Rant about my relationship.. How I feel.. Advice would be great

[Rallo]

I really love her, I really do.
But sometimes... I mean, she's the only serious girlfriend I've ever had.. Sometimes, I just wonder what life would be like to meet new people?:mad:
I'm young; I'm 17. I've been with her 15months, I haven't met anyone.
Like, I don't even know what I'm missing, I've never met any other decent girls?

She's got me wrapped around her finger.. I feel trapped all the time, I can't tell anyone how I feel.. If I tell anyone how I feel, she has a go at me..

She's talking to other guys, meeting new people.. It's not fair, I never meet new people, she is.. I'm always putting her in front of me; always putting myself behind her..

The worst part though, I don't want to be like 30, me and her still together, and she leaves me for another guy. In the future, she doesn't want to get married to me, she really doesn't. It's seriously that simple, she doesn't see me that way.
Sure, we're really close, but she doesn't want anything of me... She just doesn't look at me like that.

Every time I try to bring this up with her, like once every few months, she starts getting angry at me and ignoring me, and making excuses why she can't talk about it for a bit. I feel guilty, I say sorry to her and that's it.. It just all blows over, all forgotten about for another few months.

That's the main point though, I don't want to be like 30, looking back like "why the fuck did I not just end it then", I know she doesn't see me that way..
I'm not going to be someones 'under the finger', I'm not going to be 30 like "shit, I should've said something.." I've got to just say it now.. But I don't know how to.


FYI... I have hardly any friends that are girls.. She won't let me, she won't let me even talk to girls.. Does she talk to guys still? Yep.
Any girl that's even remotely attractive, she'll ask me like "who's that?", I'll be like "friend from school..", "uhmhmm.. A 'friend' right..".
She'd get angry, and I would feel guilty.. :mad:

[Living For Love]

You shouldn't feel guilty, it's not your fault. I'm going to be honest with you: from what you wrote, it doesn't seem to me you're happy with that girl, and she doesn't seem very happy either. If you two are in a relationship just for the sake of it, then it's better to just end it. Think about this, and reconsider it with her.

[Microcosm]

You shouldn't feel guilty, it's not your fault. I'm going to be honest with you: from what you wrote, it doesn't seems to me you're happy with that girl, and she doesn't seem very happy either. If you two are in a relationship just for the sake of it, then it's better to just end it. Think about this, and reconsider it with her.

It probably is a good idea to just end it. Really think about it though. You could try to balance the waters by talking to other girls in front of her or something. I mean, don't cheat on her, but just test the waters so that she knows how you feel when she does this to you.

[plebble]

Dump her. Right now.
Dude I'm so sorry, but she's a bitch. Let me explain, I have had a relationship with a girl for 11 months and every single detail you said happened with me and her. I loved her so much, but I wondered what it would be like to meet new people. She always talked to boys, even her ex, I got jealous, but as soon as a girl I knew would post something on my facebook page she'd get angry at me even though I didn't do anything. If something didn't go her way she'd snap. She broke my heart... twice (I was stupid enough to get back together with her). We broke up in October 2012 and to this day she's still my stalker and I want nothing to do with her. I haven't spoken to her since June 2013 but every now and then I get a missed call from her.

Sorry for rabbiting on but even though that might not happen to you, that's just my experience from exactly the same things that you described. You're right, you are missing a lot, I met someone and I dated her for about 7 weeks until she ripped my heart out. Never mind. But it's about growing.

I'm sorry but you do need to break up with her, it seems like she's using you and you definitely love her more than she loves you. You have to let her go. She's just not the one for you and there's nothing wrong with that! Imagine a girl who doesn't mind you having other female friends and doesn't shout at you and doesn't talk to guys behind your back. That will happen.

[Rallo]

You shouldn't feel guilty, it's not your fault. I'm going to be honest with you: from what you wrote, it doesn't seem to me you're happy with that girl, and she doesn't seem very happy either. If you two are in a relationship just for the sake of it, then it's better to just end it. Think about this, and reconsider it with her.

