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JennaC14
June 9th, 2014, 12:46 PM
So I'm 15 and for the past 4 years in high school, me and this boy have been in an on-off relationship, I'd say we've been together a good 7 times now. For the first two years it was never really anything, but there has always been this good connection between us because he was my first real boyfriend. The main issue between us, I think, is that we are so close sometimes, that anything that the other person does wrong blows out of proportion and turns into a large scale argument where everyone gets involved, one time last year, it got so bad that we had to get the school involved to sit us down and talk about the issues, where I completely broke down in front of 2 teachers.

So anyway, over the past year or so, he keeps talking to other girls, and I guess I do get a little jealous because of it, but then he comes back to me and tells me that he wants to be with me, he has also now begun to say 'I love you', and then it almost happens and it turns into yet another argument, I can't keep putting myself through these arguments and looking like an idiot for forgiving him, I don't think he realises it, but anything he says to me in anger hurts more because it's him that's saying it. WE keep trying to be friends and nothing more but if we go for a walk together or even go out alone, we end up kissing. I don't know what I should do, I see him everyday at school and all my friends keep telling me to just make a decision, either get with him, or forget about it, I was trying to talk to him the other day about our relationship and he said that he wants to be with me but he would want me to do stuff, like give him a blow job, but doesn't want to pressure me. I am not comfortable with that yet, even though it seems that barely anyone at my school is a virgin, some are 14 and have a baby, but i am just not comfortable with my own body to do stuff at the minute, even though i want to be.

I don't understand how he can say he loves me, but even though he knows I'm not ready yet, wouldn't be with me if I didn't do stuff. He admits that he tries to make me jealous by telling me his talking to other girls, but I don't really know where I stand or what to do about the whole situation, please give me any advice, be completely honest too!:what:

tbake98
June 9th, 2014, 12:52 PM
I know it might be weird, coming from a boy's point of view, but I would say that, even though it's a very hard decision to make, if I were you, I'd let him go. He's already told you that he's talking to girls - on purpose - to make you jealous. And, even though he's saying there's no pressure, by saying that he'll be with you if you're willing/ready to do stuff for him, is pressure in itself. If he's not willing to respect your wishes and wait for you to be comfortable with it, then it's probably time to find someone who will.

Ben_Frost
June 9th, 2014, 12:53 PM
If he's making you feel uncomfortable then dump him, he's just looking for your attention and to get in your pants. If you don't want to have sex you don't have to, he's just having fun with you and not being serious. But if you still love him it's up to you to see if the relationship can still be saved. If I were in your situation, I'd have dumped him already and would be living happily single. That's just me though, just trying to help you.

Body odah Man
June 9th, 2014, 12:54 PM
I agree with blake. U deserve better

JennaC14
June 9th, 2014, 12:59 PM
I know it might be weird, coming from a boy's point of view, but I would say that, even though it's a very hard decision to make, if I were you, I'd let him go. He's already told you that he's talking to girls - on purpose - to make you jealous. And, even though he's saying there's no pressure, by saying that he'll be with you if you're willing/ready to do stuff for him, is pressure in itself. If he's not willing to respect your wishes and wait for you to be comfortable with it, then it's probably time to find someone who will.

This is what my friends keep saying, I guess sometimes I don't feel like I could do any better, thanks for the advice!

tbake98
June 9th, 2014, 01:04 PM
This is what my friends keep saying, I guess sometimes I don't feel like I could do any better, thanks for the advice!

I understand the feeling of thinking you can't (or won't) do any better. But, you can -- and you will -- if you decide to walk away from this person. Just keep your head up and, for the time being, focus on yourself.

JennaC14
June 9th, 2014, 01:08 PM
I understand the feeling of thinking you can't (or won't) do any better. But, you can -- and you will -- if you decide to walk away from this person. Just keep your head up and, for the time being, focus on yourself.

Seriously, this has been so helpful, thank you so much!

tbake98
June 9th, 2014, 01:09 PM
No problem. Glad I/we could be of assistance. :)

Hundred Spirited God
June 9th, 2014, 01:15 PM
I agree with everyone,your boyfriend sounds selfish,just let go of him and find someone better,i had 3 relationships and I have a girlfriend now,it's that reassuring? :)

JennaC14
June 9th, 2014, 01:21 PM
I agree with everyone,your boyfriend sounds selfish,just let go of him and find someone better,i had 3 relationships and I have a girlfriend now,it's that reassuring? :)

it is very reassuring! thanks!:yummy: