarily, basically something that makes you tired, because once you're tired, you don't have as much urge as before. That's how I see it, at least.

[CrazyPerson101]

This may be somewhat of a long post so please bear with me here.

Recently I have decided to try and give up on masturbating indefinitely after a promise to God and due to pressure from my mom. However, resisting said urge is REALLY hard especially during bath/shower time (my normal m-bation times). Does any1 therefore have any tips or something to help me? All tips r incredibly appreciated :)

Note: Plz don't tell me I'm an idiot or to watch porn. I'm not going to watch it and I don't need people criticizing me. Also I don't have a gf sos sex marathons r out :(

It's been almost a month since I last masturbated. I have my own copping methods, but I think you also need to find one that suits you. First, avoid watch porn no matter what, and then, when you feel those "urges", you could always pray for help, but if that doesn't work, whatever you do, you shouldn't like sit down somewhere hoping it will go away, because it wont. Go do something more active, jogging, or housework, something that makes you tired and busy, and then the urges will go away. If those urges happen when you're showering, then you should just quit it as soon as possible and leave the bathroom.


I agree with Dance In The Dark , you need to find something to distract you when you get the urge

[Xavier]

Keep yourself really busy. It keeps your mind off of it. Surround yourself with other Christians, I think that helps too. I tried to do the same thing a few years ago and it worked for a while but it stopped and I continue to do it. Good luck ! Just keep yourself occupied. Also I suggest not watching any sexual movies (even some PG-13).

[Stripling]

This may be somewhat of a long post so please bear with me here.

Recently I have decided to try and give up on masturbating indefinitely after a promise to God and due to pressure from my mom. However, resisting said urge is REALLY hard especially during bath/shower time (my normal m-bation times). Does any1 therefore have any tips or something to help me? All tips r incredibly appreciated :)

Note: Plz don't tell me I'm an idiot or to watch porn. I'm not going to watch it and I don't need people criticizing me. Also I don't have a gf sos sex marathons r out :(

I absolutely understand you, I struggle with this too. There is the God thing, there is the secrecy/isolation of it all, there is the time you waste on it (and porn if that's how you do it), and the way it doesn't promote relationships. I think its hard to just give up, you have to try slowly (not that I've had much success but this is what I think), try cutting it down to every 2nd day for a couple of weeks, then every 3rd, then every 4th etc until you don't feel the urge to masturbate as regularly. Try to avoid situations where you are alone and can masturbate. Pray, but also realise that lots of Christians (or whatever you are) struggle with this too - no sex so what else to do!? Try to distract yourself with something else. at least your mum knows (mine doesn't so I have only myself to tell me to stop, so its easier not to). Also, I don't think masturbation is as much of a problem as watching porn might be, and the guilt that comes with it is perhaps not something you should be too guilty about - it's natural, its inevitable, from some points of view it could be better than other stuff you could get up to. I don't think masturbation is a huge problem, but if it is getting in the way of other things and you do it a LOT then it could be...? Idk, msg me if you want to discuss more?

[ChaseDakoda]

Hay keep the faith and check out this CLEAN web site.
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-a-Masturbation-Addiction

[jonjon1998]

Just going to throw this out there... Why not just jerk off? It's normal and natural.

[MyPlague2014]

All I can say is... May the force be with you

[Body odah Man]

Hay keep the faith and check out this CLEAN web site.
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-a-Masturbation-Addiction

That looks helpful, thanks man :)
@everyone
Sadly I don't know other Christians so that makes it difficult. However I thank you all for the advice. 's bene 4 days now but the urge is getting really hard to resist, nearly caved last night :( I am way too weak.

Just going to throw this out there... Why not just jerk off? It's normal and natural.

Because as I said in the first post, I begged God for help in not masturbating cuz I felt guilty about it and I don't want to break my word to God because
a. That's just wrong
b. I don't want Him to punish me

[wasaby]

Maybe you could find a hobby that you like doing, as masturbation is most likely to occur when you are bored. Maybe arts and crafts, sports, cookery etc. Hope this helps....:)

[joel-d]

One of my friends is really religious and thinks that he should not masturbate. I don't have the same view for myself, but I respect his choice. He's a VERY disciplined guy, both mentally and physically. Some of the things other people have mentioned here are some of his strategies, such as keeping yourself busy with physical activity (sports, running, working out) and focusing on non-horny mental activity (such as homework, reading non-horny books, etc.). He's the one friend who won't really join in if some of the rest of us are talking about sexual topics, masturbation, etc., which I can understand because those conversations always get me very horny.

