How come some people know so easily?

[Cognizant]

It seems like a good deal of people on here are like 13-15 and already know what they like sexually.

Me? I'm 17 and I still don't know what I like 100%, despite being in a long term relationship and a hookup. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel abnormal for not being able to know what my sexuality is at this point....
Am i weird?

[TapDancer]

It seems like a good deal of people on here are like 13-15 and already know what they like sexually.

Me? I'm 17 and I still don't know what I like 100%, despite being in a long term relationship and a hookup. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel abnormal for not being able to know what my sexuality is at this point....
Am i weird?

You are not weird in the slightest. We can identify ourselves as however we see fit, that is a personal choice. But it's also okay to not define one's self. I feel like I know what my sexuality is too, but I won't even begin to define something as complicated as sexuality, let alone my own. It seems in a way narrow minded to do so. I mean, human emotions are complicated, particularly attractions. I don't think gender is so important when looking at attraction for someone, but that's my opinion. I'm more of a "hearts, not parts" type person. Don't feel bad, in the scheme of life it doesn't matter all that much. Love and let love. Who cares what gender it is anyway? What matters is the relationship.

Besides, you say you feel 'abnormal' for not really knowing. But, when it comes to sexuality and teenagers, what is normal? That and you are not the first to feel this kind of thing, and you sure as hell won't be the last. Chin up bud. :D

[ksdnfkfr]

seems more normal then a teen having things down cold. i'm just blundering my way through and not certain of anything.

[Bull]

seems more normal then a teen having things down cold. i'm just blundering my way through and not certain of anything.

I too am 17, I consider my self straight but curious. However, of late curious has become more desire to experiment with a guy. So, like Ezra says, I'm just blundering my way through. I have adopted the attitude of whatever will be will be. So my advise to you is to stop obsessing and start living in the now. :)

[sixguy6]

So kids may know now but they can change later in the future so it doesn't matter that much if you don't know your sexuality you'll be fine

[CosmicNoodle]

Often I will just say I'm bisexual as its an easy label, but in fact I have no idea what so ever. That just seems to be the one that fits best and is easy to use. Perhaps this is what's happening a lot

[Miserabilia]

Nope I'm prety much floating around, I don't really know or care enough to try to pfigure things out I haven't started yet

[Blood]

I don't think anyone is ever really 100% sure of what they like, especially not at this age.

[Sarah18]

Like a few have said, I don't believe anyone knows fully what they really do and don't like. You might hate something you're doing with one partner but love the same thing with another partner. Also, I don't think people between the ages of 13-15 really know what they want/believe. At that age you are just learning about sex and everything. There is no way for you to fully comprehend or understand what sex is. Many kids that age believe sex is porn, and sex isn't anything like porn. I will admit I was once that naive 13 year old, we ALL were. I think the labeling is more a way for them to find a group that they are comfortable in, many will change their minds as they grow and develop, many will not. But at a young age of 13 when some girls may not have even gotten their period yet and these boys are just finally understanding fully what happens when the masturbate, there is no real way for them to fully understand themselves or their sexual desires/pleasures yet. Even at 18 I'm still not completely sure at times.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

For me, it came by digging around on Youtube for videos and finding...something else.. Sexual oreintation is easy for the most part.
Romantic orientation was a bit harder considering that I'd never been in a romantic relationship before. But since 80% of the time I drew pictures or wrote stories about what my life might be in the future, I saw myself with a man.
I think I'm pretty sure about what my genitalia want, but not so sure about my heart (my metaphorical heart anyway).

[Faolan]

You're not weird at all. Everyone figures out their sexuality at different times in different ways. Some people know from elementary school, while others (like you and me) don't figure it out until high school or later. Two years ago, the concept that I was anything other than straight hadn't even crossed my mind. Sure, I found some of my guy friends attractive, but I had girl crushes, too, and I didn't think anything of it. I was pretty naive when it came to crushes, and it took a lot of introspection to discover that I'm gay. You'll figure it out in time. :)

[Karkat]

I'm the same age as you are, and I've honestly given up on trying to define it. I know that I'm not quite asexual, but I know that I'm not heterosexual, but I'm not thoroughly convinced that I'm homosexual or even LEANING towards homosexual

I have a boyfriend, but I'm by and large not attracted to males, but I prefer heterosexual intercourse, but I don't like porn or masturbation and I'm like two technicalities away from just going "fuck it, I'm asexual" and confusing the hell out of everybody.

Not to mention that while I've always felt that I need love as a prerequisite for sex (for me personally), I want to have sex with a girl. Just to experience it.

