Nobody likes the metalhead

[Stronk Serb]

++LONG STORY ALERT++

Well, kind of. At school, I have 4 people I can somewhat consider as friends. Two of them are metalheads, like me, the other are girls who themselves are pretty open to new stuff, with one of them I had a nasty feud, but now we're good. When I changed schools, I used to hang out with pretty much everybody, and after a few months everybody left me. Some girls kinda despise me even thought I did nothing bad to anyone. Everyone treats me like the odd one, the only guy who listens to metal and wears black. I decided to not give a damn about it, but I realised that they only run to me when they need help. I stopped helping anyone who usually avoids me. Some asshole with whom I have to share the classroom for the next three years tried to bully me. He told me to go back to my cult and keep raping shaved goats, I told him he smelled like he raped a goat, he raised his fost saying my kind is not tolerated here and going with the bullshit, then he shoved himself into my face, raising his fist at the same time to hit me, so I headbutted him, bloodying his nose and making him wimp away. It caused quite a shock, apparently him telling me that I am some sort of goat-raping untermensch (lower race), threatening me with violence and trying to attack me meant nothing, but me headbutting him as a sign to fuck off meant that I was a bloodthirsty beast. And because I wear an Iron Maiden/Disturbed/Dead Kennedys T-shirt doesn't mean I am in some Satanic goat-raping cult. It meams I listen to punk and metal. I was kinda dissapointed when this started happening, in my old school I had more friends, but I failed at a few subjects, so I had to change schools or risk failing the grads for five years.

Now what should I do to at least make some of the people neutral towards me.

[sixguy6]

Well IDC if someone likes diff kind of music born if they wear black but other people are assholes lol

[Stronk Serb]

Well IDC if someone likes diff kind of music born if they wear black but other people are assholes lol


I don't care what my friends listen to or wear too, but some people are just dense. Those people I help out help me if I ask, but it's a class trend to ignore the black sheep. Got any ideas on how to make people neutral and more acceptive of me?

[sixguy6]

I don't care what my friends listen to or wear too, but some people are just dense. Those people I help out help me if I ask, but it's a class trend to ignore the black sheep. Got any ideas on how to make people neutral and more acceptive of me?

Well idk how but I guess if you want to fit in you have to change and kinda be someone you're not but I wouldn't recommend it

[Miserabilia]

Don't change.
They're just asssholes, you seem like a nice person so who cares even if you did wear goat raping shirts?
You're not hurting anybody with your shirts.
f*k them right??

[Ben_Frost]

You seem like a nice person to me, I think your classmates are just prejudicious airheads who are just afraid of you for being different. You don't have to change to please them, but if you'd like people to come closer to you you could try adapting to them, they'll be scared off if you go around wearing your metal accesories. You can still be yourself wearing just black without showing the bands you like.

But if you're too much of a metal head to do that, you be yourself. At least you've got a friend online, and that's me :)

[Dalcourt]

Well after this headbutting incident it will be quite hard to persuade people you are nice person.I'm not sure if changing parts of your attire can make a difference there now.
Reacting to a bully like that was quite a bad move....with distancing yourself more and more and acting violent you kinda manoeuvreed yourself out.
What where the reasons the people started leaving you? Was it all at the same or one by one and as I already asked what do you think was the reason. When I talk to someone and then leave I usually have a reason...
What's so bad about being someone people approach when they need help? Did you feel used?
Nevermind.

Whatcha can do now, start all anew...keep a low profile, try to be nice, I dunno if you have any school activities you could join, if so try to do it...and don't headbutt or punch any people even if they are assholes.

Most important you have to be open and walk up to people...remember it's you who wants friends and fit in not them.
That's all I can think of atm...I hope I didn't offend you by criticizing your actions.

[Typhlosion]

I'f I'm not wrong, you do like this metal group.

GnRZFnf9q7c

Stay strong and try a good apology to the bully. Maybe that'll solve something.
Plus, you'll find your niche of friends again :)
(Then again, I've never really had these problems)
Best wishes.

[Stronk Serb]

Don't change.
They're just asssholes, you seem like a nice person so who cares even if you did wear goat raping shirts?
You're not hurting anybody with your shirts.
f*k them right??

Yeah. Not making any changes I don't like

You seem like a nice person to me, I think your classmates are just prejudicious airheads who are just afraid of you for being different. You don't have to change to please them, but if you'd like people to come closer to you you could try adapting to them, they'll be scared off if you go around wearing your metal accesories. You can still be yourself wearing just black without showing the bands you like.

But if you're too much of a metal head to do that, you be yourself. At least you've got a friend online, and that's me :)

One girl went to me and started a conversation today. I think I am breaking the stigma.

Well after this headbutting incident it will be quite hard to persuade people you are nice person.I'm not sure if changing parts of your attire can make a difference there now.
Reacting to a bully like that was quite a bad move....with distancing yourself more and more and acting violent you kinda manoeuvreed yourself out.
What where the reasons the people started leaving you? Was it all at the same or one by one and as I already asked what do you think was the reason. When I talk to someone and then leave I usually have a reason...
What's so bad about being someone people approach when they need help? Did you feel used?
Nevermind.

Whatcha can do now, start all anew...keep a low profile, try to be nice, I dunno if you have any school activities you could join, if so try to do it...and don't headbutt or punch any people even if they are assholes.

Most important you have to be open and walk up to people...remember it's you who wants friends and fit in not them.
That's all I can think of atm...I hope I didn't offend you by criticizing your actions.

Well, the system doesn't deal with bullies here at all, so you have to do something like I did to make them stop bothering you. I help most of the people who ask, except those who don't acknowledge me when I come to them and say 'hi'. We don't have any school activities here, but I started talking to more people.

I'f I'm not wrong, you do like this metal group.

GnRZFnf9q7c

Stay strong and try a good apology to the bully. Maybe that'll solve something.
Plus, you'll find your niche of friends again :)
(Then again, I've never really had these problems)
Best wishes.

It ain't worth apologising to the bully. He would take it as an insult. The guys steered away from me, while the girls started gossiping how the bully was actually a pansy and how I am stronk. One girl approached me because someone drew a Slavic Kolovrat on her notebook, pretty much making me the first suspect. She asked what it is and did I draw it, I said I did (even though I didn't), I told her to sit down and explained how that's the symbol of the sun and good fate. I asked her if she wanted it erased but she said 'no'. She said I'm nice. Also Sabaton is the first metal group I extensively started listening to and is one of my favourites along with Disturbed, Kreator, Amon Amarth and Raubtier