Who Should Pay?

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I have a few questions:

On a date between two straight/heterosexuals, who should pay for the first date?

On a date between two same sex people, who should pay?

Is it sexist to say that the man of a heterosexual couple should always pay for the date?

[JamesSuperBoy]

I don't think sexuality matters - it is up to the individuals even to share the bills or alternate who pays and for what.

[CosmicNoodle]

I dont think sexuality matters, one side should not be expected to front the bill. A date is a joint enterprise, and should be paid for as such.
However, if one party wants to pay the bill out of generosity or just to be a gentleman/lady then fine. But I dont think one side should be expected to pay, just because of gender.

[sixguy6]

I say whoever invites pays :) but with straight people the man always has to pay lol

[TheRedViper]

Well with the same sex thing I don't think it matters. Maybe the one who invited, or has more cash on them?? As for hetero, well honestly it should probably always be the guy. I don't think it's sexist, it's just a cultural tradition and social norm that hurts no one. Plus ladies like to feel flattered and be treated well when out, so I don't think they mind either.

[CharlieHorse]

how about this, ask the other person with an open mind and if they don't have money, pay for them.

[Redrocket]

If you can't decide who pays then go-Dutch that means each pays own way

[Typhlosion]

I guess being a gentleman is the norm, which in turn doesn't make it very gentlemanly...

None should pay, the meal should be subsidized be the gvt :P

[Bmble_B]

On a date between two straight/heterosexuals, who should pay for the first date? I was taught growing up that the male of the date should pay on the first date

On a date between two same sex people, who should pay?It really doesn't matter, but I'd say the one who arranged it, if it was mutual then each should pay half

Is it sexist to say that the man of a heterosexual couple should always pay for the date?Not really in my opinion, it was taught to me that the man should cater to the woman.

[Sarah18]

As far as the hetero dates go, it may be customary for the male to pay on the first date, unless the couple is progressive and the lady asked, then she should pay. But there is no reason the guy should pay every single time. If the relationship reaches a comfort point, then there would be no reason that they can't take turns paying. But this can also go for the same sex dates... whoever asked should be the one to pay, then they can eventually take turns when comfortable.

Lastly, it is pretty sexist to say a guy should pay EVERY single time. A relationship involves effort from two people. The lady should chip in sometimes, it's only fair. After all, what happens if they break up and the guy wants reimbursement for all the money he spent on her? I've seen it happen. it's better to say that as a lady you've paid for him a few times and you're equal. Plus, women complain about not being treated equally and not having rights and complain that guys are too sexist, well you're enabling that sexism by assuming that the guy HAS to pay every single time. By making him pay you're just showing that you believe it is only his job to take care of you. You can't be "strong and independent" if you're relying on a guy to always buy you things.

[Apollo.]

A guy should always pay the bill in a hetero relationship imo. In a homo relationship I've found its usually taking turns, or whoever invited. Its never really a huge issue if your comfortable with the person you can just openly talk about it, doesn't have to be some taboo subject.

[Melodic]

I think it should be split evenly.. If you both want to be together you should both commit equally.

[Ben_Frost]

Sexuality shouldn't matter... if you're inviting someone out is because you can afford to pay for both.

[Lost in the Echo]

On a date between two straight/heterosexuals, who should pay for the first date? Well, I guess being a "gentleman" is pretty much about doing things like this, and typically the male is known as the "provider". So, yeah...

On a date between two same sex people, who should pay? whoever is wealthier :P jk, just let them decide.

Is it sexist to say that the man of a heterosexual couple should always pay for the date? I wouldn't really say it's sexist, just a respectful and courteous thing to do imo.

[Camazotz]

In casual dating, the inviter (usually the male) should pay for the date. After a few casual dates, if the couple decide to enter a committed relationship, they should take turns paying. Personally, I would be comfortable with paying for the first few dates, and then alternate with me paying the whole bill half the time, and paying for our own things the other half of the time. I guess it depends on the type of date as well.