Even when he succeeds in not masturbating, after a week or two he'll start getting lots of wet dreams. He actually feels kind of guilty about those, too, which I think is because he realizes they feel amazing. But I think you have to give yourself a break about wet dreams. Even if you're not masturbating, your body is still making semen, and sooner or later it's got to get out, even if you don't consciously make it happen. You can't blame yourself for what your body does while you're asleep.

[NeuroTiger]

The key is to keep your mind busy...
...and certainly for you, it's better you decrease the time you spend in the shower.

[Body odah Man]

One of my friends is really religious and thinks that he should not masturbate. I don't have the same view for myself, but I respect his choice. He's a VERY disciplined guy, both mentally and physically. Some of the things other people have mentioned here are some of his strategies, such as keeping yourself busy with physical activity (sports, running, working out) and focusing on non-horny mental activity (such as homework, reading non-horny books, etc.). He's the one friend who won't really join in if some of the rest of us are talking about sexual topics, masturbation, etc., which I can understand because those conversations always get me very horny.

Even when he succeeds in not masturbating, after a week or two he'll start getting lots of wet dreams. He actually feels kind of guilty about those, too, which I think is because he realizes they feel amazing. But I think you have to give yourself a break about wet dreams. Even if you're not masturbating, your body is still making semen, and sooner or later it's got to get out, even if you don't consciously make it happen. You can't blame yourself for what your body does while you're asleep.

I'd like to meet that guy. As for the wet dreams, I honestly don't remember getting them even if I DO get them :( which pretty much sux

[george98]

Just so you know masturbating isnt a sin. But if you are so willing to keep your mind of it you should propably start going out more and spend your time with everything else by sitting alone in the room and when you do sit alone try to control your self calm down and keep your mind busy!
Hope i helped!

[Body odah Man]

@^
Yeah, thanks :)

[Snydergate]

I have had issues with this before as I am religious as well, but i figured its not that bad of a sin or even a sin at all. It's actually a healthy bodily funtion, and not doing it at all will have negative effects down the road. Do it, if I was God, I wouldnt send people to hell for jerking off.

[wwad]

Religion & your mother aside. There is a reason you have "urges" in the first place. It's because you've reached the level of maturity for your body to undergo the expelling of semen. If god and your mother told you to never urinate, defacate, blow your nose or cry - how would you resist those urges? You wouldn't..

What I'm getting at is - if "god" puts it in your body to give you the urges to make normal body functions (ie. Pee/poop/cry) what makes masterbation different?

And let's just say that you stop masterbating - which is fine - your body will expell semen in other ways (wet dreams) which are typically caused by subconscious sexual fantasies anyway..

So whether you release semen through your own control and consciousness - or through sexual subconscious and "wet dreams" - ejaculation is going to happen. Just like all your other body functions.

Personally, I'd like to have control over it vs. It just happening on its own at what could be the worst possible time (sharing a bed with someone, especially your mother)

I think your abscence from masterbating will only cause you more frustration, stress and dissapointment if you ever "break the promise" and masterbate. You will dissapoint yourself therefore creating a very unhealthy stigma about sexual behavior that could follow you into adulthood - marriage and may even be the reason for a divorce. Repressing natural sexual thoughts is not healthy. Period.

[jeans_kid]

It's been almost a month since I last masturbated. I have my own copping methods, but I think you also need to find one that suits you.

Religious reasons aside, is there any reason why you'd want to stop masturbating? VT is the first place where I learned about other guys trying to stop masturbating.. Since I started to masturbate I have been thinking it's a natural thing to do. In fact I have been trying different things to keep myself horny all the time so that I can have more intense orgasms. So far masturbation hasn't affected my study and social life, and I have been enjoying the pleasure that masturbation has been giving me. Now that I know that there are people who try to stop masturbating, perhaps there is something bad about it that I'm not aware of... Would you mind telling me more about why one should consider stop masturbating? Much appreciated ;)

[TheAwesomeCoder]

Not hard work necessarily, basically something that makes you tired, because once you're tired, you don't have as much urge as before. That's how I see it, at least.
So acts why I don't do it when I'm holidays because I'm constantly going out of the hotel

[Living For Love]

