Log in

View Full Version : Did I ask her out well?


TheRedViper
June 7th, 2014, 10:40 AM
Long story short (the same story I've probably explained several times here before lol), I'm really good friends with a beautiful and popular girl that used to go to my school, and while she's definitely out of my league, I mustered up the courage to ask her out.

I wouldn't have done it had we not spent ages together a few days ago. We caught up when I finished school, got some early dinner at a fast food place, then it was already dark outside and very cold, but we caught a bus and walked back to her house anyway. She told me she was meant to go see her boyfriend later that night, but she admitted she would rather be with me, and was sick of her boyfriend and didn't want to be with him anymore.

So we didn't do much at her house. We just watched funny videos on her phone, then talked about school and our friends, then watched some TV in her living room until it was late and we both had to go; me to my house, and her to her boyfriend. She was disappointed I had to go, and even told me I could stay at her house for the night, but I didn't end up doing that, cause my parents were already angry I was out so late.

So later that night when I was home and in bed, she texted me and told me she broke up with her boyfriend. I told her I was glad she did what made her feel better, and that she deserves better than him. She told me she loved me, and I told her I did too.

So to the present, which was two days after that. I was out driving (trying to rack up hours to get my license) and I texted her asking if she was busy today. She said she wasn't, but she wasn't in the area. I asked her if we could catch up, cause I wanted to ask her something. She said she'd try to find some time, since she wasn't in the area, and she asked me what I wanted to ask her. I told her, and I quote: "Well, I don't know how to ask, but I just wanted to know if you wanted to go out sometime with me, like go somewhere or something."

She said, "hahaha where do you have in mind?" with heaps of smiley faces and love hearts after it. I told her I wasn't really sure, since I didn't think she'd say yes. I suggested the movies, and she said "yeh alright." I asked her when she was free to go, and she said "maybe next week." I told her I was free on Monday, but she hasn't replied yet (and that was like nine hours ago. She is often busy though, so maybe she hasn't seen it yet).

Okay so it seems to me it went successfully, my attempt to ask her out on a date. But me, being the pessimist and downer I am, am kind of nervous and unsure. I've reread our convo countless times, trying to imagine how she was thinking. I don't know if she is just being polite, or if she really does want to go out with me on this date (I never used the word date though). What if she got confused and thought I didn't mean it as a date? She put love hearts and smiley faces in her text, so I guess she knows. And how did she mean "maybe next week"? Like I know she is busy, but she didn't seem very concerned about this. And she still hasn't replied to my last text (although this sometimes happens and she gets back to me later).

Urgh, I don't know. I'm so nervous and unsure and worried. What if she doesn't actually want to do it? I know we are really close, and she trusts me more than anyone and we always get along really well. But then I remember she is way out of my league (looks and popularity-wise).

Sorry for the long post, I'm just feeling really worried and nervous and insecure right now. I've never asked a girl out before, let alone one so attractive and popular. I don't want to mess this up. Maybe I'm overanalysing this. I don't know. Now I don't know whether I should text her tomorrow asking if she is free then, or wait until Monday and remind her then (I will feel terrible if she has forgotten and didn't care though).

I know I'm rambling. Any advice or words will be really appreciated.

Living For Love
June 7th, 2014, 11:07 AM
I think you asked her just fine. There's no need to feel nervous or anxious about what she might had been feeling when you texted her, and why she didn't reply yet. You need to be patient, and most importantly, you shouldn't rush things. If she eventually accepts, then go out with her and then, some days later, go out with her again, but take things slowly.

sixguy6
June 7th, 2014, 02:00 PM
You did an excellent job my friend :) good for you and she rly does want to go with you ���� keep me posted lol I love the idea of love

Body odah Man
June 7th, 2014, 02:23 PM
Long story short (the same story I've probably explained several times here before lol), I'm really good friends with a beautiful and popular girl that used to go to my school, and while she's definitely out of my league, I mustered up the courage to ask her out.

