All advisers out there..I need you..

[Riser]

Well I don't even know how to start telling the story.There is a girl I really love.The first problem is she is 14 and i am 18.I'm not a pedo or something.I don't feel anything sexual about her.I just love her and the funny part is I don't know why.I feel sealed to her.I know her like 3 years.She was close to me at the beginning of the last year.Then I realized how much i love her about 2 years.(now 3 years)And I ruined everything with texting her I love her.Her friend said to me she didn't believe that.After she said I'll ignore seeing that.But by the time passed she blocked me on whatsapp,facebook etc.Than eventually stopped talking.Last summer I apologized her like 20 times from the phone texting because I couldn't see her.(I forgot to mention we are at the same school bus that's why i couldn't see her in the summer)She didn't even reply that.Now the most head confusing part is this year for me.At the beginning of this year I texted her telling everything was a foolish mistake.I had to lie because i was really happy when she was talking to me so i said that was a mistake(But it was not)At the same time she has a brother who is new to school bus this year met me.(He is one age younger than her.)He really liked me and he sees me as an older brother to him.He calls me everyday on skype.(Well I finished high school and gotta leave the school so he does not want me to let go)Well this year she seemed to be wanna talk but shy at the same time(I m not sre about that. i observed like that) I kept texting long messages to her this year but really rare.one day she answered me but it was not an important message.But she was still continuing ignoring me like when she was telling a story calls everybodys name except me.(Like:''Hey george,samantha,reily did you know what happen last...bla bla.....?)I draw her picture and gave it to her apologizing first time to her face and she didn't even thank me but there was a little smile when i was giving the picture to her(She tried to cover with her arms)And now school finished and the other children from the school bus wants to play basketball with me everyday(btw his brother and she comes too because we all live too close)When we were playing ,we were in the same team.She still does not giving me any passes like i m not there.It is not possible for me to get every detail in here because i can't tell the facial expressions i observed.Her actions sometimes makes me think she is too shy to talk or she really don't care.I mean she is only 14.By the way before the basketball thing I texted her It was not a mistake i really love her.I couldn't date 2 girls in my class because of her.I knew i couldn't make them work when i was thinking of her.So i didn't date them and probably i broke their heart.:( If you tell me get her out of your life,I can't because his brother won't let me go from his life so i m kinda trapped.Their mother also met me because of her brother.(their mother said he always keeps telling my name to everyone like a brother)By the way I didn't feel love like this in my entire life.Yes I could say i fell in love when i was at 13-14 but this is really different.This feels that every love i had was nothing....What should i do?(Well i play guitar,piano,paint,draw and i m kinda talented in lots of stuff but i don't use them to impress someone):confused::(

[BuryYourFlame]

Stop talking to her.
It's pretty bloody obvious that she doesn't want to talk to you. Your desire to profess your love to her doesn't trump her right to feel safe and it doesn't trump her right to not be annoyed by guys she has no interest in.
It sounds like she's trying to be polite but really has no interest in talking to you.
She's ignoring you and blocking you on various things. I think you need to take the hint.

[Camazotz]

Stop talking to her.
It's pretty bloody obvious that she doesn't want to talk to you. Your desire to profess your love to her doesn't trump her right to feel safe and it doesn't trump her right to not be annoyed by guys she has no interest in.
It sounds like she's trying to be polite but really has no interest in talking to you.
She's ignoring you and blocking you on various things. I think you need to take the hint.

^ Wholeheartedly agree. I think it's time to cut off communication with her and move on.

[LouBerry]

I agree with the previous two, and will tell you that, as a girl, it is way fucking annoying when a guy won't leave you alone. It may just not be in the cards. But you can't say you love her and that she's the love of your life if you hardly know her, which you don't if you two don't talk and she's shy around you. Take the hint and back off, and maybe if you give her some space, things will change.

[Camazotz]

I agree with the previous two, and will tell you that, as a girl, it is way fucking annoying when a guy won't leave you alone. It may just not be in the cards. But you can't say you love her and that she's the love of your life if you hardly know her, which you don't if you two don't talk and she's shy around you. Take the hint and back off, and maybe if you give her some space, things will change.

I wish this was more common knowledge. I wouldn't have been so socially awkward when I was younger if I didn't assume that girls want to hear "I love you" if you just like them. :/ I blame romantic comedies.

[LouBerry]

I wish this was more common knowledge. I wouldn't have been so socially awkward when I was younger if I didn't assume that girls want to hear "I love you" if you just like them. :/ I blame romantic comedies.

I wish it was more common knowledge too, even for girls. I didn't know that either until I actually fell in love for real. Girls tend to fall for it so easily, you see twelve/thirteen year olds telling their "boyfriend/girlfriend" that they love them, and it's insane. After being in love for so long, I cringe at the modern ideas of it, because damn they are so wrong. If it all worked the way it does in John Green books, no one would ever get divorced, lol.

[Camazotz]

I wish it was more common knowledge too, even for girls. I didn't know that either until I actually fell in love for real. Girls tend to fall for it so easily, you see twelve/thirteen year olds telling their "boyfriend/girlfriend" that they love them, and it's insane. After being in love for so long, I cringe at the modern ideas of it, because damn they are so wrong. If it all worked the way it does in John Green books, no one would ever get divorced, lol.

Yup. Hollywood shows us the happy fun parts of relationships, not the real sacrifices people go through to make a relationship work. People aren't prepared for the hard parts, which makes them confused and angry. Real relationships aren't as glamorous or easy as they're portrayed, but they're still worth it.

[LouBerry]

Yup. Hollywood shows us the happy fun parts of relationships, not the real sacrifices people go through to make a relationship work. People aren't prepared for the hard parts, which makes them confused and angry. Real relationships aren't as glamorous or easy as they're portrayed, but they're still worth it.

For real though. There isn't really much fun in it at all. It's a huge commitment, and it's hard as Hell. There are wonderful parts, sure, but they are few and far in between. You have to work at it, every single day, harder than you've ever worked at anything, and you don't really get that much in return, or at least it never seems like it. I wish I hadn't met my fiance until I was out of high school at least, because it's a lot to handle for an eighteen year old.

[Riser]

Yes I'll really try to get away from her but she still wants to come to the basketball.I mean she knows I'm there and still wants to come.I'm really confused and I really know 17-18 year old girl's feelings but a 14 year old is kinda hard to solve.And thanks for your advice..