Religious reasons aside, is there any reason why you'd want to stop masturbating? VT is the first place where I learned about other guys trying to stop masturbating.. Since I started to masturbate I have been thinking it's a natural thing to do. In fact I have been trying different things to keep myself horny all the time so that I can have more intense orgasms. So far masturbation hasn't affected my study and social life, and I have been enjoying the pleasure that masturbation has been giving me. Now that I know that there are people who try to stop masturbating, perhaps there is something bad about it that I'm not aware of... Would you mind telling me more about why one should consider stop masturbating? Much appreciated ;)

I can only speak for myself. Actually, most of the reason of why I want to stop masturbating are religious ones, but if we put those aside, I can say that I feel guilty after doing it, I feel physically uncomfortable afterwards (headaches, tiredness) and sometimes I don't feel any (sexual) pleasure doing it.

[Jtyler]

Don't stop

[Body odah Man]

@everyone
So, yeah, I caved last night :(
I pretty much feel incredibly guilty bout it cuz I feel like I've broken my word to God and now I've committed a very bad sin. So yeah :(

[SillyShyGuy]

If you want to resist then do your best to distract yourself. Anything helps. Grab a snack, play video games, watch television. Do anything in your power to get your mind off of the urge. Cheers.

[Rapryan]

I have tried so many times, but I end up jacking off again. Its to hard not to.

[Body odah Man]

I have tried so many times, but I end up jacking off again. Its to hard not to.

Yeah, IK :(
I'm trying hard but..it is brutal to resist and VERY hard.

[Bull]

@everyone
So, yeah, I caved last night :(
I pretty much feel incredibly guilty bout it cuz I feel like I've broken my word to God and now I've committed a very bad sin. So yeah :(

God loves you and forgives you. :) You did what was right for you at the moment and you should not feel so guilty about it. Relax and take another look at why you arrived at the decision to stop masturbating in the first place. Why/how did you determine that masturbating was a sin? I have never ever had a conflict about masturbating, but went through months of anguish over my having enjoyed someone else masturbating me, and the resulting desire to experiment with a guy, so I do identify with your conflict.

[jackdude2000]

Can I just say somthing masterbating isn't wrong if you get the urge do it it helps with stress and can decrease the risk of you getting prostate cancer when your older

[wwad]

Each time you set the expectation to ignore the natural urge - you only cause your self distress - frustration and guilt - for no reason. Eventually it will ruin the way you think about sex. Think about masterbation Is like blowing your nose - just with a different part of the body.

[Body odah Man]

God loves you and forgives you. :) You did what was right for you at the moment and you should not feel so guilty about it. Relax and take another look at why you arrived at the decision to stop masturbating in the first place. Why/how did you determine that masturbating was a sin? I have never ever had a conflict about masturbating, but went through months of anguish over my having enjoyed someone else masturbating me, and the resulting desire to experiment with a guy, so I do identify with your conflict.

When I determined masturbating was a sin: the church, school and my mom.
Why I'm conflicted: cuz I asked and prayed to God for help in not doing it, yet I caved. Feel guilty for betraying Him.

[jeans_kid]

Right, God creates our bodies so that we get the urge to masturbate, so He will understand and forgive us if we masturbate out of need.

I remember that at some point I tried to cope with the urge by masturbating just a little without letting myself go all the way to the end, but then I realized that this wouldn't work, cuz the urge would just continue to build up rather than disappear, and after an hour or two I just ended up with a really intense orgasm. I wish I never discovered this, cuz now I do this every day just to keep myself horny most of the time. I just wanted you to know that you shouldn't feel bad cuz the people God won't forgive for sure are guys like me who indulge in sexual pleasures...

[Liven]

This is kinda hard to prevent. I always distract my self to prevent me from doing it. I could go without a couple days. If you stop for a week and start doing it again, no worries since that to me would be a mile stone.

Delete and restrict access to porn, that will help prevent access. The firewall works, because my dad put a restriction on my PC and I stopped watching it.

Now as for the showers, try taking baths instead, so that you know if you do it, you will be sitting basically in your own cum (and you'll have to take another one)

As for sleeping at night, play some music quietly to help distract you while you fall asleep.

Hope this helped.

