How to deal with a parent you hate

[Celtics]

Sorry if you have lost a parent or if you find this rude or something like that. So one of my parents I can't stand and they know it. If the person would die I would not even blink (again sorry if you have lost someone you loved), what I'm trying to get at how have you guys that are in a similar place get through life. I've been majorly depressed for years because of "it" and don't think I can handle another 2 years of the person.

[sixguy6]

No have never had it before but I rly just don't like my dad because hes an asshole.

[BuryYourFlame]

If it's something illegal like abuse there are a lot of different child abuse services that you could talk to. If it's not illegal though you may just have to bare with it. Try and find a job, this will help you become more financially independent and less reliant on them which will make the moving out process easier.

As a side note, my mother died a while ago but I'm not offended at all by what you're saying and I think it would be quite silly to. Unfortunately, just because someone is a terrible person doesn't mean they can't physically have kids which means some parents are actually terrible people especially in the case of abuse. I would not judge others at all for hating a parent that has been abusive.

[Celtics]

He/she not physically abusive, he/she is verbally you could say. He/she is always hinting at that I'm a disappointment and I do everything wrong. His/her favorite thing to do is to piss me of and annoy me. But my sibling is the best child you could ask for but he/she knows everything he/she does and doesn't care. If I would do one thing he/she did I would be at a boot camp the next day. Thats just a summary, when "it" is gone I'm happy, when it is here I'm depressed 24/7.

[Dalcourt]

I personally can't hate someone even if this person does me wrong...I might be angry but hatred is something completely different.

For me it seems the best option is just ignore that parent as much as you can...I mean someone can only be verbally abusive if you pay attention to him/her...so try to be out of the way and also don't think too much about the remarks your parent makes.

[Whight]

Look, i've been on both sides of the fence on this one I suppose.

I loved my parents and lost them, and I know you mean no disrespect - but still, trust me, you'll be upset if they died. No matter how it feels now, you shouldn't wish for their deaths.
That is unless, like someone else said here, you went through serious abuse. I really hope that's not the case.

Like I said, I've been on both side, and my foster parents abused me badly and did things I'd rather not say. And at first I really did hate them with a passion, like really kept imagining them die horrible deaths.
But, now that it's a bit distant from me... well it's hard to say I don't hate them, because I sort of still do, but it's mostly that I feel nothing towards them. I realized it's pointless to hate - you gain nothing from it.

I don't know the nature of your relationship with that parent, or what they did to deserve your hate. But I suggest you take a long look at it and try and consider a path in which you don't waste your emotions on hate. It leads nowhere and benefits nothing. If they did something you can't forgive, then simply ignore their existence. But if it's not something that horrible as abuse, you should consider seeing them in a different light. You can only gain from letting go of the hate and attempt to reconnect.

(Feel free to hit me up if you want to talk about it more privately, i'd be happy to listen).

[CharlieHorse]

Sorry if you have lost a parent or if you find this rude or something like that. So one of my parents I can't stand and they know it. If the person would die I would not even blink (again sorry if you have lost someone you loved), what I'm trying to get at how have you guys that are in a similar place get through life. I've been majorly depressed for years because of "it" and don't think I can handle another 2 years of the person.

i'm living with someone i dislike like that for the past 3 years. It's caused me depression and i think ADD. I'm now failing highschool because of it and i'm most likely going to never be ok.

[Elliott_hn]

I might know how you feel, my parents really frustrate me sometimes.

[Blood]

Hatred is a useless emotion unless it's directed into something productive. You're going to be living with this person until you're able to live on your own. You need to learn how to tolerate him, because hating them/him/her isn't going to do anything but burn you out. I'm not saying you need to learn to love this person, but you do need to learn to deal with this better.

Channel the energy you're putting into hating him into something productive, and you'll realize your situation may improve.