It probably is a good idea to just end it. Really think about it though. You could try to balance the waters by talking to other girls in front of her or something. I mean, don't cheat on her, but just test the waters so that she knows how you feel when she does this to you.

Dump her. Right now.
Dude I'm so sorry, but she's a bitch. Let me explain, I have had a relationship with a girl for 11 months and every single detail you said happened with me and her. I loved her so much, but I wondered what it would be like to meet new people. She always talked to boys, even her ex, I got jealous, but as soon as a girl I knew would post something on my facebook page she'd get angry at me even though I didn't do anything. If something didn't go her way she'd snap. She broke my heart... twice (I was stupid enough to get back together with her). We broke up in October 2012 and to this day she's still my stalker and I want nothing to do with her. I haven't spoken to her since June 2013 but every now and then I get a missed call from her.

Sorry for rabbiting on but even though that might not happen to you, that's just my experience from exactly the same things that you described. You're right, you are missing a lot, I met someone and I dated her for about 7 weeks until she ripped my heart out. Never mind. But it's about growing.

I'm sorry but you do need to break up with her, it seems like she's using you and you definitely love her more than she loves you. You have to let her go. She's just not the one for you and there's nothing wrong with that! Imagine a girl who doesn't mind you having other female friends and doesn't shout at you and doesn't talk to guys behind your back. That will happen.

Thanks for the replies (especially the empathy in the last post, that really helped me see things in a better light). Ended up breaking it off, I'm regretting it slightly right now but I'm sticking to it this time. It's quite hard, because like I said in my original post, I do still love her.. It's quite a hard thing getting over someone you love, no matter of who ends it.
Right now it really feels like I will never find anyone else and I'm quite heartbroken, though I'm sure that's usual after things end with someone, so I'll be fine, hopefully..

[CrazyPerson101]

I really love her, I really do.
But sometimes... I mean, she's the only serious girlfriend I've ever had.. Sometimes, I just wonder what life would be like to meet new people?:mad:
I'm young; I'm 17. I've been with her 15months, I haven't met anyone.
Like, I don't even know what I'm missing, I've never met any other decent girls?

She's got me wrapped around her finger.. I feel trapped all the time, I can't tell anyone how I feel.. If I tell anyone how I feel, she has a go at me..

She's talking to other guys, meeting new people.. It's not fair, I never meet new people, she is.. I'm always putting her in front of me; always putting myself behind her..

The worst part though, I don't want to be like 30, me and her still together, and she leaves me for another guy. In the future, she doesn't want to get married to me, she really doesn't. It's seriously that simple, she doesn't see me that way.
Sure, we're really close, but she doesn't want anything of me... She just doesn't look at me like that.

Every time I try to bring this up with her, like once every few months, she starts getting angry at me and ignoring me, and making excuses why she can't talk about it for a bit. I feel guilty, I say sorry to her and that's it.. It just all blows over, all forgotten about for another few months.

That's the main point though, I don't want to be like 30, looking back like "why the fuck did I not just end it then", I know she doesn't see me that way..
I'm not going to be someones 'under the finger', I'm not going to be 30 like "shit, I should've said something.." I've got to just say it now.. But I don't know how to.


FYI... I have hardly any friends that are girls.. She won't let me, she won't let me even talk to girls.. Does she talk to guys still? Yep.
Any girl that's even remotely attractive, she'll ask me like "who's that?", I'll be like "friend from school..", "uhmhmm.. A 'friend' right..".
She'd get angry, and I would feel guilty.. :mad:


