"friends" that use alcohol/drugs

[ryguy714]

In my school, 75%+ have/had an ebog. Yes, I had it once, however some of my friends used it to get out of hand. One has dip and weed and drinks. I don't know how to help him. Another sells. And another is following the first.

Should I just let them go and find other friends that don't do these things? Should I rat them out? If I do I have an army coming after me.
Should I help by myself?

[Living For Love]

You could always warn them about the dangers of what they're doing, but I guess they won't hear you, so just let them do what they want, and stay out of their trouble. Now, even though they drink and use drugs, it doesn't mean you can't be their friend, but if you don't feel comfortable around them anymore, then maybe you should start to hang out with other people.

[TheLoneWolf]

Many of my friends use way too much alcohol during the weekends. I've warned them so many times about the dangers and how stupid it is.
Sure, one or two glasses of whatever is fine, but they use way too much!

About 2 months ago one of my friends was in a coma for 2 days because she drank too much. Despite being worried I didn't feel sorry for her, she did it herself, it's not like anyone forced her!

You're probably not going to change them using (too much) alcohol.
Don't rat them out, don't lecture them too much, just let them find out for themselves.

[Ben_Frost]

They won't listen to you at all, if you really appreciate their friendship you should maintain it and avoid falling into the same vices.

[Typhlosion]

SOrry, what, exactly, is an ebog?

You could talk lightly of the subject, but the change is most to themselves.
Do you really feel that the whole attitude of theirs is negative to the relationship between you or it's some detail you don't like? If the latter, just say no when they offer and still have a good time.

[Lost in the Echo]

You could always warn them about the dangers of what they're doing, but I guess they won't hear you, so just let them do what they want, and stay out of their trouble. Now, even though they drink and use drugs, it doesn't mean you can't be their friend, but if you don't feel comfortable around them anymore, then maybe you should start to hang out with other people.

I completely agree with this. All you can do is warn your friends about what they're getting into, but if they don't listen, then there is nothing more that can be done. Only they can make the decision to stop, you can't make them.

[Microcosm]

These are called toxic friends. They hurt you more than they help you and you need to remove them from your life. I had a friend that did this sort of thing and tried to get me to do it too. I let him go. I think you should do the same or else they might peer pressure you into ruining your life with drugs.

[Karkat]

You could always warn them about the dangers of what they're doing, but I guess they won't hear you, so just let them do what they want, and stay out of their trouble. Now, even though they drink and use drugs, it doesn't mean you can't be their friend, but if you don't feel comfortable around them anymore, then maybe you should start to hang out with other people.

Exactly.

These are called toxic friends. They hurt you more than they help you and you need to remove them from your life. I had a friend that did this sort of thing and tried to get me to do it too. I let him go. I think you should do the same or else they might peer pressure you into ruining your life with drugs.

Not always? I have problems with substance abuse and addiction, and I have for years, but I've never tried to pressure anyone else into following in my footsteps- if anything I've tried to scare them shitless so they wouldn't try it. I don't succumb to the pressure of others when they try to get me to do something I don't want to do ("uptight" or not), and I've fucking lashed out at 'friends' who have tried to put the pressure on other friends.

If they pressure you, sure, they're obviously not the greatest friends, but you can always choose to limit the amount of contact and closeness you have with these friends as well.

[Gamma Male]

Sorry, but other than alcohol what drugs are they doing? If they just smoke weed every now and then, that's probably nothing to worry about. But if they get involved with meth or heroin, that's a different story.

I wouldn't recommend telling on them unless you think their lives are in danger. Just be there for them and try to dissuade them from drinking too much or taking hard drugs, and if they put pressure on you leave them alone. They're not worth your time.