[LouBerry]

Who ever asked the other person on a date should pay for it, whether they are straight or not, or male or not.
To assume the male is always going to pay, and expect them to do so,is sexist and honestly very tasteless. Unless of course the person in question wants to.
For example, my fiance pays for the majority of our dates, even if I offer or ask to pay, because he was raised that way and thinks that's the polite thing to do. It makes him happy to be an old-school gentleman.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

I think it's just a stereotypical thing for man/woman relationships for the man to pay, but really, I don't think it really matters. I think because generally (not all the time), girls are 'sweet' and 'innocent' (which I don't agree with but like I said, a lot) and so when a 'muscular and dashing' man (which doesn't actually happen, but stereotypically) pays, it's like "Awwww, how sweet."

Really, however wants to pay should pay, and even if you split, that's good too.

[LifeOfLove]

Generally, in couples of both sexes, I would say the guy should pay. If it is same sex, whoever asked the other.

However, it's all up to the individual couple. I often would take my boyfriend on dates, and if they were entirely my idea I'd often at least try to pay for it.
If dates were his idea, he paid.

[Gamma Male]

I have a few questions:

On a date between two straight/heterosexuals, who should pay for the first date? It's up to the individual couple to figure out. It's unfair to generalize all heterosexual couples and say that the same rules apply to all of them. They're all different.

On a date between two same sex people, who should pay? See above.

Is it sexist to say that the man of a heterosexual couple should always pay for the date? Yes. Yes it is.

Personally, I think that the person who asks the other out should pay for the date. But if they wanna split the bill, that's great too. Whatever works for them.

[Cognizant]

Whatever you could chip in usually floats my boat.

Back when I was dating somewhat long-distance, it would cost me an average of $25 just to get to/back from/around San Francisco. so obviously that didn't leave me much money for food and stuff. If we didn't split the check we would've always been eating at Starbucks or something haha

[audiophile5]

When talking about a heterosexual date, I think the man should pay. It is a shame that the whole process of dating/courting has suffered so many changes and it is no longer what it used to be. I think that a man taking out a woman he is interested in should show her that it is an honor for him to do that. Call me old fashioned, this is what I believe. And of course, here I'm not talking about EVERY date a man and a woman have, but the first/first few of them

[churris]

I think it's sexist to say the man should pay. However who invited the other should pay, the first time. But after that, they should go dutch. I almost never let him pay the whole thing, and I excuse it by saying that if we divide the costs, we can go out more often ;)

[Whight]

Well, I usually pay. But I don't think it's because i'm manly or something like that.
I just have more money than him, him and his parents hardly get by so i think it's wrong for him to pay the check when I can afford it much easier.

But I do notice that it irks him sometimes in a sense that he feels like he needs to protect me and care for me, and it hurts his ego when I pay.
So I suppose the same can be said for straight guys.. We guys in general have it in our egos to be the bigger and stronger people, and pay the bills. So it probably would upset most when the woman picks up the check. Plus, I suppose women also sort of expect it and might think less of a man if he doesn't pay (which I think is pretty ugly, but w/e).

[Croconaw]

You pay for your own meal.

[Waleedbt]

Whoever invited :)
If im with a girl, i will not make her pay. (Plus talking about dinners that cost well over 100 Dollars)

But i did have my shares of the girl paying, then again we are only friends, but she also insisted, like she was getting really mad lol (only one time! :D so im still an Gentlemen)

One time she held her bag up next to my face and said " Waleed, i swer ill use my bag and beat you with it " xD made me laugh so hard. Shes awesome <3

[Body odah Man]

I have a few questions:

On a date between two straight/heterosexuals, who should pay for the first date?

On a date between two same sex people, who should pay?

Is it sexist to say that the man of a heterosexual couple should always pay for the date?

The guy shuld always pay (or the guy that arranges the date in case of homosexual relationship)