[beenthere]

I think just about every Christian teen goes through the same thing at some point, I can remember making promises like that also, and as you are seeing already it is like torture. I really understand why you made the promise, sort of like “I promise if you only do this one thing for me, then I will never do that again” type of thing. That really never works out well when you do that, what happens in the end is that you just feel a lot more guilty. You’re human, and God knows that your human. That is why he gave us Jesus, and that is what makes you a Christian. Before I say more, just let me say that there is nothing in the bible about masterbation, However, some churches tie lust and masterbation together. I personally don’t think it has to be that way. masterbation is just a natural way to relieve pressure and stress, but it also can relieve you from lust as well.
I think the better way to look at it is; if you want to try and keep your lust under control, and keep things to a minimum, that’s fine, but when you really just need to release the pressure, then try to do it without lust and don’t feel guilty for it. I know you made a promise, but Keep praying and asking for help, but don’t do the promise thing, it is kind of a set up for failure. We just have to take things day by day, and try and figure out what gods plan is for us. Don’t let that one thing be something you put all your focus on. You won’t be a teenager forever, eventually you will be in a relationship, and you won’t have to worry about such things. As for your Mom, Some things should just be personal. Of course maybe when you first started, I can kind of understand talking to mom about it, but at this point it really should not be a regular conversation. If she is asking, I think I would probably just say something like “I’m dealing with it if I need any more advice I’ll ask” It’s not about being disrespectful, but it should not be something that needs to be focused on all the time. Good luck! Hope that helps some.

[Body odah Man]

This is kinda hard to prevent. I always distract my self to prevent me from doing it. I could go without a couple days. If you stop for a week and start doing it again, no worries since that to me would be a mile stone.

Delete and restrict access to porn, that will help prevent access. The firewall works, because my dad put a restriction on my PC and I stopped watching it.

Now as for the showers, try taking baths instead, so that you know if you do it, you will be sitting basically in your own cum (and you'll have to take another one)

As for sleeping at night, play some music quietly to help distract you while you fall asleep.

Hope this helped.

It did thks. I have gone 2 weeks once, and never cum in bed, but it's rlly rlly hard to do these days cuz of all the stress with my exams. As for the bathing instead of showering thing: it's a good idea but, sadly, I'm a very unhygienic dude. I've m'bated in bath before without caring. Plus mom always makes me take baths in scented water which I abhor so yeah. I do appreciate ur advice tho :)


I think just about every Christian teen goes through the same thing at some point, I can remember making promises like that also, and as you are seeing already it is like torture. I really understand why you made the promise, sort of like “I promise if you only do this one thing for me, then I will never do that again” type of thing. That really never works out well when you do that, what happens in the end is that you just feel a lot more guilty. You’re human, and God knows that your human. That is why he gave us Jesus, and that is what makes you a Christian. Before I say more, just let me say that there is nothing in the bible about masterbation, However, some churches tie lust and masterbation together. I personally don’t think it has to be that way. masterbation is just a natural way to relieve pressure and stress, but it also can relieve you from lust as well.
I think the better way to look at it is; if you want to try and keep your lust under control, and keep things to a minimum, that’s fine, but when you really just need to release the pressure, then try to do it without lust and don’t feel guilty for it. I know you made a promise, but Keep praying and asking for help, but don’t do the promise thing, it is kind of a set up for failure. We just have to take things day by day, and try and figure out what gods plan is for us. Don’t let that one thing be something you put all your focus on. You won’t be a teenager forever, eventually you will be in a relationship, and you won’t have to worry about such things. As for your Mom, Some things should just be personal. Of course maybe when you first started, I can kind of understand talking to mom about it, but at this point it really should not be a regular conversation. If she is asking, I think I would probably just say something like “I’m dealing with it if I need any more advice I’ll ask” It’s not about being disrespectful, but it should not be something that needs to be focused on all the time. Good luck! Hope that helps some.

Your words are like light at the end of the tunnel; they bring hope with them. I never thought of it that way but...maybe masterbation isn't a terrible sin. Thanks. As for how my mom knows-I never told her, she just found out I did it and got piiisssed :(
I do however have a few questions which I'd rlly appreciate ur answering-if ur ok with it of course. You mentioned you've done the promise thing and, I assume, they've been broken. Is there a way to get God's forgiveness afterwards or are you cursed/damned forever for it? That's what I've been sitting with for many nights since Tuesday (when I caved)

[beenthere]

Hey Dude,

Sorry I didn’t check to see that you responded to me, I feel bad for not getting right back to you. I think it is very normal for a mom to be pissed about that, most women, and probably even more so with Christian women don’t have an understanding for what it is like for a guy. So it is a really good idea to try and not leave your evidence around. I’m sure at first it is much worse also, it is kind of a normal reaction when I mom first learns about it.