I wouldn't have done it had we not spent ages together a few days ago. We caught up when I finished school, got some early dinner at a fast food place, then it was already dark outside and very cold, but we caught a bus and walked back to her house anyway. She told me she was meant to go see her boyfriend later that night, but she admitted she would rather be with me, and was sick of her boyfriend and didn't want to be with him anymore.

So we didn't do much at her house. We just watched funny videos on her phone, then talked about school and our friends, then watched some TV in her living room until it was late and we both had to go; me to my house, and her to her boyfriend. She was disappointed I had to go, and even told me I could stay at her house for the night, but I didn't end up doing that, cause my parents were already angry I was out so late.

So later that night when I was home and in bed, she texted me and told me she broke up with her boyfriend. I told her I was glad she did what made her feel better, and that she deserves better than him. She told me she loved me, and I told her I did too.

So to the present, which was two days after that. I was out driving (trying to rack up hours to get my license) and I texted her asking if she was busy today. She said she wasn't, but she wasn't in the area. I asked her if we could catch up, cause I wanted to ask her something. She said she'd try to find some time, since she wasn't in the area, and she asked me what I wanted to ask her. I told her, and I quote: "Well, I don't know how to ask, but I just wanted to know if you wanted to go out sometime with me, like go somewhere or something."

She said, "hahaha where do you have in mind?" with heaps of smiley faces and love hearts after it. I told her I wasn't really sure, since I didn't think she'd say yes. I suggested the movies, and she said "yeh alright." I asked her when she was free to go, and she said "maybe next week." I told her I was free on Monday, but she hasn't replied yet (and that was like nine hours ago. She is often busy though, so maybe she hasn't seen it yet).

Okay so it seems to me it went successfully, my attempt to ask her out on a date. But me, being the pessimist and downer I am, am kind of nervous and unsure. I've reread our convo countless times, trying to imagine how she was thinking. I don't know if she is just being polite, or if she really does want to go out with me on this date (I never used the word date though). What if she got confused and thought I didn't mean it as a date? She put love hearts and smiley faces in her text, so I guess she knows. And how did she mean "maybe next week"? Like I know she is busy, but she didn't seem very concerned about this. And she still hasn't replied to my last text (although this sometimes happens and she gets back to me later).

Urgh, I don't know. I'm so nervous and unsure and worried. What if she doesn't actually want to do it? I know we are really close, and she trusts me more than anyone and we always get along really well. But then I remember she is way out of my league (looks and popularity-wise).

Sorry for the long post, I'm just feeling really worried and nervous and insecure right now. I've never asked a girl out before, let alone one so attractive and popular. I don't want to mess this up. Maybe I'm overanalysing this. I don't know. Now I don't know whether I should text her tomorrow asking if she is free then, or wait until Monday and remind her then (I will feel terrible if she has forgotten and didn't care though).

I know I'm rambling. Any advice or words will be really appreciated.

You did fine. Followed all the steps, did the right moves-hell it even sounds liek she likes u back. Viva et Ama!

Seemyheart
June 7th, 2014, 04:59 PM
You did great! Like you said, she'll text back later, because she said she was out of the area, so she probably is busy.
I hope everything turns out well! :)

BuryYourFlame
June 7th, 2014, 05:39 PM
Yeah, to put this bluntly...

You have nothing to worry about.

If she put the love hearts and stuff then it's pretty obvious she is in to you. Keep in mind though she did just break up with her boyfriend so some things might still be a bit raw, be careful.

TheRedViper
June 7th, 2014, 07:25 PM
Thanks for all the replies, everyone. I definitely feel more at ease now.

ETA: So it's now almost 24 hour since I asked her out and she said yes, and she still hasn't replied regarding when we should do it. I don't know whether to text her now and ask, or just wait until Monday and check, because I've got a public holiday on Monday so I'm off school, and she did say "maybe next week." I really don't want her to forget or stop caring about me asking her out, but at the same time I don't want to appear needy and desperate by texting her again. Any suggestions about what I should do?