Nice guys never win

[VanquishV12]

Well this is my first post on here. Kinda have been seeking advice from others. I have only had two relationships. The first one lasted almost a year and messed me up. The most recent one was 8 months and ended last week. My last relationship is one that I really enjoyed. She had a great life, awesome family, awesome dogs haha, in shape, respected and cared for me, and it was just a great relationship. We barely had any fights. Then one day she ended it because "I just feel overwhelmed and my feelings have changed." I was kinda heart broken. She said that I was always making her feel at fault and she could never win. During the relationship, my ex (the bad one) came back and said she wanted me. I took a break from the good one, because I was trying to figure out my feelings. It wasn't a good move. I still have feelings for the bad ex, but thats because I put so much effort into trying to help her. She self-harmed, and did so many bad things to herself. After the relationship with her, I became super self-conscious and still I try to always improve myself. I find flaws like in my good ex I would get on her about her acne, but not in a mean way. I just always want to be in the best possible way I can. It's a habit that I cannot change and it's so annoying. Well after that ended we got back together from the break and it never came back up again, till after she broke up with me. I always tried to give her whatever she wanted. I was so nice to her, i gave her gifts, and I woke up everyday thinking of a way I could make her happy. I just don't know how the girl who told me I was the best thing to happen to her and told me to never leave, left me with such little reason. I mean it was the week before her EXAMS... I don't really understand what I did wrong.

The 11th is our anniversary, and my goal was to ask her to go to the spot where we hooked up. It is on an island and she said it was the best night she has ever had. I want to go and profess my love to her. Say how she is the best thing to have ever happened to me and say everything I love about her. This is the only way I will be content with myself. I hope it works

If you guys have any advice or comments on this it would be awesome. Sorry for the long post, but I hope you guys can help me. THANKS

[BuryYourFlame]

I'm assuming you're referring to yourself as a "nice guy"?

Ditching your girlfriend so you can try and sleep with your ex, to me, hardly qualifies as "nice". Your girlfriend probably had very mixed feelings about this still and it most likely got the point where it just got too much. Giving her gifts and 'thinking of ways to make her happy' doesn't really achieve anything if that isn't what she wanted from the relationship or from you.

You can try asking her out again but, personally, I doubt it will work. It sounds like you needed a lot more communication in the relationship.