Do gay jokes make you uncomfortable?

[CosmicNoodle]

Hi, I'm Joe.
I'm Bisexual...or gay biromantic, or straight homoromantic...its confusing...

Anyway, I've noticed that people making gay jokes makes me very uncomfortable, I don't know why bit they just do.
What about you, do they make you uncomfortable? Or are you fine with them?

[Hudor]

I feel irritated and a bit angry when the jokes are stereotypical and not in good taste, making gay people look stupid (which is often). I mean its after all their own preference whom they choose to love and it shouldn't be made an issue.

[CassnovA]

idc, jokes are ok aslong as they are not directed in a hurtful way

[CosmicNoodle]

I'm not sure, for instance, a Lt of my friends make the joke "that's just gay", as if its a derogatory term often it makes me angry

[Bull]

I'm not sure, for instance, a Lt of my friends make the joke "that's just gay", as if its a derogatory term often it makes me angry

Yeah, that kind of statement is way wrong in my thinking. I hear it a lot and recently asked a good friend who made such a statement why he thought a particular car was gay. He said he meant he did not like the car. So I asked if he didn't like a person he would say they were gay. He thought a bit and said he wouldn't because that would be a put down. Guess it is just an inane bunch of words.
Now a funny joke about people that is not intended as a put down is ok with me, but I do not like jokes that make fun of people of any kind.

[Dalcourt]

I'm not sure, for instance, a Lt of my friends make the joke "that's just gay", as if its a derogatory term often it makes me angry

A lot of people I know say that, too...personally I don't really care...and if they are not hurtful I laugh about gay jokes...it's just jokes, so I don't really mind.

[riverboy]

I'm not sure, for instance, a Lt of my friends make the joke "that's just gay", as if its a derogatory term often it makes me angry

I agree. I all so hear "that's so gay" and it's meant as an insult or a put down not a joke. I just don't like it..

[TooYoungToDie]

I'm bi as well.
I don't really feel uncomfortable. I just think people making those kind of jokes are extremely ignorant and uneducated. I usually give this person a annoyed look or I tell him to the face that I am bi if he doesn't know. They just say things like that to feel better about theirself, you shouldn't get effected too much by it.

[ksdnfkfr]

It really depends of the joke. I'm sure there's plenty of funny gay jokes written by gay comedians for instance.

'Neither that's gay' or 'that's retarded' (i'm neurologically disabled) bother me. but that's me.

[cunny7]

I am really uncomfortable with them. I am gay and think its a form of racism that should not be tolerated in this day in age.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think yes some - depends who is telling it and the circumstances.

[phuckphace]

I'm gay and they don't bother me at all. I say "that's gay" all the time.

[Gamma Male]

It honestly depends on whether or not the jokes actually funny. Most of them aren't, but on the rare occasion I actually hear a good gay joke, I'll laugh.

[Faolan]

Yes, they make me very uncomfortable. They are rarely ever unoffensive or amusing, and even though it's important to be able to be lighthearted about jokes, it's tough when they're so derogatory and against a group of people who are fighting for basic rights.

[Apollo.]

I'm gay and make gay jokes and stuff like that constantly, I call nearly everyone at work "slack jawed faggots" I hope they don't take offence. Me and my boyfriend always use things like "that's gay" or use it as an insult, I guess I am just used to it. Maybe I shouldn't but tbh if anyone is offended and complains I'm sure they would feel silly when I explain I'm gay.

[Blood]

A lot of people I know say that, too...personally I don't really care...and if they are not hurtful I laugh about gay jokes...it's just jokes, so I don't really mind.

This is pretty much how I feel about it.

[gothy]

Depends on the joke and the nature of the joke. If it was a straight joke id find it funny as well. any joke can be funny as long as it isnt offensive and is done in good nature. homophobic jokes are not funny however.

[sqishy]

If it's funny or not stereotypical, it's okay

[bob97]

I'm not sure, for instance, a Lt of my friends make the joke "that's just gay", as if its a derogatory term often it makes me angry

Yeah I don't like that either. I'm straight and it bugs me. I say it alot and call friends "faggot". Its more of a habit and I'm trying hard to stop. Its not a classy way to talk.

[ugaboy]

Not really. But then again, only 2-3 people know about that side of me IRL. But I try to not let any jokes bother me.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Yes. it bothers me A LOT when people do that.

[Melodic]

Depends on the joke. I get really upset when people make jokes offensive to another person.

[Cognizant]

short answer: nope.

[PinkFloyd]

If the jokes are stereotypical in a positive way then I'm fine with them.

[Stronger]

Depends on what is being said.

[Hypers]

i hate them. mainly because most of them are somewhat negative and very stereotypical.

