Fear of turning gay?

[Fongman]

Hi all!
I'm new here and wonder if I can get any advice on this,first let me just explain the back story. I've been straight all my life,my first crush was a girl,in fact all my crushes have been on girls. I'm also very shy though and have never had a girlfriend,mainly because the girls in my high school are SO mean.I'm also really lacking in confidence too. Is this normal to fear becoming gay? PS I am NOT a homophone because lots of people in my family are homosexual, its fine for them but I dont want to be....

I know I'm not gay but I have a fear of becoming such...

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

The thing with sexual orientation is that it's impossible to turn gay, if you're gay, you're gay and if you're straight you're straight. Honestly, it's pretty normal for people to be afraid of being gay, but honestly there's nothing to fear. You'll be fine.

[Bull]

I know I'm not gay but I have a fear of becoming such...

First, I don't think anyone "becomes gay". A person's sexual orientation is not a choice but a gift of birth. So you will not "become gay". If you are, you are. If you aren't you will not be. The important thing is to be accepting of who you are and determine how you are going to deal with that. I am slowly coming to terms with the reality that I have less than straight feelings and desires. It is a process with which we must deal. VM me if you have some specific questions for me.

[Fongman]

Thank you for replying,and so quickly too! I've been fearing this for quite a few months this too.... ever since another girl rejected me....

[sixguy6]

Well unless you want to be gay then you will but if you dont then you won't

[Fongman]

Thanks for all the replies,this has been worrying me...I know I'm straight and always will be :)

[Hudor]

You don't have anything to fear unless you secretly do crave guys and are in denial. No str8 guy can turn gay just as no gay guy can turn str8 regardless of their desire or fear.

[Abyssal Echo]

The thing with sexual orientation is that it's impossible to turn gay, if you're gay, you're gay and if you're straight you're straight. Honestly, it's pretty normal for people to be afraid of being gay, but honestly there's nothing to fear. You'll be fine.

You don't have anything to fear unless you secretly do crave guys and are in denial. No str8 guy can turn gay just as no gay guy can turn str8 regardless of their desire or fear.

I agree with the above posters you can not turn gay or choose to be gay or straight. Personally at this point I wouldn't worry about your sexual orientation. In the end you are who and what you are only you can chose to accept it or deny it. I hope this helps you.

[Fongman]

So...if I've been straight my whole life,I can't turn gay? That's a relief,I think I have HOCD,this might be causing this fear of mine...

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think its natural to fear some things in life - and rejection can be hard as well.
You could have any sexuality who knows try and not worry over things maybe you need someone to talk to.

Lots our age dont yet have girl friends so dont take that as a sign you might be gay either.

[Faolan]

The thing is, heterosexual and homosexual are just words, and words can only do so much to describe the human condition. I think it's impossible to be completely sure of your sexuality, there will always be people who surprise you, and who may in turn be surprised by you. If you say you've liked girls your whole life, then you most likely won't end up being gay, but even if you have gay crushes, so what? They're likely few and far between, and really there's nothing you can do to stifle them but hate yourself, and that's the last thing you should do. You're a human being, and our bodies shouldn't determine whom we love.

[CrazyPerson101]

Hi all!
I'm new here and wonder if I can get any advice on this,first let me just explain the back story. I've been straight all my life,my first crush was a girl,in fact all my crushes have been on girls. I'm also very shy though and have never had a girlfriend,mainly because the girls in my high school are SO mean.I'm also really lacking in confidence too. Is this normal to fear becoming gay? PS I am NOT a homophone because lots of people in my family are homosexual, its fine for them but I dont want to be....

I know I'm not gay but I have a fear of becoming such...

The thing with sexual orientation is that it's impossible to turn gay, if you're gay, you're gay and if you're straight you're straight. Honestly, it's pretty normal for people to be afraid of being gay, but honestly there's nothing to fear. You'll be fine.

First, I don't think anyone "becomes gay". A person's sexual orientation is not a choice but a gift of birth. So you will not "become gay". If you are, you are. If you aren't you will not be. The important thing is to be accepting of who you are and determine how you are going to deal with that. I am slowly coming to terms with the reality that I have less than straight feelings and desires. It is a process with which we must deal. VM me if you have some specific questions for me.

You don't have anything to fear unless you secretly do crave guys and are in denial. No str8 guy can turn gay just as no gay guy can turn str8 regardless of their desire or fear.

I agree with the above posters you can not turn gay or choose to be gay or straight. Personally at this point I wouldn't worry about your sexual orientation. In the end you are who and what you are only you can chose to accept it or deny it. I hope this helps you.

I think its natural to fear some things in life - and rejection can be hard as well.
You could have any sexuality who knows try and not worry over things maybe you need someone to talk to.

Lots our age dont yet have girl friends so dont take that as a sign you might be gay either.

The thing is, heterosexual and homosexual are just words, and words can only do so much to describe the human condition. I think it's impossible to be completely sure of your sexuality, there will always be people who surprise you, and who you may in turn be surprised by. If you say you've liked girls your whole life, then you most likely won't end up being gay, but even if you have gay crushes, so what? They're likely few and far between, and really there's nothing you can do to stifle them but hat yourself, and that's the last thing you should do. You're a human being, and our bodies shouldn't determine whom we love.


Here are the best answers to your question. ( I know they've been seen ) I couldn't have said it better than how these people have said it.( Well done you guys ). I am bi and I know it. I like girls but my first love was a guy ( I was 12 he was 15 , I spent the house every 2 nights (spent the night , didn't spent the night , didn't kinda thing ) It happened over 6 months of being with him and different senarios but my point is that you never know what life is going to throw at you. I had been str8 all my life but once I met the guy I fell in love with ( turned out to be a donkeys butt T,T ) I was more open minded to the thought of being gay and I am now attracted to guys but I am still atracted to girls naturally. Hope this helped

[LuciferSam]

Not to be a dick, but I'm surprised no-one has noticed that he typed "homophone" instead of "homophobe".

Now back to the topic: I probably won't be saying anything that anyone else hasn't said already, but you shouldn't let the way other people act determine your life. If they're all assholes, that's their problem, not yours.

As far as sexuality, it's impossible to become gay with time. I suppose it's possible that you're bi and haven't fully explored it, but if you don't have any attraction to guys, then there's no question.

[Elysium]

Not to be a dick, but I'm surprised no-one has noticed that he typed "homophone" instead of "homophobe".
I'm pretty sure the reason nobody commented on it was to avoid being a dick.

Anyhow, sexuality doesn't really work like that. It's not a switch that turns on and off overnight. You don't just "turn" gay, and worrying about it is unproductive and more or less useless because first of all, being gay is not the end of the world and second of all, from what you say it sounds as though you have absolutely no basis or prior history or anything at all to suggest even the slightest hint of homosexuality. I think you're okay.

[Babs]

You dont 'turn' gay. Its either you are or you aren't. If you have never had feelings for another guy then you're probably not gay. Why do you even fear being gay? Like why is it such a huge deal?

[Blood]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, just like there's nothing wrong with being straight.

[Dalcourt]

You don't just turn gay. Either you are or you are not...I don't think you are and well if you were there wouldn't be anything wrong with it either.