But I don't, because oh my god, I'd have to be COMFORTABLE with her, and the thought of a threesome makes me a little (no, a lot) jealous. (My boyfriend's dick is MINE, no one else gets it!)

But I also feel like I want to experiment more, and see what sex would be like with another guy

But I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO GUYS (except two, one being my boyfriend, the other being a long story)

http://img2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20121225122100/glee/images/8/8b/GLEE_ANGRY.gif

So yeah, I get what you mean.

My best guess is that these kids are [-]lying to themselves[/-] [-]sent here to torture us[/-] [-]sexually active way too young and now have the sexual experience of those a decade older than them as a result[/-]

No, I have no idea. Damn them. [-]Yes I do, but damn them anyways.[/-]

[LouBerry]

I'm the same age as you are, and I've honestly given up on trying to define it. I know that I'm not quite asexual, but I know that I'm not heterosexual, but I'm not thoroughly convinced that I'm homosexual or even LEANING towards homosexual

I have a boyfriend, but I'm by and large not attracted to males, but I prefer heterosexual intercourse, but I don't like porn or masturbation and I'm like two technicalities away from just going "fuck it, I'm asexual" and confusing the hell out of everybody.

Not to mention that while I've always felt that I need love as a prerequisite for sex (for me personally), I want to have sex with a girl. Just to experience it.

But I don't, because oh my god, I'd have to be COMFORTABLE with her, and the thought of a threesome makes me a little (no, a lot) jealous. (My boyfriend's dick is MINE, no one else gets it!)

But I also feel like I want to experiment more, and see what sex would be like with another guy

But I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO GUYS (except two, one being my boyfriend, the other being a long story)

image (http://img2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20121225122100/glee/images/8/8b/GLEE_ANGRY.gif)

So yeah, I get what you mean.

My best guess is that these kids are [-]lying to themselves[/-] [-]sent here to torture us[/-] [-]sexually active way too young and now have the sexual experience of those a decade older than them as a result[/-]

No, I have no idea. Damn them. [-]Yes I do, but damn them anyways.[/-]

This killed me, but seriously though. I have no idea how people, especially people young enough to be considered children, can be so certain of things. I'm eighteen, damn it. I'm officially an adult and I have no idea what my sexuality is.
Sometimes I'm like, "Damn, that girl is hot." Or "Dear goodness, that man needs to be in my pants, immediately." So, I'm like, okay, maybe I like both, but then again, I'm like, I don't want to have sex with girls, Then I think about it more, and I don't want to have sex with guys either. But, I do like having sex with my fiance, so I'm not asexual.
SO yeah, what you said, damn them.

[bobbi]

I don't think your weird you probably just have not had enough experience to know your exact sexuality.

[Horatio Nelson]

I find it strange too, I don't even know what kind of occupation I want, lol. Although I've never had to deal with trying to figure out a gender identity.

I've been in love with vaginas since day 1. lol

[Gigablue]

I'm still not completely sure of my sexuality, but I'm pretty certain I'm asexual. For the longest time, I assumed I was straight, since I was never attracted to guys, and since I wasn't gay, I assumed I had to be straight. I never really gave much thought to the fact that I wasn't attracted to girls either. Sex has always seemed weird to me, and I don't really want to have it, except maybe once to see what the big deal is. I don't really even know what sexual attraction feels like, but I know that I don't feel the way most people do about sex. That may change, though I highly doubt it, but for now I consider myself asexual.

[Jakie23]

You ain't weird dude. There are some people later in their life than you, and they still don't know 100%. You're fine. You'll find out for certain soon probably :)

[ATOMICskittles]

It seems like a good deal of people on here are like 13-15 and already know what they like sexually.

Me? I'm 17 and I still don't know what I like 100%, despite being in a long term relationship and a hookup. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel abnormal for not being able to know what my sexuality is at this point....
Am i weird?

I literally knew in 2nd grade, like 7 years old. And then at 12 years old, I knew for sure I was gay. I knew soo early because physically and emotionally I like boys.

[Babs]

Everyone is different. Some people just know. Some people think long and hard before they figure it out. Some people know before kissing or dating anyone. Some people know after some experimenting.
Give it time. Think about it.

[CrazyPerson101]

It seems like a good deal of people on here are like 13-15 and already know what they like sexually.

Me? I'm 17 and I still don't know what I like 100%, despite being in a long term relationship and a hookup. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel abnormal for not being able to know what my sexuality is at this point....
Am i weird?


I don't know if we will know 100% what our sexuality is but I am bi leaning towards gay. I have been attracted to guys since I was like 8 but nothing to bad untill I was about 12. I guess it depends on the person and they're situation. I don't think you're weird, Some people don't know untill later in life ( like late teenage years, early adult years ).