[backjruton]

Where I am, I'm mostly the one making the jokes. Something on one of my favourite TV shows with the allure radar or something; I often (and yesterday) joke about having a gaydar and I said to my brother I suspect him because some of the minor signs. I'm 17, never had a boyfriend/girlfriend and he's the same at 21. And I know now that with both of us that hasn't been just because we can't... I couldn't until college, but no one thinks about the romantic/sexual attraction 'crap' and I didn't til I spoke to some people on here. The knowledge always makes things harder for me because it's not obvious for most people :lol: and everyone thinks I'm going out with my best friend but according to them I can't be because I told them I'm gay when... that would make me biromantic and no one would understand here :lol: (and I'm not the kind of person to point it out to someone because I'll always feel awkward... :whoops:) I even make fun of stereotypes sometimes. If they're not meaning to be offensive, it's OK, as I've had much more things said to piss me off than mocking my sexuality and why I like guys more than I like girls :whoops:

'Neither that's gay' or 'that's retarded' (i'm neurologically disabled) bother me. but that's me.

Like this, I think... :whoops:

[tom101]

No not at all. In fact I like to banter with most of my mates for being gay. A joke is a joke at the end of day, and as long as it funny and dose not have any malice behind it, then I do not see it as a problem.

[Jakie23]

As a gay person, they annoy me. You don't hear that many about straight people, so why have gays gotta be different??

[Ben_Frost]

They did, eventually you learn to just shrug it all off.

[Lovelife090994]

I ignore any jokes that aren't funny. Gay jokes are like sex jokes, tasteless.

[CharlieHorse]

If it's a joke to be a joke, then sure why not. People joke about everything, and it can be funny. But if it's a joke that is supposed to be hurtful, then it's just wrong.
I find myself getting upset when people throw around the word gay and fag as insults. I see this a lot in online video games. Their character gets killed and they exclaim something like "omg that was so gay".
It goes to show the person's intelligence. In no way does getting an unfortunate outcome in a little game relate to sexuality at all. I just don't like to live among idiots.

[Luminous]

If they are just jokes, I don't care. But when they get stereotypical and rude, I get very uncomfortable and offended.

[CosmicNoodle]

If it's a joke to be a joke, then sure why not. People joke about everything, and it can be funny. But if it's a joke that is supposed to be hurtful, then it's just wrong.
I find myself getting upset when people throw around the word gay and fag as insults. I see this a lot in online video games. Their character gets killed and they exclaim something like "omg that was so gay".
It goes to show the person's intelligence. In no way does getting an unfortunate outcome in a little game relate to sexuality at all. I just don't like to live among idiots.

Main reason I stoper playing COD, the phrase " Screw you faggot"

[dame]

The phrases "that's gay" or "wow what a fag" don't bother me much, I feel like they're used so much & I know that when certain people say it they don't mean to put a negative connotation on homosexuality. They're just phrases that have accepted by most of society, & it's kinda sad.

[LiamC]

I don't really mind, it shows my friends are comfortable enough with my sexuality to make jokes, I don't feel they should have to tiptoe around what they say when I'm in the conversation.

[kaydencorey]

It does not bother me at all, I have str8 friends that make gay jokes aimed at me often, we have a laugh, its not meant to hurt my feelings or offend at all.

[danny7]

Hi, I'm Joe.
I'm Bisexual...or gay biromantic, or straight homoromantic...its confusing...

Anyway, I've noticed that people making gay jokes makes me very uncomfortable, I don't know why bit they just do.
What about you, do they make you uncomfortable? Or are you fine with them?

It really really depends on the underlying tone and attitude of the joke. If the person really meant it in a hurtful way then yeah I get ticked off. But if it's for example my friends, we joke around sometime and it's no big deal. I have a gay best friend and sometimes we jokingly call each other "faggot". It's all about the underlying tone in that joke.

[Babs]

It can be really frustrating. I dont hear them often but when I do I try to let it roll off my back.

[CrazyPerson101]

Hi, I'm Joe.
I'm Bisexual...or gay biromantic, or straight homoromantic...its confusing...

Anyway, I've noticed that people making gay jokes makes me very uncomfortable, I don't know why bit they just do.
What about you, do they make you uncomfortable? Or are you fine with them?

Im fine with them , I guess it depends on the person and the situation in a way. How you look at something is/maybe different from what someone else my see it.

[TheBreadEnigma]

They do sometimes, but people who know i'm gay won't make them around me, which is noce

[chancebest]

It does annoy me a bit when it is used to mean something is bad. I don't get why people can't say "It's bad" instead of "that's gay"

[Atlan]

Nah everyone just need to chill, words are words don't worry 'bout them.

[CrazyPerson101]

Yes. it bothers me A LOT when people do that.