Well first of all, you shouldn't be sorry , you have nothing to be sorry about. It sounds like she's a jealous , clingy , person . You shouldn't have to put up with ( "FYI... I have hardly any friends that are girls.. She won't let me, she won't let me even talk to girls.. Does she talk to guys still? Yep.
Any girl that's even remotely attractive, she'll ask me like "who's that?", I'll be like "friend from school..", "uhmhmm.. A 'friend' right..".
She'd get angry, and I would feel guilty.. :mad:" )
This isn't a real relationship to tell you the truth , It sounds more like a dictatorship. If you suggest something and she doesn't like it or get her way, she throws a fit and you wind up feeling guilty, Her way goes and your opinion or way doesn't matter. Now I could be totally wrong but from what Info I've gotten , she doesn't sound like the person anyone would want to be with. Good luck dude

[Microcosm]

Thanks for the replies (especially the empathy in the last post, that really helped me see things in a better light). Ended up breaking it off, I'm regretting it slightly right now but I'm sticking to it this time. It's quite hard, because like I said in my original post, I do still love her.. It's quite a hard thing getting over someone you love, no matter of who ends it.
Right now it really feels like I will never find anyone else and I'm quite heartbroken, though I'm sure that's usual after things end with someone, so I'll be fine, hopefully..

I hope you get to feeling better. I'm glad I could help.

[plebble]

Thanks for the replies (especially the empathy in the last post, that really helped me see things in a better light). Ended up breaking it off, I'm regretting it slightly right now but I'm sticking to it this time. It's quite hard, because like I said in my original post, I do still love her.. It's quite a hard thing getting over someone you love, no matter of who ends it.
Right now it really feels like I will never find anyone else and I'm quite heartbroken, though I'm sure that's usual after things end with someone, so I'll be fine, hopefully..

I know how you feel, but honestly in a couple of months, if you avoid her and don't even speak to her, you'll be completely fine. You did the right thing. One day you will find someone far better than her and you will love again.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Yeah you need love but that love should make you happy as well.


Hope you find it.

[Body odah Man]

I really love her, I really do.
But sometimes... I mean, she's the only serious girlfriend I've ever had.. Sometimes, I just wonder what life would be like to meet new people?:mad:
I'm young; I'm 17. I've been with her 15months, I haven't met anyone.
Like, I don't even know what I'm missing, I've never met any other decent girls?

She's got me wrapped around her finger.. I feel trapped all the time, I can't tell anyone how I feel.. If I tell anyone how I feel, she has a go at me..

She's talking to other guys, meeting new people.. It's not fair, I never meet new people, she is.. I'm always putting her in front of me; always putting myself behind her..

The worst part though, I don't want to be like 30, me and her still together, and she leaves me for another guy. In the future, she doesn't want to get married to me, she really doesn't. It's seriously that simple, she doesn't see me that way.
Sure, we're really close, but she doesn't want anything of me... She just doesn't look at me like that.

Every time I try to bring this up with her, like once every few months, she starts getting angry at me and ignoring me, and making excuses why she can't talk about it for a bit. I feel guilty, I say sorry to her and that's it.. It just all blows over, all forgotten about for another few months.

That's the main point though, I don't want to be like 30, looking back like "why the fuck did I not just end it then", I know she doesn't see me that way..
I'm not going to be someones 'under the finger', I'm not going to be 30 like "shit, I should've said something.." I've got to just say it now.. But I don't know how to.


FYI... I have hardly any friends that are girls.. She won't let me, she won't let me even talk to girls.. Does she talk to guys still? Yep.
Any girl that's even remotely attractive, she'll ask me like "who's that?", I'll be like "friend from school..", "uhmhmm.. A 'friend' right..".
She'd get angry, and I would feel guilty.. :mad:Judging by the post it sounds like ur in quite a dominant relationship (ur girl is the dominant figure) and that's kinda bad. I think that this relationship sounds rlly negative and that u shuld try to break free of it, or at least manage to get her to stop ruling over your life. It'll be a lot better for you in the long run.

[CosmicNoodle]

Honestly, I think you should just bite the bullet and end it, she sounds like a complete bitch, no offense.
If she's making you unhappy, end it, simple as that