About the Promises, Geeez, if only my promises were as small as yours. I still understand how it feels for you. I can even remember shaking and my heart pounding because I knew I was breaking a promise to God. Sometimes we get into a serious situation, and we make promises we can’t keep. Sin is sin and all sins can be forgiven, even the worst of sins( just a quick example Jesus forgave the criminal on the cross next to him and told him he would be with him in heaven that same day)

This is one thing I really don’t like about some churches, they have a tendency to try to tell young kids if you do certain things you are going to hell. I really think the reason they do that for the most part is that they want to try and scare kids away from making mistakes when they are young, but I think it is the wrong thing to do because for many what it does is scare them away from God, because they think they can never be good enough according to the church rules. I think it really messes a lot of kids up. God is always there to be with you through everything you are going through, and he will take it all, all the good and the bad and he will find a way to use it all to his benefit if you let him. So don’t get me wrong, he is very patient, and he has understanding for you, but if you are continually going against him, there will be consequences, but even then you still can be forgiven. So as I kind of said before, Don’t make those kind of promises. Just ask for forgiveness about the promise you made, and just ask for some guidance through all these things, your heart is in the right place, and I don’t think you are doing anything against God. Don’t ever get it in your head that you’ve done something that God won’t forgive you for, he is always ready to forgive you. What he wants most of all is a relationship with you. So just the fact that you are praying tells me that you are already on a good path. Keep praying even in the times that you don’t feel close to God, he is always listening and he wants to hear from you.

[Body odah Man]

Hey Dude,

Sorry I didn’t check to see that you responded to me, I feel bad for not getting right back to you. I think it is very normal for a mom to be pissed about that, most women, and probably even more so with Christian women don’t have an understanding for what it is like for a guy. So it is a really good idea to try and not leave your evidence around. I’m sure at first it is much worse also, it is kind of a normal reaction when I mom first learns about it.

About the Promises, Geeez, if only my promises were as small as yours. I still understand how it feels for you. I can even remember shaking and my heart pounding because I knew I was breaking a promise to God. Sometimes we get into a serious situation, and we make promises we can’t keep. Sin is sin and all sins can be forgiven, even the worst of sins( just a quick example Jesus forgave the criminal on the cross next to him and told him he would be with him in heaven that same day)

This is one thing I really don’t like about some churches, they have a tendency to try to tell young kids if you do certain things you are going to hell. I really think the reason they do that for the most part is that they want to try and scare kids away from making mistakes when they are young, but I think it is the wrong thing to do because for many what it does is scare them away from God, because they think they can never be good enough according to the church rules. I think it really messes a lot of kids up. God is always there to be with you through everything you are going through, and he will take it all, all the good and the bad and he will find a way to use it all to his benefit if you let him. So don’t get me wrong, he is very patient, and he has understanding for you, but if you are continually going against him, there will be consequences, but even then you still can be forgiven. So as I kind of said before, Don’t make those kind of promises. Just ask for forgiveness about the promise you made, and just ask for some guidance through all these things, your heart is in the right place, and I don’t think you are doing anything against God. Don’t ever get it in your head that you’ve done something that God won’t forgive you for, he is always ready to forgive you. What he wants most of all is a relationship with you. So just the fact that you are praying tells me that you are already on a good path. Keep praying even in the times that you don’t feel close to God, he is always listening and he wants to hear from you.

I thank you with all my heart for the answer man :)
I've been really worried these past few days that what I'd done had turned God from me forever and damned my soul (my Greek exam I took is still stressin me out and normally Greek goes real well, date I would have been on today got canceled out of the blue) and thought was cuz I'd failed to keep that promise to God and I'd therefore be punished forever. But you seem to be saying that God will forgive us even if we stray and accidentally break a promise and is always with us, which...really is a very very nice thing to believe and makes me feel a lot better. Perhaps God will forgive me if I fail a time or 2 and will be with me regardless. That'd be really nice.

So, thansk for the response and for bearing with me.

[beenthere]

what I am telling you is that we all fail over and over through our lives even the best Christian. God gave us Jesus for that very purpose, When you ask for forgiveness, Jesus says it is washed away forever like it never happened.

Sometimes it is more hard for us to forgive our self then it is for Jesus to forgive us. As a Christian we should be always trying to do the right thing, and we already made a promise when we accepted Jesus, so there is no need to create new promises, just try to do what is right, and ask for forgiveness when you sin.