It depends on the joke , but most of the time , No not really

[pconnor2001]

Depends on the joke I guess.

[Stripling]

gay jokes usually make me uncomfortable because I feel like I have to be careful how I respond. I'm not out so I sort of have to laugh or smile at them as though its like "i'm straight so it's funny"

[MyPlague2014]

Nope

[Ethe14]

They don't make me uncomfortable for the most part. If it's used as an insult then I care but as a joke not really. On the rare occasion if it's funny I will laugh. Also someone mentioned stuff about online games and how lots of people will say "that's so gay" when their character dies. I usually just ignore those because really it shows that they take the game too seriously.

[CosmicNoodle]

Nah everyone just need to chill, words are words don't worry 'bout them.

Good point, but words can be very offensive to a lot of people. Your right though, sometimes people can be a little oversensitive. But still, words can really hurt.

[CrazyPerson101]

Good point, but words can be very offensive to a lot of people. Your right though, sometimes people can be a little oversensitive. But still, words can really hurt.


That is true, Words can hurt although some people are brought up saying things that don't seem bad but to other people , they sound bad. It really depends. See my cousin from California isn't as senstive to stuff her cousin says as I am .

[gig-guy]

I have one friend who knows I'm bi, he sometimes makes gay jokes and flashes a look at me. That's the only time I feel uncomfortable. I don't kind other people saying them.

[Atlan]

Good point, but words can be very offensive to a lot of people. Your right though, sometimes people can be a little oversensitive. But still, words can really hurt.

And I think those people should chill and not take them offensively

[lumiadots]

I feel irritated and a bit angry when the jokes are stereotypical and not in good taste, making gay people look stupid (which is often). I mean its after all their own preference whom they choose to love and it shouldn't be made an issue.

THIS RIGHT HERE. ^
otherwise i'm fine with it and don't really care, unless they are "stereotypical and not in good taste". tbh though if i'm just fucking around with my friends and they call me a homo or a panny it's all good.

[Hollywood]

I don't usually get offended by jokes, but when the person genuinely believes what they're saying and they aren't just messing around, that's when I get offended.

[blackpo]

It depends on who says it because there are times when I could care less, but if it's like a guy that I like and he says it and looks at me I feel like I need to get the hell out of there haha. The only other time is when it is truly offensive like the joke has a horrible undertone. I am not lying people use undertones that refer to the fact that they believe that hell is the only place we will go, that we aren't human so we shouldn't be treated as such, or STD as if that's what every gay man will end up having...
But other than stuff like that there are some that are legit funny that I can laugh at because I can see it in myself of a few of my friends.

[hipster101]

Honestly they really do I hate them, they offend me.

[NickCollins]

honestly it really pisses me off when people make gay joke but have no idea what it`s like
its not easy being gay and closeted, biting your toung, not sayingwhat you really think, dealing with the stress, ugh it really makes me mad

[phuckphace]

you guys are totes unaware that hearing straight guys crack fag jokes is mildly arousing in an ironic sort of way. js

[killer_queen]

I'm bi, and I joke around about it with my friends and to strangers to lighten the mood and make it seem more "normal." That being said, gay jokes don't make me uncomfortable, but people who are genuinely rude about being gay kind of piss me off. But if it's only joking, I'm okay with it because I personally use humor as a tool to make other people comfortable with my sexuality :)

[ComfortableInChaos]

Um... No, not really. Sometimes I just go along with it because I know it's not meant to hurt anyone (when certain people make them) and it's not like they're trying to attack anyone or anything. If it's someone saying "That's so gay" is when I get offended and feel uncomfortable.

[Plane And Simple]

It really depends of the joke. I'm sure there's plenty of funny gay jokes written by gay comedians for instance.

'Neither that's gay' or 'that's retarded' (i'm neurologically disabled) bother me. but that's me.

Same here, but that's retarded does bother me, as I hold a lot of respect for mentally disabled people and I don't tolerate that behaviour, not even in a joke.

[pyroar]

if they're not meant in a hurtful way then no

[Toxicity]

If it's something that's harmless, I'm okay with it, though people throwing around "gay" bugs me.

[Hideous]

I don't let derogatory terms get to me, I'll just laugh it off.

[ksdnfkfr]

Same here, but that's retarded does bother me, as I hold a lot of respect for mentally disabled people and I don't tolerate that behaviour, not even in a joke.

i think it's because of the fact that i've been around mentally disabled kids in school my whole life, it has a different effect on me. the term retarded went out of use for intellectually disabled a long time ago, so don't associate the term with them. But I understand why it's offensive to a lot of people.

[xXEverReadyXx]

Not really, no
It really just depends on how they are used and the situation, but most of the time I ignore them.