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Hudor
June 8th, 2014, 08:55 AM
Sexuality has been an extremely confusing aspect of my life and one with which I've wrestled a lot for a long, long time. I had made this complex mechanism in my mind to block out the gay thoughts I have and i guess i managed it fairly well except for the occasional overload when all such thoughts would break free and sear my mind with their intensity. These overloads troubled me badly because apart from these I didn't feel any 'emotional' attraction to guys and then I would spend hours questioning myself extensively to reinforce my belief in my being straight though i hardly think i could ever convince myself.
Finally in this drawn-out battle against my mind, I decided to finally accept defeat and accept myself as i actually am. I still feel attracted emotionally more to girls and sexually on an equal level to both guys and girls. i planned to post this earlier but the thought gave me a splitting headache. Nevertheless, I think i feel more clear-headed and confident now because i don't have to constantly be in denial and wrestle with my mind and my thinking. Outside VT i don't think i'll make a declaration unless someone asks me about it.
So i guess I'll end the rant here before i start feeling way too sick and regretting this

fhjsdhfjsdhfnf
June 8th, 2014, 10:39 AM
Well Done mate, you should feel a lot better now :)

Bull
June 8th, 2014, 10:40 AM
Congratulations friend!

sixguy6
June 8th, 2014, 12:19 PM
Good for you brah :D

Croconaw
June 8th, 2014, 01:30 PM
I'm happy for you. :)

TheLoneWolf
June 8th, 2014, 01:43 PM
Congratulations! :)

pjones
June 8th, 2014, 02:10 PM
congrats!

Faolan
June 8th, 2014, 09:06 PM
Well done. It takes a lot of courage to come out. Your stance on talking (or not) outside of VT is a good one; it means you don't have to worry about a giant coming-out fiasco like many have done/have to do. :)

Luminous
June 8th, 2014, 09:21 PM
Good for you! This is a really huge step. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always here!

Microcosm
June 8th, 2014, 10:12 PM
It takes a lot of courage to come out like that. Good job :)

Hudor
June 9th, 2014, 10:23 AM
Thanks everyone. Tbh I'm still in a daze about it but your posts are helping a lot and I don't regret it now as much as i did earlier. Dissolving my mental construct is taking a bit of time and efforts but the freedom to think and act in unison is quite nice. The world seems to have developed new dimensions and I don't feel i've adjusted properly to them yet. idk if i ever will?

riverboy
June 9th, 2014, 12:15 PM
Things will go better now and as time goes on you will feel more relax.

CrazyPerson101
June 9th, 2014, 09:20 PM
Sexuality has been an extremely confusing aspect of my life and one with which I've wrestled a lot for a long, long time. I had made this complex mechanism in my mind to block out the gay thoughts I have and i guess i managed it fairly well except for the occasional overload when all such thoughts would break free and sear my mind with their intensity. These overloads troubled me badly because apart from these I didn't feel any 'emotional' attraction to guys and then I would spend hours questioning myself extensively to reinforce my belief in my being straight though i hardly think i could ever convince myself.
Finally in this drawn-out battle against my mind, I decided to finally accept defeat and accept myself as i actually am. I still feel attracted emotionally more to girls and sexually on an equal level to both guys and girls. i planned to post this earlier but the thought gave me a splitting headache. Nevertheless, I think i feel more clear-headed and confident now because i don't have to constantly be in denial and wrestle with my mind and my thinking. Outside VT i don't think i'll make a declaration unless someone asks me about it.
So i guess I'll end the rant here before i start feeling way too sick and regretting this

Good job , I bet you feel much better :) Its hard comming out but you had the courage to do it and you should be happy. :)

Forsakenbymyself
June 12th, 2014, 12:43 PM
Welcome into the great family of bisexuals!

Stronger
June 12th, 2014, 02:56 PM
Congratulations. :)

LuciferSam
June 13th, 2014, 06:52 PM
Welcome to the fold, brah! :yeah:

Bmble_B
June 13th, 2014, 06:54 PM
Congrats! It feels good to have that off your chest huh?

Hudor
June 14th, 2014, 12:54 AM
Congrats! It feels good to have that off your chest huh?

Yep! A lot better :D It feels as if I have been freed of a particularly tight straitjacket. Hope the feeling stays though....

Gamma Male
June 14th, 2014, 03:18 AM
WHAT?!?!? A BISEXUAL VT'er? THAT'S SO UNUSUAL!!! D:


:lol:But seriously, over half the guys here are into other guys. It's good that you're finally coming to terms with your feelings.

Just remember that they're nothing to be ashamed and they're natural and yata yata yata yata and so on.

niceguy44
June 14th, 2014, 04:26 AM
Good for you.
Always here if you need to talk.

Rocketsnail
June 14th, 2014, 04:42 AM
Congratulations! Good on you for coming out by the way :D

bdenurie
June 14th, 2014, 08:15 PM
Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm bi too:)

HazwoldTheElder
June 16th, 2014, 07:08 PM
Good man! Great to see you've worked it all out!