I went through a faze for a while where I was pretty out of control that started when I was 13, and that was when I started making promises, really the result of that was me kind of running away from God for a while because I could not keep my promises. I always continued to pray even through that time, but I also kind of put a wall up because I didn’t see any way that things could change for me. Somehow even through all of that God was still taking care of me even when I was caught up in some pretty bad stuff. I kind of feel that even though the things I was doing were bad, That God knew my heart was good and he was just waiting for me to figure things out. There were consequences for those things that were very emotionally painful, but that’s kind of what got me back on the right path again, and that is kind of the way God works sometimes. It was a long process, I just kept praying if this is what you want I’ll try, and he just kept giving to me hope, so I continued to say I will keep trying. It felt like it took forever, but I started getting back into church again and that’s when I really got a message almost tailored to me. Basically that message is; God accepts you as you are, there are consequences if you know you are living against his will in this world, but until your dyeing breath you can be forgiven for all your sins. Once you accept Christ, that is the only requirement to be forgiven, but it is also up to you to study about Christ because you have to understand him to understand what it means to be a Christian.

[Body odah Man]

what I am telling you is that we all fail over and over through our lives even the best Christian. God gave us Jesus for that very purpose, When you ask for forgiveness, Jesus says it is washed away forever like it never happened.

Sometimes it is more hard for us to forgive our self then it is for Jesus to forgive us. As a Christian we should be always trying to do the right thing, and we already made a promise when we accepted Jesus, so there is no need to create new promises, just try to do what is right, and ask for forgiveness when you sin.

I went through a faze for a while where I was pretty out of control that started when I was 13, and that was when I started making promises, really the result of that was me kind of running away from God for a while because I could not keep my promises. I always continued to pray even through that time, but I also kind of put a wall up because I didn’t see any way that things could change for me. Somehow even through all of that God was still taking care of me even when I was caught up in some pretty bad stuff. I kind of feel that even though the things I was doing were bad, That God knew my heart was good and he was just waiting for me to figure things out. There were consequences for those things that were very emotionally painful, but that’s kind of what got me back on the right path again, and that is kind of the way God works sometimes. It was a long process, I just kept praying if this is what you want I’ll try, and he just kept giving to me hope, so I continued to say I will keep trying. It felt like it took forever, but I started getting back into church again and that’s when I really got a message almost tailored to me. Basically that message is; God accepts you as you are, there are consequences if you know you are living against his will in this world, but until your dyeing breath you can be forgiven for all your sins. Once you accept Christ, that is the only requirement to be forgiven, but it is also up to you to study about Christ because you have to understand him to understand what it means to be a Christian.

Thank you. Thank you so much :)

[Spookysnail]

You should find a hobby, do something you enjoy and keep enjoying whatever hobbies you do now or will do om the future. Doing something fun can often remove these urges. I wish you the best of luck. And don't give up!
=)

[VirtualGuy012]

I hope you stick with it.. Power to you. But i would stay off VT. That usually gives me sexual thoughts. Stay away from anything that gives you those thoughts. Go for a run, just get up and move, do anything when you feel those urges.

[Body odah Man]

@^
Thks. I'll try that

[DamoMac]

I have the ability to stop quite easily, i can quite comfortably go months without doing it. But, boredom kicks in and sometimes i just feel like it.

[Body odah Man]

I have the ability to stop quite easily, i can quite comfortably go months without doing it. But, boredom kicks in and sometimes i just feel like it.

How do you do it? That is the question, eh? :)

[valamar]

Don't give up on it. Its totally natural.

[Body odah Man]

Don't give up on it. Its totally natural.

It's a sin tho.

[Body odah Man]

Any other tips? I keep caving :(

[hockeyfan]

I've tried to give it up before for personal reasons. However I like the sound if a sex marathon.

For the shower, get in and out as quickly as possible. Wash ur penis quickly. Sing a song or something to distract urself from the urges.

[Body odah Man]

Hmm, I could try that

[diddykong53]

Just going to throw this out there... Why not just jerk off? It's normal and natural.

completely natural thing to do! just do it! God made you to have a sex drive so why not use it? God wants us to feel good and he created sex.
I know how you feel though, my parents hate that I do it (however they don't know I do they think I've stopped) but I've made my descicion. I'm doing it

[Body odah Man]

@^
I guess...

[bigp0599]

Got it off American dad but find a hobby or something u like to do

[Body odah Man]

Got it off American dad but find a hobby or something u like to do

Got what off American Dad? And hobbying doesn't help when in shower itsef and that's when I most often cave :(